Fairly new to this scene and have been enjoying it so far.In a 20 year marriage,you know the story,menopause happens,sex stops and you try to keep the marriage going.I have always been very careful,but you wonder what would happen if you got busted.Would it be a blessing in disguise or disaster.Looking forward to your responses.
What happens when you get caught.
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It is you who can answer this question. If you feel guilty then don't do it. Every one have different belief. No one can give you true advise.
I say go for it and let the chips fall where they may. How do you plan on getting caught? Having the SP come to your place and leave a spent condom under the pillow?
Women that get chested have only themselves to blame. I don't believe that men want to have to look outside if their marriage to have their needs met, but obviously some women don't go out of their way to give their husbands everything they need, so they have to.
I suggest listening to a bunch of Savage Love podcasts by Dan Savage. There are lots of relationship possibilities on the spectrum between completely monogamous and cheating by going to SPs. There are also sometimes reasons why a relationship should be preserved even though one aspect of it (sex) is no longer mutually satisfying. Ideally, you'd talk this over with your wife (without admitting your past transgressions) and come up with a plan that works for both of you. If that isn't possible, then you may be able to self-justify going to SPs, in which case you'll want to be very careful.
I'm a huge fan of Savage Love advice. Being single myself, it makes things really easy, but basically honesty is always the best answer. I've had a girlfriend before who was open to the idea of hiring an escort for a threesome (we found a NSA friend instead lucky us!), but if you start out with dishonesty, it's hard to go back. Never been married but hopefully some wives out there could get past the sex with another and see it as sex with a NSA professional. Good way to pitch it anyhow...
nope, damned few actually - even if they aren't putting out themselves
they are rather dog-in-a-manger about it in reality... women are from venus, men are from mars
I personally loathe cheating of any kind , if you're not happy get a divorce. But if one does get a divorce just cause one is not "getting any" or getting very little is a pathetic and pitiful excuse. To answer your question if you do get caught your wife would most probably divorce you, and if she doesn't you better thank god and get on your hands and knees and beg her for forgiveness cause your wife would be a gem
i fully agree, once you admit to it you find out what vindictive and resentful really look like. Even if your partner was convinced they "knew" before you admitted it, there is a very high price you may be forced to pay for confessing to the person you wronged.
.. but also, i think there comes a point where you may wish to ask yourself "if a person is so good to me i don't want to lose them, but I don't want to do what they are asking of me, don't they deserve a chance at being with someone that will treat them the way they have treated me?"
i think a lot of cheating comes from a lack of conviction that where we are in life is where we should be.
All I can say is if you see SP's and you are married no matter what your reasoning in her mind you have been cheating.Given that you paid for sex makes it worse as that money should have been spent on the family instead of pussy.
That being said if you do get caught it will most likely lead to divorce and get ready to lose half of everything and if you have kids under 18 you get to lose half of everything and a shitload more.
If you want to cheat then do so if you can live with it but dont think you wont get caught eventually.All it takes is the tiniest thing to arouse suspicion and then the witch hunt is on.And a scorned woman who has whipped herself into a Jesus based moralistic rage over your underhanded infidelity will hold no punches whilst sytematically ripping you apart via the legal system and doing it with your money.
SR
That being said if you do get caught it will most likely lead to divorce and get ready to lose half of everything and if you have kids under 18 you get to lose half of everything and a shitload more.
If you want to cheat then do so if you can live with it but dont think you wont get caught eventually.All it takes is the tiniest thing to arouse suspicion and then the witch hunt is on.And a scorned woman who has whipped herself into a Jesus based moralistic rage over your underhanded infidelity will hold no punches whilst sytematically ripping you apart via the legal system and doing it with your money.
SR
I think at some point we are all going to get caught, no matter how careful you are or perfect, sooner or latter your going to slip up or something a total fluke will happen,
When I first started I thought good, my life is the shits any way, a divorce or lets get things settled once and for all. So in a sense I was daring, wanting to get caught,
As things progressed, my marriage got better, my life got better, to be honest I would hate to get caught now,
and you know something it would be easy for my wife to find out, I have slipped up, I have been seen with the women I see with my wife's best friend,
and guess what my wife kindly looks the other way,
she is not stupid, my wife, she knows we haven't had sex in ten years, her doing not mine, we have never discussed it, but I think she is ok as long as I make it home every night, and don't embarrass her,don't shame her,
we have an easy comfortable life, me and my wife, I believe she knows, but choses to ignore,
When I first started I thought good, my life is the shits any way, a divorce or lets get things settled once and for all. So in a sense I was daring, wanting to get caught,
As things progressed, my marriage got better, my life got better, to be honest I would hate to get caught now,
and you know something it would be easy for my wife to find out, I have slipped up, I have been seen with the women I see with my wife's best friend,
and guess what my wife kindly looks the other way,
she is not stupid, my wife, she knows we haven't had sex in ten years, her doing not mine, we have never discussed it, but I think she is ok as long as I make it home every night, and don't embarrass her,don't shame her,
we have an easy comfortable life, me and my wife, I believe she knows, but choses to ignore,
and why don't you just have a man put his balls in his wife's purse?
When you get married; men and women have certain "obligations" towards each other.
One of them is a satisfying sex life. If you can't provide it then I am going to leave or get it somewhere else.
You have to have that conversation with a woman before you marry her - so she knows - you're not going to put up with that shit.
OMG I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU 100%. But same goes for you guys! I've ended a lot of relationships because I didn't feel like I was getting enough sex. If you wake up in bed together and go to sleep in bed together you might as well have sex while you're in bed together. I think twice a day is entirely reasonable. I know this might sound awful, but I feel like if you expect to be a person sole provider of sexual pleasure then you shouldn't really be able to say no because people have needs that need to get met. Besides, saying you're "not in the mood" is BS. It's like when you think you're not hungry until someone puts a big juicy steak down in front of you. You might think you're not in the mood but 5 minutes into it, everything is feeling good and you realize that hey, I am "in the mood" after all....
