What do you think? Am I being paranoid or careful?

[Jethro Bodine]

I know I'm likely being a bit paranoid but I am always very careful about being discrete in my hobbying as well as not running afoul of the law. I know the basics of what is legal and illegal, such as communicating in public, about this hobby but not being an expert I thought I'd ask some advice.

I've been communicating by email with a lady who is contemplating getting into this profession. Long story short, she's an ex stripper (I've seen her pics and she's hot) who has run into some money problems (deadbeat ex, lost her job). She had an ad on EC for a couple of days and I contacted her. Since then she took it off while she contemplates her decision.

We've been emailing back and forth and she's been asking my advice about aspects of the profession and I've tried to be helpful when I can. Anyway she emailed me a few days ago and suggested we meet for a drink and "go from there."

Here's where I'm unsure/paranoid. I only do incall with SP's and she doesn't have place which means we'd have to meet at a bar/restaurant. While I'd love to meet her if only to chat and get to know each other, I don't want to be discussing anything that could be interpreted as "Communicating for the purposes of" in a public place and if this is somekind of LE sting end up in handcuffs. I know most of you reading this are probably rolling your eyes at the likelyhood of this being some kind of set up by LE. I agree but I've also got this little voice in the back of my head (the one on my shoulders) telling me to never let my guard down and end up busted. It wouldn't be the frist time LE has used the internet to set up some Johns.

I'd apprecaite any suggestions some of you might have with regards to what we could or not discuss. For example, if she asks questions about the profession, can I answer as long as we are speaking in general terms and not specifically referring to us hooking up? Can I give her general advice on things like rates, safety, booking proceedures, services, etc. without getting in trouble?

 

[badbadboy]

I don't think LE would go to that extent to bust one potential SP nor a client. After recent events at MP's I think they are after bigger game so to speak.

It sounds like she wants to do this on the down low and perhaps get one steady client going and possibly get some referrals, who knows.

Has she joined perb and done any of her own research?

 

[uncleg]

Have to agree with triple B. Taking you out is not worth the effort for LE, now if there was an age issue......that's another story we see played out on the News on a regular basis. I'd say you're being over cautious in this case.

 

[Puddlegurl]

What do you think? Am I being paranoid or careful?

No matter what trust your gut, if something feels off is it worth it ?

 

[jnewton]

I say go by your instincts and trust your intuition. I have met potential clients for coffee and it was just that coffee and small talk no talk of my services just to see if we connect. Then we go our seperate ways. It gives me more insight on them meeting them before body language and tone of voice facial expression tells alot and is good for the client too.
If you wish to discuss business maybe grab a coffee and go for a walk to discuss things A bit more private.

Angie as always has good advice. Her suggestions seem like a very good "middle road" between being overly cautious and perhaps foolhardy. Worst case, you have a cup o' joe and some conversation with someone you seem to get along with. Even if nothing else comes of it, who couldn't use another friend?

 

[plumbcrawl]

Jethro I guess I kind of disagree with the premise. Why not put her in contact with one of the wonderful ladies on these boards or even see if a local girl would meet her for a coffee. To me it would seem that she would gain more from a candid conversation with one of the fine ladies....

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Thanks for the opinions.
I agree that one would logically think and hope LE would have better things to do than entrap one John but I guess I'm overly cautious. It's just that I'm kind of well known. I have alot of friends and collegues because Winnipeg is a small city where, especially if you grew up here, everyone knows eveyone else by 2 degrees of separation. A solicitation arrest would have devastating results for me professionally and personally.
I think I'll meet her and just keep things simple until I feel more comfortable.

Plumbcrawl, I actually did suggest to her a few emails ago I could get her in touch with a couple of top providers who might be able to give her some helpful tips but she seemed uncertain about this. As well, I think her plan may be for us to meet and then if we hit it off and she is comfortable...Boom Chica Waa Waa .

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

I've actually met probably 3-4 ladies over the years, in which I was their first "paid" partner.

One girl use to text me and remind me that "I took her sex for money virginity." that was usually good for a laugh or two.

I believe this lady falls under the same category.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

Wouldn't LE just have you show up at the incall if they wanted to arrest you? Why would they even bother having you meet at a coffee shop? There's no need for it... Or am I missing something?

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

Briefly, LE doesn't give a sh*t about you!

LE wants to ensnare the greatest number of men they can with the largest net they can afford.

One need only look at city budgets these days to conclude that their nets aren't getting any larger. As long as there are no big marlins seated near you at your meet-n-greet, you don't have anything to worry about (beyond that which could happen to you when dining out with just about anybody)

 

[uncleg]

One other thing to remember here, you are being invited to meet her for drinks/coffee for a private conversation in a "public" place. This place is "public" only in that people are invited to the place to do business, the business of the location. It is not a public place such as the street or whatever. You have a certain expectation of privacy when you engage in a conversation in a restaurant, bar or wherever where you arranged to meet a person. Even if she was LE, a charge under these circumstances would be pretty difficult to lay, let alone make stick.