the worst thing about this hobby,

[italian233]

Since I started this 3 years ago I've always had a self quota of taking part in this "hobby" 4 or 5 times a year. In the 3 years I've only repeated with 4 ladies and only 2 more than one repeat. I've already made 5 visits this year so may be done for the year. Perhaps I'll make one more visit this year all depends on whats going on.

Somebody said single guys that do this are just lazy finding a girlfriend. Perhaps they just don't want one or why get stuck on one person. Sometimes having friends male or female that you hang out without the intimate part is good enough for some.

 

[Officeguy]

If I said that loud in open, it would be taken as a derogatory comment, but I am sure you understand that I say that in most respectful way.

T8E

T8 in all your postings I have read I have never seen you be disrespectful to any sp......and I do know what you mean

 

[SkinnyJohn]

Having sex with women old enough to be my daughter and finding out that I'm not attracted to women my age or even a decade younger.

 

[Mr Quim]

I chose to do the later....and today it was the best thing I ever did...Tia fills every need I was missing plus a lot more....so its not an addiction with me but a choice....to me there is no worst thing about what I am doing....my wife and I are happier (no she does not know) and I am happier having a very good relationship with Tia.

O-G, I have some commonality with You, I think ?

And how You choose to persue your Life, is really none of my Business .

But, I'm also aware, that You're still relatively new to this Hobby ?

If I could offer a Suggestion, with the sincerest of thoughts ?
It would be to try some other Spices !

And It's really not about, "Variety is the Spice of Life" .

It's more about, putting all your Eggs in One Basket ?

The potential problem, I foresee for You, is that You're worshipping at the Temple of just one Goddess ?
The Temple of Tia, which I'm sure is fantastic !

What You might not recognize right Now, is that this Entertainment Industry, is in a continual state of Flux !

And One Day, that Temple will be Closed !
I can't predict when, as I don't have a Crystal Ball ?

But, the average Career, of a lot of magnificent Ladies in this Field is 2 Years or Less ?
Their Lives change, a lot of Times unexpectedly, and suddenly ?

That's just my Opinion, from past Experience, and not based on any Scientific facts .

I would hate to see a Guy get totally hung up on One Spice, only to face the Day, when that Spice is no longer available ?

Once again, just a Suggestion !

And my 2Cents !

Cheers

 

[Officeguy]

I have sent you pvt a bit of personal reasons but I guess the best comparison in real life for me is when my favourite restaurant closed several years ago I went out and found a new favourite one, and when that one closes I will again find another...but for now it is open and I am a customer I totally enjoy eating at a place because I know what the food is like and they over time get to know the way I like things cooked....but after dinner I hop back in my car and go home and cut the grass and take out the garbage....

 

[hankmoody]

I do have to be careful, particularly in the winter time when I'm very alone for weeks on end.
This place becomes more of a social outlet for me, .....it is those very lonely moments with the only other company is the wind, that I begin too look at some here as my contact with the outside world.
The reality is that this place is very real in some ways,with very genuine people in most cases.. but at the same time, providing fantasy based experiences.
I mean ..I can only talk to my horses and dogs so much.....and a girlfriend usually lasts only until December or so, when they get tired of the isolation, cold ,looking at a burning wood stove , and a man with leather hands.
I love this life......but it's awful hard on relationships.....Maybe someday I'll just retire on a beach someplace, and have a dark skinned goddess serve me a Margarita at ten A.M., smelling of coconut.....and with a trickle of suntan lotion still glistening between her ample breasts.....as she listens to some kids playing in the sand.

Yeah i hear ya.
I could never do the concrete jungle.
I'm not as isolated as you but when i chat with ladies about where i am i get lots of funny questions.
What do you do, if something breaks down? if someone try's to get in your house? if there's a blizzard? if you run out of food?
You have to be self sufficient darlin' gets some blank looks. lol
When Bob mentioned in another thread about locking doors, i thought to myself, if i started locking things around here i would have to try and find keys..

The beach will sound good come January.

 

[KingofClubs]

Paying for sex can become an addiction. It's wise to only spend what you can afford, just like gambling. If you find yourself repeatedly being unable to stick to your budget, that's a good sign it's becoming a problem.

 

[clu]

So, honest question: if you feel you're addicted and reach a point you hate yourself for it, wouldn't it solve itself? i.e. Wouldn't you be unable to perform? I've had (traditional) relationships where I wasn't "feeling it" anymore and it led to performance issues. Does the same not apply to SP encounters?

 

[jamasianman]

I think it does. I had a friend who had to go to a detention centre because he didn't serve in the military which was mandatory. He gained 25 pounds during his time there and tried to see a SP, but he couldn't get it up. Might have been the feeling fat or lack of confidence, he just couldn't perform like he used to with other foreign hottie SP's.

 

[islander1-1]

I must admit I too have 3. Only 3 addictions. Two everyone knows about. My smoking, and my love of an evening scotch or two after dinner and before bed. The third only you folks know about it. This is why I like this forum. It's a place to talk about our experiences, good or bad. I started in on this back in the 80s in Vancouver. On my way to work for a really early call 5am. Passed a nice lady on a street corner in the DTES. She smiled and waved and I waved back as I passed her. Cpl hours later I had a 2 hrbreak in my shift. Drove back and she was still there. She hopped in and told me what she was offering, asked if I had ever done this before... no. Well I will give you an even better price then, 25 bucks. We drove to a quiet street and parked, climbed into the back of the van and damn it was a really good BJ. I was back again for more. I have no idea why I did this but maybe it was cuz my wife at the time was insatiable and seeing other men, so had to keep up with her or get her back. A cpl years later we moved to a small community up north. It all stopped. Divorced again, and moved back to the coast. Found a new GF who was heavily into BDSM and swinging. Wow what a great group of folks we hooked up with here on VI. One encounter with a military navy cpl I experienced my first bj from both of them. Discovered I enjoyed it and even reciprocated. The affair with this lady lasted about a year, I was not onto the BDSM stuff she demanded. Met my current wife. A straight relationship. So currently happily married now for more than 15 yrs. bot now not getting any at home due to menopause. Willie still needs servicing even at my age. So I took the plunge again and glad I did. Yes it's addictive but like my other two addictions fully under control. Everything in moderation.

 

[toadsub]

i got into it in the BDSM way because of curiosity. i am addicted but found that i have to be a one Domme man at a time. i tried to quit once but only lasted a few months. Luckily it hasn't affected ny marriage yet. i have come close to fucking up though.

 

[giaebonyprincess]

Luckily it hasn't affected ny marriage yet. i have come close to fucking up though.

That doesn't sound good....

 

[toadsub]

That doesn't sound good....

No. i'm pretty sure Wifey thinks i am up to something. If She only knew the half of it! ��

 

[take8easy]

Paying for sex can become an addiction. It's wise to only spend what you can afford, just like gambling. If you find yourself repeatedly being unable to stick to your budget, that's a good sign it's becoming a problem.

The worst part of "paying for sex" is paying. Sex is the best part and paying is the worst.

So we are not addicted to 'paying', at least I am not, but the addiction is the thrill of meeting new women and having sex with them.