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What SP's Have To Endure

Cock Throppled

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Chatting with an SP today and it was quite eye-opening.

She enjoys the business and adores her regular customers, but the number of assholel-ike behaviour she told me about makes me wonder how any woman stays in the business.

In the three years she has been an SP she has been pranked, stalked, threatened, abused, raped and ripped off.

Every week she said she gets fake bookings, vulgar calls, no-shows and flagged ads.

She has had to change her name and number because of stalkers who won't leave her alone and have threatened and frightened her.

She was once raped by a client who finished the session by demanding his money back under threat of violence. A percentage of customers push boundaries by inserting fingers when she says no, being too rough or putting her in vulnerable positions. One guy wanted anal (which she doesn't do) and repeatedly attempted to change holes before she managed to stop the session and get him to leave by returning most of his fee, even though they had sex for an hour.

Her expenses were much more than she expected, notably when neighbours complained (even though she tried to be low key) and she was forced to move - twice.

She stressed how respectful most guys have been and she likes the company of men. Sometimes the sex is good, other times it is average and sometimes clumsily bad, but she likes giving pleasure and seeing men satisfied, likes the money and freedom to work when she feels like.

If paid sex wasn't so taboo and underground I wonder if SP's would have so many issues like this SP recounted?
 

girth-brooks

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I've talked to SPs about issues like these too, but nothing quite as serious as sexual assault. I'm sure many have faced these issues, whether they are the tedious ones or the ones that are more dangerous. Unfortunately, the internet can be a very deceiving place, and I think that despite many good clientele that are out there, it only takes a select few to create a tense or potentially dangerous situation. Sex is one of those things that people have their own principles about, but don't know the principles of others. More often than not, there is really no way of telling. Thanks for the post - be safe out there Perbites.
 

wilde

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The most common complaint I've heard is pooner threatening with ousting the SP to the building manager/strata council. That is really low as you are f@#ing with people's livelihood (not as bad as being raped but feeling unsafe in your residence is up there somewhere).
 

luvsdaty

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Yeah, in the time I've pooned I've heard girls stories. All I can say is Wow:eek: ,the crap that that they have to put up with and yet still enjoy what they do and manage to put a smile on my face. I have so much respect for any woman that does this job and still manages to make it a special encounter for her clients.:clap2:
 

diamondd5243

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No such thing as easy money. Not that I partake in such bad client behavior, but it comes with the territory when making significant coin.
 

Daytime Owl

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Its for that reason why ladies request certain information such as telephone number, references, name, handles, etc., from clients as part of the booking process. If anyone refuses to provide the requested information, it could be the first red flag and it's the ladies right always to not consider taking an appointment with any possible or disrespectful clients (safety and etiquette protocols, etc.). Safety is important.
 

Cock Throppled

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Its for that reason why ladies request certain information such as telephone number, references, name, handles, etc., from clients as part of the booking process. If anyone refuses to provide the requested information, it could be the first red flag and it's the ladies right always to not consider taking an appointment with any possible or disrespectful clients (safety and etiquette protocols, etc.). Safety is important.
Some SP's can do that, but most cannot.It simply isn't practical.

Not many clients are going to give their names or references, I think. I don't even understand references. They would only be applicable if the SP's knew each other and knew exactly what client they are talking about. That would seriously restrict the number of clients, which then only becomes financially viable if the SP is charging so much she only needs one client a week.

I'm a respectful client who pays what's asked, doesn't push boundaries and tips well, but I would never give my name or reference. I don't think that would be a red flag to most SP's.
 

grusse

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I've seen ads that say the lady has a "friend" on the premises to ensure safety. I'd think having mace nearby would be a good idea.
 

UhOh

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I can't even imagine what must be going through a girls mind as she opens the door to a complete stranger. And for practical purposes leaving herself almost defenseless to his mercy.
My only concern with this hobby is my health and I do everything practical to protect that. I don't feel I have to worry about being a victim of violence which I would think is a big concern of a working girl.
So far I've really liked the few girls I've seen and would hate to hear of them having a bad encounter. I don't know how you girls developed your screening process but do what you have to do to stay safe, it only takes one bad douchebag.
 

CLUB78

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I have more than friends at my place. :D I have protection. ;)

This Sunday we will be discussing options regarding safety procedures. SPs only from 9am to 1pm.
 
