So my ATF has left the industry. It was abrupt. Slowly the ads became fewer and fewer and then they were gone. Messaged the number but no replies. No good-bye, no one last memorable meeting, just an emptiness that I struggle to comprehend. How do other members here deal with losing an ATF? Do you just move on and find another one? Is it that easy? I've just been feeling depressed for a few weeks now and haven't been feeling like pooning at all.
What Do You Do When Your ATF Retires?
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Three of my ATF have left the business abruptly in the past few years. I would end up with another atf shortly after getting back in the saddle it seems.
But still one haunts me because it appears that she is in the same town I live in and we cross paths often enough for me to have moment of positive memories. She says hello like a person I have met before, but we dont mention our past as I respect her.
I say to myself "no need to get depressed about something wonderful for a season in my life" "Just smile about the good memories as it ended better than any of my divorces or break up with SO's .. "
Take your time pondering over the lovely ladies that you see get good reviews and one will catch your eye.. or eyes..
The older I get, the more young women there are in the world! A world of beautiful flowers!
But still one haunts me because it appears that she is in the same town I live in and we cross paths often enough for me to have moment of positive memories. She says hello like a person I have met before, but we dont mention our past as I respect her.
I say to myself "no need to get depressed about something wonderful for a season in my life" "Just smile about the good memories as it ended better than any of my divorces or break up with SO's .. "
Take your time pondering over the lovely ladies that you see get good reviews and one will catch your eye.. or eyes..
The older I get, the more young women there are in the world! A world of beautiful flowers!
Sounds like you need to take a break from this hobby or find yourself a girlfriend. You're way too emotionally invested in this for it to be healthy.
You cry for a week, and after that, you find a new one. Too avoid any feelings, is denial.To acknowkedge having some feelings is healthy. Just don't stay too long in the process. Life is too short to live in misery.
Leave them be while they sort out their lives. Don't bombard them with emails or texts.
If they want to see you as a client while not not officially working, they will make contact.
If they want to see you as a client while not not officially working, they will make contact.
Reflect on the good times you've had together and be happy and supportive for her new chapter on life.
With so many sps around you should never ever be focusing on only one gee have several and rotate and if one decides to move on so be it you too 
. Well in your case might be simply just too late you too involved the best solution is to go and bang as many hot chicks possible so you will forget about your ATF and fast ....
. Well in your case might be simply just too late you too involved the best solution is to go and bang as many hot chicks possible so you will forget about your ATF and fast ....It's one thing to have feelings but you need to be emotionally mature enough to know that you're not exclusive with this person. Enjoy it for what it is, enjoy the moment because they're fleeting. Just don't get jealous and possessive about it.
Take a break from this if you need too, just don't obsess over something that's a fantasy.
Hope you get through this pardner.
Take a break from this if you need too, just don't obsess over something that's a fantasy.
Hope you get through this pardner.
It can be fun but also trying frustrating a new ATF. They don't do this forever and unless you marry her your not having her forever and heck that's not guaranteed. I know it sucks from your stand point but know that she may be in a happier place for her life and be happy for her.
This is just part of hobbying. SP's will have clients that abruptly "retire" as well. Lots of talent in the area to try out and find a new ATF. I know one day my current ATF will retire and if she does I'd wish her well, remember the good times and find another.
This is just part of hobbying. SP's will have clients that abruptly "retire" as well. Lots of talent in the area to try out and find a new ATF. I know one day my current ATF will retire and if she does I'd wish her well, remember the good times and find another.
It's always surprising, or shocking when someone you know, or are intimate with just disappears from your life without a goodbye, or warning.
...but it happens, and you just hope nothing bad occurred, and let it go. Three times I've experienced it.
One, I never ever heard from her again. The other two contacted me (one, after over a year) and although they are bth still out of the business, we've stayed in contact, and socialized, and remain friends.
...but it happens, and you just hope nothing bad occurred, and let it go. Three times I've experienced it.
One, I never ever heard from her again. The other two contacted me (one, after over a year) and although they are bth still out of the business, we've stayed in contact, and socialized, and remain friends.
Losing an ATF can feel as bad as a break up and in some ways its worse because it's not something you can outwardly greive. You can tell your buddies or family your girlfriend broke up with you but not your SP. One of my ATFs brought up something in the same vein, which I hadn't even thought of. She said that a number of her clients had died over the years. She'd started at around 20 and by 36 a lot of them had passed away. I guess that's going to happen a lot with the age difference between SPs and their customers.
We on the Island have dealt with this and Electra leaving us for the big smoke of Vancouver. There has been some reprieves for short Island visits or trips over to the mainland. First thoughts are kinda like cliches but true “you don’t know what you got til it’s gone”.
Timely though as she is on the island now, and about to leave for good or a long time she says!? I have already seen her twice in 16 hours, and plan again tomorrow morn! Those gravity defying HH cups, that amazing bbbj, those blue eyes looking at you...
I have done Skype sessions with her — clearly not a comparison to in person but always left happy!
Timely though as she is on the island now, and about to leave for good or a long time she says!? I have already seen her twice in 16 hours, and plan again tomorrow morn! Those gravity defying HH cups, that amazing bbbj, those blue eyes looking at you...
I have done Skype sessions with her — clearly not a comparison to in person but always left happy!
Probably best to try to avoid getting too emotionally attached to someone who is catering to your sexual needs while the meter is running.
If you want to cleanse your mind, count backwards from a large number in 7's. Seriously...the amount of focus it takes to do this will take your mind off whatever is troubling you at least temporarily.
Then, when you return to pooning, try to find a circle of ATFs instead of focusing all on one lady.
If you want to cleanse your mind, count backwards from a large number in 7's. Seriously...the amount of focus it takes to do this will take your mind off whatever is troubling you at least temporarily.
Then, when you return to pooning, try to find a circle of ATFs instead of focusing all on one lady.
Something to ponder...did you truly fall for her, or is it just a combination of lust and loneliness?
When you see a provider, you're typically only seeing a certain side of the person, not the whole person.
When you see a provider, you're typically only seeing a certain side of the person, not the whole person.
Either way its a loss because she was an amazing provider. Perhaps it was the service, price point, personality, or a combination of many factors, you label her an ATF if you really like them.
I say get back in the saddles slowly and try new ladies. Maybe you will find a new atf. Maybe you won't. But your atf is gone so move on.
I say get back in the saddles slowly and try new ladies. Maybe you will find a new atf. Maybe you won't. But your atf is gone so move on.
