The root of all Fears...
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Sexual inadequacy for a man (in their heads) could be the root of all fears. Am I interpreting correctly?
Yes sexual inadigancies .. in there head would be a start.....
and the fears would manefest themselves .. in to social fears.
In some ways.. maybe all ways .. that was my problem i think .. and many others in apears.
I in part have all ways reslized this.. , being a virgin all the those years.. diffinetly.. made
me feel out of place with . the guys..even the girls..because what did i know... Only ehat i saw on porn.. and other interaction . in publice..
Where as most my fruends. and there were not many.. but thry were msrrried. and had kids..
as the yrs got a long . i was still single.. had had no relationships of any kind.. Just passing friendship here and tbere.. But my whole understanding of sex was. movies... porn and what i read..and my right or left hand..
Definetly lacking.. and enough to give me fears of sexual inadiguicies.. Which in ture. takes its toll on selfesteam. and confidence..and even the ability to have a purpose to succead some time..
Because real what does a person have to look forward too.. There no love .. not intamacy .. and no sex..othere then .fantasy.
I can understand.. the threads on why there are escorts.... or why porn .is feeding an addiction..
they are all one and the same.. .The porn addiction can only be cured by the relationship.. with sex... or the seeing escorts..
Of couse it was the solution for ... me... and i found .. myself sexually by seei g and knowing escorts
What got me think about this .. was .looking at how much i have delt with those social fears.. .. Of lonelyness.. rejection.. no selfesream..fear of people and groups...and the fear of approching women.. All of them i still have... and struggle to supress... .Where i have succeeded and over
come.. is when interacting with girl that are escorts.. or have been
or with guys that see escorts.. and in some ways are on par with my relation needs.. . Of course. i still what to get away.. and be a lone in some situations. but i cant say i feel sexually inadeguit.. i have experiances.. more then many people in relationships.. and marrage.
So no problems there... except.. most girl in the business.. got far more thrn me.. Which i dont mind... but still does make a differance.. Oh and of course .. they are in there 20s...30s and forties.. i am almost 60... hmmmmm .talk about . wanting to get rejected.. it is almost a given..So i definetly am not helping my self there.. even if i can have sex with them
Also .. i think with age.. and puting myself more into social situation.though the years. Like spending many night at the pub
i did not drink . but did learn to interact...
then there was going to a small church. for. a few years.. that helped me
to beable to speak in publice better.And there was... nude drawing drop ins. and the strip bar.. geting to know one of the dancers... and then.. escorts.. Of course.. all of it driven by sexual desiriers. that is just the reality.. That need tk have sex.for the first time.. and then prove i could have it when i wanted.. Now that part never worked out..
I can only have it when i pay for it.... but i can have friendship when i need it
That how i delt with my fears . and it is an on going battle
and the fears would manefest themselves .. in to social fears.
In some ways.. maybe all ways .. that was my problem i think .. and many others in apears.
I in part have all ways reslized this.. , being a virgin all the those years.. diffinetly.. made
me feel out of place with . the guys..even the girls..because what did i know... Only ehat i saw on porn.. and other interaction . in publice..
Where as most my fruends. and there were not many.. but thry were msrrried. and had kids..
as the yrs got a long . i was still single.. had had no relationships of any kind.. Just passing friendship here and tbere.. But my whole understanding of sex was. movies... porn and what i read..and my right or left hand..
Definetly lacking.. and enough to give me fears of sexual inadiguicies.. Which in ture. takes its toll on selfesteam. and confidence..and even the ability to have a purpose to succead some time..
Because real what does a person have to look forward too.. There no love .. not intamacy .. and no sex..othere then .fantasy.
I can understand.. the threads on why there are escorts.... or why porn .is feeding an addiction..
they are all one and the same.. .The porn addiction can only be cured by the relationship.. with sex... or the seeing escorts..
Of couse it was the solution for ... me... and i found .. myself sexually by seei g and knowing escorts
What got me think about this .. was .looking at how much i have delt with those social fears.. .. Of lonelyness.. rejection.. no selfesream..fear of people and groups...and the fear of approching women.. All of them i still have... and struggle to supress... .Where i have succeeded and over
come.. is when interacting with girl that are escorts.. or have been
or with guys that see escorts.. and in some ways are on par with my relation needs.. . Of course. i still what to get away.. and be a lone in some situations. but i cant say i feel sexually inadeguit.. i have experiances.. more then many people in relationships.. and marrage.
So no problems there... except.. most girl in the business.. got far more thrn me.. Which i dont mind... but still does make a differance.. Oh and of course .. they are in there 20s...30s and forties.. i am almost 60... hmmmmm .talk about . wanting to get rejected.. it is almost a given..So i definetly am not helping my self there.. even if i can have sex with them
Also .. i think with age.. and puting myself more into social situation.though the years. Like spending many night at the pub
i did not drink . but did learn to interact...
then there was going to a small church. for. a few years.. that helped me
to beable to speak in publice better.And there was... nude drawing drop ins. and the strip bar.. geting to know one of the dancers... and then.. escorts.. Of course.. all of it driven by sexual desiriers. that is just the reality.. That need tk have sex.for the first time.. and then prove i could have it when i wanted.. Now that part never worked out..
I can only have it when i pay for it.... but i can have friendship when i need it
That how i delt with my fears . and it is an on going battle
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