This business can be very isolating because your alone all the time without a lot of female interaction and sometimes even if you are the ladies you do know can't be trusted . This is my biggest beef with the sex trade it's hard to find the right kind of support . The times when I have told a client something because I was scared or sad about what another client did or said I always regretted it
My heart goes out to these ladies . They are very important and valuable and I'm so sorry they had to go through this .
Thank you guys for sharing

I don't find the clients like you described Missy but guys I meet all over the place in this city seem this way . It hurts my feelings and I get turned off .
 

PlayfulAlex

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I'm not going to lie, this is unique to Canada. I can't even say all of Canada, as I've only worked in BC. But I've found the time wasters to be a lot more, the assholes to be more assholeish, and just generally the attitude to be more of entitlement rather than community. It's sad, it wasn't always like that.
wtf????
You make a lot of culturally offensive comments in regards to Canadians or as you say British Colombians.
Are you passive aggressive?
I too have only worked in BC and have found that my visitors are not like that at all. In fact, the fellas that come see me are really wonderful! Do I get some stupid-is-as-stupid-says-and-does e-mails and text messages? Yes. But those guys never grace my doorstep! Just sayin...

(PS I have paid for my advertising so, just in case inquiring minds want to know, there seems to be some confusion about CC stuff on the Perb accounting side, stay tuned for red!)
 

miamiamia

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Really it's sad that guys play games
Like fake booking or the same guys call a sp over and over and ask the same qustions
Every time they call with no intent on booking with the sp.
Thank you for starting this topic.
 

Touch of Class

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I totally get this. I am fortunate that I haven't had any real problems but I have a receptionist that screens my calls and does my booking plus she lives with me so I have my bases covered. I agree with PlayfulAlex...those guys get headed off at the pass but I did have one slip threw recently and then just finished putting my name in the mud on this site all because I had rules that he didn't like. It sometimes makes me a little jaded and then I think "to hell with it, I have rules for a reason! Deal with it". Respect should be given no matter who your SP's is. She may be getting paid for what she does but she has a right to be safe and respected. Her body...her rules!

Hugs to all
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Thatotherguy

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I also had a SP recently post that she would spend all day online posting The Dirty link and other shit about me, in her efforts to make sure the nasty comments were at the top of the Google list when people searched, "Ms. Sarah, Chilliwack".
OK, after seeing your post I couldn't help it, I had to google that. So based on the google results I have to ask: do you really hike naked and harass grizzly bears? Because that's pretty bad-ass :eek:
 

twotip

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I can't even imagine what must be going through a girls mind as she opens the door to a complete stranger. And for practical purposes leaving herself almost defenseless to his mercy.
My only concern with this hobby is my health and I do everything practical to protect that. I don't feel I have to worry about being a victim of violence which I would think is a big concern of a working girl.
So far I've really liked the few girls I've seen and would hate to hear of them having a bad encounter. I don't know how you girls developed your screening process but do what you have to do to stay safe, it only takes one bad douchebag.
"Smile, smile....keep smiling......smile...."
 

ashkar

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I had more issues when I was doing outcall, one time I went to a client's house(I had met him before so I wasn't as nervous to meet) after we were done service I started to get dressed and he kept getting madder and madder with each piece of clothing I put on, he didn't want me to leave kept trying to get me to keep going when our session was over. Long story short he would't let me leave kept standing in front of the bedroom door and I was growing more and more scared. (I keep mace with me at all times, especially on outcalls) Even when I pulled it out and warned him over and over he kept coming at me to grab me, I moved away and warned again, finally I had to spray him and ran my butt outta there in bra and panties. I'm pretty sure he was really drunk because he was a perfect gentlemen the first time we met, or maybe he was more comfortable and decided to show his true colors OR maybe he was just a nut. lol
 

sevenofnine

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yeah,

Its tough.

I think the worst would be from a co-worker, you expect support understanding, but when they trash you and try to burn you, any way at work that is what pisses me off.

Its a tough job,,
It takes its toll, that is what my sp keeps telling me.

The money is good, especially if you make a career out of it and put the effort in to be high volume.

But there is a price they pay.
 

MissingOne

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So far my trip to the city has been fruitless, tons of flagged ads and the only booking I had was a no show. It's a shame because the only reason I leave my family and incur these expenses is so I can take care of them and prepare for Winter living in a rural community.
I hope your trip to the city pays off eventually. Being away from the family in order to earn money can be tiring and lonely. I'm away working a lot, but at least I know with confidence that I'll get paid, and how much. Good luck!
 
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