what got you interested in the hobby?

[torontolucky]

I am wondering if there were factors other than just sex and companionship that got you interested in this realm of experience?
Before moving to Vancouver, I read Sub Rosa by Amber Dawn, a magical realist account of sex work that showed me it was a complex cultural world with its own ceremonies and rituals. The sex was the main push, but this book contributed to me setting up my first appointment.

 

[Addison Cortez]

My best friend started at a rub n tug. She lied about it at first then started paying for my night out with her etc and I figured it out and told her I wanted in. Been hooked since...

 

[Big_Guy_Rye]

1) Just the mere experience and the taboo.

The thrill of doing something you shouldn't be doing, when you're told about all the negative attributes associated with the sex trade; then realizing half of what you hear is exaggerated, and not as bad as long as you follow the playground rules.

2) fighting against hypergamy.

Too much game-playing occurs between men and women in this modern era of dating and marriage. Being real, with and SP or not, you're still going to pay for her; might as well pay to bypass the hurdles....just being honest.

3) "....because 'she' won't do that 'thing' for you anymore."

Speaking for a friend of mine, you reach a certain point in marriage where the sex is quiet (if there at all), and although you still love her and still committed to her, you find that you miss that level of intimacy that had been lost in your own marriage. Even if you speak about it, trying to be open, it's usually the "well that's kids stuff, and we aren't kids anymore". So what do you do? Suffer blue-balls, "till death do you part"? Demand to open up the marriage, and hope it doesn't lead to divorce and alimony? Or just keep it quiet and discreet?

 

[torontolucky]

My best friend started at a rub n tug. She lied about it at first then started paying for my night out with her etc and I figured it out and told her I wanted in. Been hooked since...

That would be a good question too. How many knew someone in the industry before they participated in it as a provider or client? I think we'd be fooling ourselves if we thought we didn't know a sex worker in our social circles and personal lives.

 

[wetnose]

I've always like the honesty underlying the interaction. She knows what you want, you know what she wants....and you're done in an hour. If you like you can see her again. No hidden agendas, just sheer fun.

Plus I've learned that I'm no Henry Cavill so the only way to get touched is to pay for it.

 

[Chuck126]

Big_Guy_Rye Totally agree, love my wife to death and we will grow old together hopefully. The sex stopped 3 years ago, for her too painful and to dry, even with personal lube, (tried many). So she kinda shut down, no bbbj, hj etc. So as you say, do you just suffer blue balls, or do you sneak a piece of candy in once in a while to keep you sane and still committed to the one you love. Hard decision for sure. I may take the leap, so have been checking out reviews. Cheers Chuck . . . Looking for GFE, DFK, DATY, DATO, BBBJ, CIM, basically what I was used too. Any recommendations, not a big spender. $$ maybe . . .

 

[Addison Cortez]

That would be a good question too. How many knew someone in the industry before they participated in it as a provider or client? I think we'd be fooling ourselves if we thought we didn't know a sex worker in our social circles and personal lives.

to be completely honest I had wanted to for about a year or two before I found a safe way in.....I loved sex since I can't even publicly admit when

 

[Chuck126]

Kamivix, "I loved sex since I can't even publicly admit when". Why can't you, I started at 12. So the discussion is open. Maybe I will start a new thread, "What age were you when sex started to become an obsession". Cheers Ron, and no need to be ashamed if was at six with a barbie doll. We all start at some age. cumming of age, lol.

 

[Addison Cortez]

Kamivix, "I loved sex since I can't even publicly admit when". Why can't you, I started at 12. So the discussion is open. Maybe I will start a new thread, "What age were you when sex started to become an obsession". Cheers Ron, and no need to be ashamed if was at six with a barbie doll. We all start at some age. cumming of age, lol.

I have no problem discussing it in person

 

[Addison Cortez]

just to be clear, I am not ashamed. I am aware of predators, and the way they think...

 

[Man in Submission]

Just a genuine/passionate desire to worship and be dominated ever since I was a teenager ... that was suppressed, then for 3 years became attainable when I co-habitated with a lifestyle domme, but ultimately wasn't sustainable. It evolved into vanilla, didn't last, and now I pay to play - well.... or be played:whip:

 

[jamasianman]

I watched a movie called Young & Beautiful. Its a french film by a director I like, and I didn't fully expect it to go in the direction it did. But its kind of shows you how the industry is, a lot more realistically than other films. The whole work phone, the outcalls in hotel rooms, the hidden cash in the room, etc.

Then I discovered the subreddits and read up, then found perb, then leolist, backpage and craigslist and then took the plunge because life is short and I wanted to know what sex was all about.

 

[Abbott_]

It's just ~ this 'THING'

 

[luvsdaty]

No other motives other than being horny.

