What gets your Spidey senses tingling

[voodooking]

If you see a new SP that has not been reviewed before it can be a complete gamble and you have no clue if they are a high volume provider that needs to be avoided.

When a SP does not allow any time in between her appointments it is disgusting and it is definitely a health concern.

Double booking or stacking back to back appointments is a joke and I definitely won't see an SP that does this type of shit.

I just have to say EWWW to some of the mens replies here. Who the hell are you guys risking your safety for? Car dates? Other dudes in the hallways??

What gets me to say ew: dick pics, one-liner emails/texts, "I saw your ad what's your rate, babe?".... if you saw my ad and were even slightly literate you'd see my rate, or my recent personal favourite of the unsavoury "My Mom is asleep upstairs, we can do it in the basement" lol

 

[87112]

Ladies got a question. Why is asking if she has a tattoo a no no now sometimes?

 

[MissingOne]

Ad says "non-pro" or "just doing this temporarily to make ends meet".

I want to see a lady who is a pro, knows she's a pro, and has a professional attitude.

 

[Caramel]

yeah the whole hun/babe talk is a major red flag from either clients or SP

my other post disappeared but it was good advice for lots of other girls who book through text and email, if they are casual talking its almost always a WOT, the "hi", "hows it going", "how are you"...sounds nice right? random person is asking how you are doing, but its a slap in the face once you find out their real intention is to be a massive time waster.

 

[Caramel]

I'm young, good looking, and have lots of $$

or putting emphasis on the fact that they are young, athletic, good shape, very clean, etc.

 

[Claire Monet]

If you see a new SP that has not been reviewed before it can be a complete gamble and you have no clue if they are a high volume provider that needs to be avoided.

When a SP does not allow any time in between her appointments it is disgusting and it is definitely a health concern.

Double booking or stacking back to back appointments is a joke and I definitely won't see an SP that does this type of shit.

Understandable about the whole "going in blind" when TOFTT. Somebody's gotta take the plunge though, right? It's kinda like Chinese take-out, hit or miss.

Time between appointments is so crucial to me. As I'm low-volume to begin with it's not really an issue but I don't understand those who can book back-to-back successfully. With sheet changes, showers, cleaning up and decompressing/composing myself mentally and physically.... typically takes me at least 45min, preferably an hour. Plus the need to nourish oneself!

Another "ew" thing is the obvious haggling of rates or late night requests.

 

[asiansweetness]

Why is saying that you take care of yourself both physically and with grooming a red flag? Isn't that what you do want to hear? I mean uh, it should be a given but some people are just slobs right, so at least this person whoever it might be is putting it out there that they try to be presentable. I'm new to this hobby and contacting many ladies for the first time I try to be genuine and honest. I don't say I'm young and athletic but I often say that I do my best to care of myself and go to a gym. That at least portrays I care about my appearance is that a bad thing?

Enlighten me if my approach of honesty, maybe even TMI in my approaching some of the ladies is counter productive?

Allow me to take a shot at this.
1. Saying you try your best to take care of yourself sounds very different from saying "I'm young and athletic." The former is more or less objective, the latter translates to "I think highly of myself", especially when the statement comes unsolicited.
2. Perb and LL aren't dating websites. You're not going on a date.
3. "Honesty" is more like: "hey, just so you know, I have herpes. Are you willing to see me?" What difference does it make to an sp that you go to a gym?

 

[UhOh]

What difference does it make to an sp that you go to a gym?

What difference does it make if an SP is well traveled and educated? Yet some put such stuff in their ads.
I never visited an SP to discuss political science or foreign affairs.

Each side has the ability to choose who they want to see so each side may try to appeal to the other.
If its a young SP she may be more interested in seeing someone thats a closer physical match over seeing someone on her grandpa's bowling team.

 

[Riza]

I'm young, good looking, and have lots of $$

Oh yes, that one. Don't forget the I'm young, HUNG, good looking, and have lots of $$

FYI I will never call anyone Hun or Hunny or Baby, just doesn't seem right.

 

[PierreCoeur]

I guess I need to publicly apologize to all the beautiful women I have ever called sweetheart, gorgeous or beautiful.

I had no idea it was so offensive to be personable and friendly. Next time I will try. "Hey you, what's it going to cost me to get laid and what is that going to include?"

PS sorry for calling you babe as well. I never saw the movie to know it was about a piglet.

 

[UhOh]

I guess I need to publicly apologize to all the beautiful women I have ever called sweetheart, gorgeous or beautiful.

I had no idea it was so offensive to be personable and friendly. Next time I will try. "Hey you, what's it going to cost me to get laid and what is that going to include?"

PS sorry for calling you babe as well. I never saw the movie to know it was about a piglet.

