what are you buying

[sevenofnine]

a lady recently told me guys aren't buying sex,
there buying power, company for lonliness, ego for insecurities, control, acceptance, love, etc
another lady told me once
girls sell emotions feelings as much as anything,
by the way this lady packs a gun,
i wonder if somebody wants a refund.


i tend to agree, if it was just about an orgasim, get yourself a playboy magazine its alot cheaper.

and personally i spent alot of money chasing somthing, and frankly i realized it was all an illusion.

i don't know acceptance maybe i was chasing.


im not quiting this hobby, but some how my whole philosphy of this hobby has changed,
with that small realization. and well your paying alot of money for an illusion.

so what are you buying

 

[sevenofnine]

You're talkin to the wrong ladies

its about power, its about lonliness, is about love, etc,


its a very powerful feeling,
putting money down on a ladies table and knowing she is yours for the next hour
knowing she doesn't even have to like you,
knowing that in a bar she might not even give you the time.
knowing that maybe she is out of your class.
or maybe she is twenty years younger then you,


when there all those beautiful women out there why do you have to be alone.
its about ego, she moans at all the right moments.
its about love because she says all the right words and wants me to come back and back and back,

an orgasim is just a fucking orgasim,


i tend to think there is a hell of alot more then just sex going on.

 

[Vienna]

sevenofnine, Sorry I know you're probably asking just the men on here for there answers as to "what they're buying?", but your thread caught my eye.

I don't know you and have never met you, but I'm curious to know if the girls that you've previously spent time with advertised something more or other than a good time?

The only reason I ask this is because there is no where that says, when you choose to visit the SP that you will get anything more than a great experience with her. I'm honestly not trying to be sarcastic or rude in any way possible, I wanna make that clear. But I just don't understand how all of a sudden you feel this way? I mean like I said, I don't know you but I'm sure you already knew that an experience with an SP is that of a period/moment of time in which you choose(can range 1hr, overnights, wknds, trips, etc) filled with stress free conversation, seduction, pleasure and erotic fantasy. The same with dancers at the stripclubs. They do almost the exact same thing. The lights are low, sexy music, seduction, erotic dance, stress free talk, drinks etc. Also for a certain time, as the club eventually has to close. lol

Nothing else is advertised other than experiences filled with the things I mentioned above. It's all a fantasy and it always has been.

 

[Vienna]

its about power, its about lonliness, is about love, etc,


its a very powerful feeling,
putting money down on a ladies table and knowing she is yours for the next hour
knowing she doesn't even have to like you,
knowing that in a bar she might not even give you the time.
knowing that maybe she is out of your class.
or maybe she is twenty years younger then you,


when there all those beautiful women out there why do you have to be alone.
its about ego, she moans at all the right moments.
its about love because she says all the right words and wants me to come back and back and back,

an orgasim is just a fucking orgasim,


i tend to think there is a hell of alot more then just sex going on.

Just so you know I have no intention of being rude about what you have to say. I read what you said and I can see what you're saying here. Even though I'm on the other end as the SP, I'm understanding you. I'm trying to put myself in your shoes since I don't have a penis. lol You know what I mean I hope!

It's not a bad thing to say that you feel maybe it's more than sex or whatever exactly it was you said. I don't really know for sure, but I can see how maybe after awhile thinking that way could result in frustration of some sort. I'm the SP again, so I'm really trying to picture this.

 

[sevenofnine]

an sp over coffe told me,

its not about sex,
her words, every guy wants somthing needs something and its not sex.

another lady, in chat told me pretty much the same thing.
its more about emotions the same thing,


the lady i have seen alot,
in our last session, i asked her, what am i getting out of this beside sex,

she had me pegged to a tea,

sex is part of it there is no doubt.
but sex i would think is always connected to something, love acceptance power, lonliness self worth,

and i would think since were paying for it, risking std's and law,
i would have to say there is alot more going on then just sex.

i would say for most guys,
its about power,
then i would say a close second lonliness romance,

me acceptance

 

[HB40]

but sex i would think is always connected to something, love acceptance power, lonliness self worth,

For Panther....it's all about the hugs and cuddles

Yeah, hugs and cuddles are nice, but nothing gives self worth like a good dickhead harness ride.

 

[Claptix]

For me, it really is different things at different times. If I spend $200 to $300 to just have someone come over an hour, it is about sex and nothing else.

With long term regulars or arrangements it is about companionship and sex. For instance, I definitely do not arrange a $2000 overnight appointment just for sex.

JC

 

[BigBlue]

of course....

...the cliche goes something like, "you're not paying for sex, you're paying her to leave"
(form a coffee circle and discuss amongst yourselves)

 

[InTheBum]

For Me...

For me, it's about being able to tell your buddies that you've banged over 100 women and lots of them were smoking hot! Then watching them spend tons of money on clothes, drinks, food, salon haircuts, etc..Meanwhile, I surf the web for my next target, while sipping a beer and scratching my balls!!!

On a lesser note, it's about fantasy, although that decreases over time...and being able to control a woman= no bullshit and headgames!

 

[blazejowski]

To be honest, I'm just in it for the sex, and the pussy...
I've had a lot of awesome times, and some great conversations, but let's face it, I'm only there to get laid, and that's it...

If I wanted companionship, I'd get a pet...

 

[blazejowski]

Some of us did that by the time we were 21 or 22 without paying

Some of us weren't that lucky...

So now we over compensate....

 

[InTheBum]

Some of us did that by the time we were 21 or 22 without paying

In your case, porn mags and wet dreams don't count...