 

[Vpete]

Wanting to experience a few things without any strings attached. I’ve enjoyed all the ladies i’ve met and use this as a way of going about satisfying cravings when they come.

 

[Jon Snow]

From the female perspective: I had always had a fascination with the seedy parts of life, furtively flipping to the back pages of the Georgia Straight while on the bus to university. The ads there mesmerized me, thinking of all the possibilities which lay behind each phone number. I also combed personal ads looking for something, I'm not quite sure what. Then life got busy and I found myself in a very conservative path doing all the things that were expected of me. Until one day 25 years later I discovered "tantric" massage. Having had every flavour of massage possible (or so I thought), I had to give it a try. I booked a series of massages which got increasing more intimate (and I was already wired to be ok with that). When I asked what women who wanted "more" typically do, he said they could see a "service provider". That was the first time I'd heard that term, other than in reference to an internet company. I was baffled. What "service"? He explained, I listened, gobsmacked. He was a perfectly nice fellow. Educated, caring, compassionate and ethical, as were these "Service Providers" he knew...both women and men. I asked if he could introduce me to other people in this incredible, unseen world, which now didn't seem nearly as seedy as I thought it would be. The rest is history.

 

[badbadboy]

Commuting home from an office in Kits, I always took Seymour Street to check out the high track stroll. Traffic would be backed up coming off Granville St bridge and I didn't care.

I was mesmerized with all these hot chicks lined up every afternoon and evening. I never acted on it but the hook was in me from that time.

 

[johnsmit]

I had hoped to meet date some one some day , and had my crushes and obsessions on a few girls now at then. But nothing came of it.. I just was a very shy and awkward around women especially when i was attracted to them.

I all way had adult mag from the time i was 19 and a few be before. And when the video machine came out and porn was available in the video store I stated renting porn and recording off the taps.

After going through a long term illness ,it last a number of years, I had to rethink what was important to me.
I stwrted by going to figure draws droppins..it was something I had not done and as an artist I wanted to draw nudes. Nothing to do with sex.
I did that for a few years then started going to strip clubs ,thinking could get to know some of the dancers and do nude drawings.

I also got a computer in 2001 and stated going on line.
And saw escort adds,and video on line chat site, change my perspective on what was going on..a yr or two later I found perb but was not active.

I did get to know one girl at Montys ,a part time dancer that came in when ever she need to make money. She did massage so I got a few from her..and heard her story. We became friends for a few yr..She was in a relationship that seemed not that great. I guess I thought there was a chance for me lol.

I helped her out a bit and when she did leave the guy I was briefly in contact with her , but then made the mistake of saying some thing to the boy friend that i should not of
She cut all ties with me.

At that point I thought she was going to go in to escorting
And I was looking at escorts sites to see if i recognized her from a picture ,i had see her naked enough times as a dancer ,I fig I could make her out.
I looked for a month ,asked a few questions on perd about some of the girls.and then I thought I saw a pic that looked like her.
I got up the nerve to book a massage,and if it was her I would offer her help so she would not have to do escorting. I had just sold my truck so I had $13,000.

So I went to the appointment ,and it was not her. I started to get the message and then I changed it to full service.
It was about time I had real sex, I was 50.

And I went from there .A few weeks later I saw a different girl ,she was high, so I left after 1 hour of a 2 he appointment .never made a fuss about the money.
Then every 3 or so weeks i would see another . I saw 5 girls in a 3 month period the last one 5 times in 8 days.

Then I kind of got involved with one of them a few months after she left the business to do massage.

I was away from it for a yr and a half.
The relationship was a sham and i did not see it.
But the day it ended I went and saw an escort and continued to see them off and on for the next 12 yr.

And that first escort I saw after the failed relationship,is still one of my best friends.

I have been involved in a lot of this business and in some of the girls lives for the last 12 yrs .And don't regret any of it.

 

[maxic]

From butterfly prospective the freedom of no strings attached sex with young hot chicks simple as that

 

[sevenofnine]

porn for some unknown reason just fascinated me,

growing up girls seemed prudish, a tease if they liked me,
but kind of just a snobbish bitch if they didn't, don't look at me you creep,

but it fascinated me for the price of a beer, a girl will get naked and spread her legs.,
for some reason I was hooked,
she could hate my guts not give me the time of day, but buy a beer sit and watch the stage, and she will show me it all.

the psychology of it, wonders me and baffles me to this day,

something as simple as paper,
drop it on her coffee table. and she will spread her legs, suck my cock anything I pretty much want.
for a few sheets of paper or plastic now days dropped on her coffee table.

saw my sp yesterday as a matter of fact,
I have known her for awhile.
were close,

but it still baffles me,
what she will do for some paper,