There's a lot to be said for not beating around the bush, unless beating around the bush is what you're looking and paying for.

 

[HunkyBill]

There's a lot to be said for not beating around the bush, unless beating around the bush is what you're looking and paying for.

Keep in mind that one can't articulate common sense and logic to white knights.

 

[FreeG]

A SP asking for my handle on Perb and/or asking me to leave a review of her

This I don't mind - I'm not ashamed of anything I post on PERB and if an SP wishes to scan my posts to get a feel for who I am, feel free!

As for asking me to post a review, I've never been asked but if I was, I wouldn't mind - including the good, bad & ugly! A newer SP may simply want some good press to get business rolling.

 

[FreeG]

What difference does it make if an SP is well traveled and educated? Yet some put such stuff in their ads.
I never visited an SP to discuss political science or foreign affairs.

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Me neither, but I REALLY dig someone who's smart and can hold great conversation before/during/after a meeting. If I'm lucky enough for a MSOG event, there's going to be some down-time and it can be fun to connect on something legitimate and safe - traveling experiences are pretty safe to share, in my opinion.

Political stuff, maybe not so much - if I run into someone on the complete opposite political spectrum than me, that would probably be a big turnoff (ie, if I see a "Trump 2016" sticker on her door, I am SO cancelling before I knock! lol)

 

[helloim]

"yea uh huh, so when you coming baby?"

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Why is saying that you take care of yourself both physically and with grooming a red flag? Isn't that what you do want to hear? I mean uh, it should be a given but some people are just slobs right, so at least this person whoever it might be is putting it out there that they try to be presentable. I'm new to this hobby and contacting many ladies for the first time I try to be genuine and honest. I don't say I'm young and athletic but I often say that I do my best to care of myself and go to a gym. That at least portrays I care about my appearance is that a bad thing?

Enlighten me if my approach of honesty, maybe even TMI in my approaching some of the ladies is counter productive?

Here's my take on this. I appreciate the way you approached me via PM, and there was nothing inappropriate in the way you did so. Hygiene & good self-care SHOULD be a given. I think when we SPs get a 'spidey tingle' is not so much hearing that you take care of yourself; it's an attitude of entitlement from SOME consumers. There is a subculture of men who like to think that being a slave to the gym & in love with their own reflection entitles them to a lower rate. The 'oh baby when you see me, you won't even WANT to charge me' type...as if somehow all the monthly expenses I am working to cover will take care of themselves because a pretty boy with a magic penis shows up!

 

[Caramel]

I guess I need to publicly apologize to all the beautiful women I have ever called sweetheart, gorgeous or beautiful.

I had no idea it was so offensive to be personable and friendly. Next time I will try. "Hey you, what's it going to cost me to get laid and what is that going to include?"

PS sorry for calling you babe as well. I never saw the movie to know it was about a piglet.

no, that will also get you ignored and blacklisted. The trick is extremely simple, ask nicely, get straight to the point, make sure you read everything on her ad and don't ask her to confirm anything. Something like, Hi, are you available for a 1 hour appointment at 12:30? Where are you located? Ok I will text you when I'm close to get the address. Simple, and painless. If you're looking for a more high end experience with a dinner date, you probably need more correspondence + screening. But for the majority of SP's you find on leolist, that is sufficient enough.

 

[Caramel]

Here's my take on this. I appreciate the way you approached me via PM, and there was nothing inappropriate in the way you did so. Hygiene & good self-care SHOULD be a given. I think when we SPs get a 'spidey tingle' is not so much hearing that you take care of yourself; it's an attitude of entitlement from SOME consumers. There is a subculture of men who like to think that being a slave to the gym & in love with their own reflection entitles them to a lower rate. The 'oh baby when you see me, you won't even WANT to charge me' type...as if somehow all the monthly expenses I am working to cover will take care of themselves because a pretty boy with a magic penis shows up!

totally agreed, thats what I was getting at. These types of guys who emphasize their athleticism and cleanliness, are looking for BAREBACK, and a DISCOUNT because they are "good looking" and think the SP will ENJOY it and not need the money. These are ASSHOLES.

 

[westwoody]

Spurious Ads

Ads that say "well reviewed" but you search both boards by name and phone number and cannot find any reviews.

 

[HunkyBill]

no, that will also get you ignored and blacklisted. The trick is extremely simple, ask nicely, get straight to the point, make sure you read everything on her ad and don't ask her to confirm anything. Something like, Hi, are you available for a 1 hour appointment at 12:30? Where are you located? Ok I will text you when I'm close to get the address. Simple, and painless. If you're looking for a more high end experience with a dinner date, you probably need more correspondence + screening. But for the majority of SP's you find on leolist, that is sufficient enough.

I think the white knights would have a hard time following your recommendations :tickled_pink: