Texting: How much is to much?
- Thread starter Felina Rose
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What about Twitter? Do you view it the same as texting?
I view Twitter as completely different from texting. It's more of a place to chit chat about varying topics, but maybe people here use it for business interaction as well. Email's kind of a mixed bag, but I suppose the rules apply to email like they would for text if someone's new and trying to get in touch with someone. I suppose an excessive amount of DMing on Twitter would also be considered stepping over the line.
I view Twitter as completely different from texting. It's more of a place to chit chat about varying topics, but maybe people here use it for business interaction as well. Email's kind of a mixed bag, but I suppose the rules apply to email like they would for text if someone's new and trying to get in touch with someone. I suppose an excessive amount of DMing on Twitter would also be considered stepping over the line.
That's awful, I don't know how you guys manage it. I was lucky to be active when texting wasn't in, so if somebody wanted to book they just called.
I never heard this much bs like lately. So sad
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you nailed it! Yeah if you have a spam or block feature, any texts that just come in with a "hi" or "hey", move them to the spam list asap otherwise risk getting your time completely wasted and high blood pressure.If the back and forth texting goes on longer than the length of appointment they claim to be booking...huge red flag, ignore any further contact!! This is a generalization, occasionally there MAY be a good reason (but not often)..just use your common sense & instincts.
I find communication starting with just a "hi" or "hey" is about 98% just some lonely guy looking for free phone companionship. If you answer prepare for the back and forth to go on and on and on...FOREVER lol.
Most serious bookers get straight to the point and text communication completed with appointment booked or the inquiry for a potential future appointment is done within minutes.
Many times when there's long delays between texts, the same guy is texting other ladies and wasting their time as well. This has been confirmed to me...one of the benefits of sharing a workspace with other ladies
Trust your instinct. If you do this regularly...over time it will become stronger & stronger!!
I've noticed if you put all your info on your ad, such as rates, restrictions, services (just say something like "safe" or "gfe" so it doesn't break too many rules), and use an approx location on the leolist map even...and if anyone STILL asks about these things (I find confirming restrictions is not a red flag in this case) they are going to be a pain in the ass. It just shows they have even a tiny bit of respect for your time that they took their time to go over your ad, and if they are getting straight to the point it means they actually intend on showing up.
Also, I would avoid the ones who constantly use "babe, sexy, hun" when referring to you, instead of your name...unless its your regular client and you don't mind using pet names at that point, but not for a stranger ugh. I've noticed it means they have other intentions and want to butter you up so they can take advantage.
And if they are a little bit TOO desperate, and go hello? ????????????? ?????? over and over, if you don't respond, thats a red flag imo.
The only kinds of exchange that you should be doing are, time and duration of booking, location, instructions for meeting, and maybe a quick confirm on restriction/service. That is less than 5 text messages. Anything more, just be prepared to spend a lot of time getting the guy to come to your place and getting paid lmao.
Another tip is to look at the grammar, punctuation, and spelling of their messages too. If its perfect then its a good sign, if there are too many abbreviations and slang words (like "whats up?" "yo"), its could be a red flag...if you want to avoid east indian hagglers - they usually go something like: "hi, how r u, hru, how much charge, yes or no? can i come now" etc all in an east indian accent.
Also, if there is too much personality in their messages and too many compliments, and they aren't keeping it neutral - red flag.
Usually my text are short, as mentioned above you want to make sure you have the right person, then arrange the date. There are a few sp's that I text back & forth with on occasions some times I'm the instigator other times the sp. It could also be in her best interest, as I usually end up booking an appointment shortly there after.
Only one SP I have not had the pleasure yet, but maybe chatted a little to much was Riza about her Halloween party. Trying to find a place to stay & then trying to get her the donation I promised, for that I apologize Riza, one day when work doesn't interfere I'll be knocking. Cheers & have a great party
Only one SP I have not had the pleasure yet, but maybe chatted a little to much was Riza about her Halloween party. Trying to find a place to stay & then trying to get her the donation I promised, for that I apologize Riza, one day when work doesn't interfere I'll be knocking. Cheers & have a great party
No eye roll from this womanDamn, I can't help but be a little flirty and complimenting. I hope that doesn't earn me an eye-roll from the SPs I see; I promise it's all genuine and tasteful, unless an SP invites me to express my dirty side
How can anyone complain with flirtatious and complimenting texts! I would welcome and encourage your dirty side ,)I suspect a text or two back and forth can have the affect of letting the customer know a little bit about the person on the other side of the phone, as well as informing the provider a little bit about the proposed customer.
A few well worded texts back and forth can have a wonderful marketing affect…an attraction prior to the meeting.
A good thing.
Enhances the experience.
One must appreciate that immediate responses shouldn't be expected, particularly if we would consider texting during a session to be impolite. For customers, that equates to: relax. She's busy and has a life too. You are not the only person in her life.
One hopes to achieve that fine balance of timely, proper, polite, informative and brief. All at the same time.
A few well worded texts back and forth can have a wonderful marketing affect…an attraction prior to the meeting.
A good thing.
Enhances the experience.
One must appreciate that immediate responses shouldn't be expected, particularly if we would consider texting during a session to be impolite. For customers, that equates to: relax. She's busy and has a life too. You are not the only person in her life.
One hopes to achieve that fine balance of timely, proper, polite, informative and brief. All at the same time.
I totally get it, in a perfect world yes that would be great. Just be polite, period. There are a LOT of time wasters out there that ruin it for you good intended guys, you should look up the "bike thread" in the lounge here and you'll see what I mean
I should also add, also depends what type of SP, if you're speaking with one that charges $300-400 after you've sent her your screening info, handle, p411 etc stuff, I'd expect some custom tailored responses and genuine texts or emails too.
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Larry Storch
As many have said; any inquiries about personal/private life are unacceptable.Hello Gentlemen,
After receiving so much positive feedback from my last thread regarding 'newbies', I thought I would reach out to you gentlemen once again. This is concerning how much is to much, when contacting an SP via text. It can become frustrating and time consuming when some enquire for details regarding my personal private life. As gracious as I am, some do not respect personal boundaries, and when I do not reply "instantly" some become abrasive, manipulative and verbally abusive. :doh:
So, the question at hand, what is acceptable and respectful to both parties?
Felina xoxo
If anyone hasn't grasped the fact that they won't always receive an answer right away, they shouldn't be allowed to text in the first place.
Any abusive, rude or disrespectful behavior should earn the person a place on the blocked number list.
Your final text to them should be to inform them of that fact.
So many people forget that a cell phone is for OUR convenience. Not theirs.
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LADY-VIA
I'm pretty sure I can speak for most of us when I say that we would much prefer a little banter, flirtation, compliments, and dirty text talk over the dick pics lol. I've got one gentlemen he's terrible, but I get his humour and I think it's funny, however I get sporadically flooded with dick pics.Damn, I can't help but be a little flirty and complimenting. I hope that doesn't earn me an eye-roll from the SPs I see; I promise it's all genuine and tasteful, unless an SP invites me to express my dirty side
As for the wankers. Yes if they come across as needy in texts and they are taking up far too much time without a confirmed apoiinmrnt time, then more times than not, yes, they are wankers !!
Some men enjoy a little extra chit chat, as it helps them feel more comfortable about meeting up. I don't mind giving more time talking if needed and offer the time to call as well and Tslk, voice to voice.
No one has access to my phone but me
the one time I leave it on the coffee table (alone with mom) and go to the bathroom I got bombarded with dick pics, and a casual "honey, your phones been beeping, about s dozen big penis' kept flashing on the screen !" Her eyes bugged out of her head ! Lol
"Oh my friend mom, she's funny"
Texts always preferred over dick pics. You never know where we will be when we start receiving them !!
Text conversations back and forth can be cumbersome, especially since a lot of providers use cheaper "throw away" phones that take longer to text on than more modern iPhones and such (my work phone's "L" hasn't been working properly for example lol) I also dread the one-liner impersonal texts like "Hey" or "Available?".... I clearly state in my ads that I'd like to know a bit about the person I could be spending intimate time with. One-liners rarely get a reply from me unless I'm bored.
I'm baffled by how often I read about reports of sp's texting during a session. But it can work both ways.... I once had a guy stay glued to his phone nearly the entire date!! I was giving him a bj only to look up and see him on his phone!! My first thought was that he could be taking pictures... turned out he was emailing about some stuff he was selling on Craigslist. So disrespectful. I had to ask him 3 times to put it down. I even got up, went to the kitchen and had a chocolate while he was attending to his business. Ugh.
As for asking about personal info-- just no. There are a handful of clients (past and present) who have earned my trust enough for me to tell them my real name and other info I feel comfortable sharing. But an impersonal text from a complete stranger asking for personal info? Absolutely not.
I'm baffled by how often I read about reports of sp's texting during a session. But it can work both ways.... I once had a guy stay glued to his phone nearly the entire date!! I was giving him a bj only to look up and see him on his phone!! My first thought was that he could be taking pictures... turned out he was emailing about some stuff he was selling on Craigslist. So disrespectful. I had to ask him 3 times to put it down. I even got up, went to the kitchen and had a chocolate while he was attending to his business. Ugh.
As for asking about personal info-- just no. There are a handful of clients (past and present) who have earned my trust enough for me to tell them my real name and other info I feel comfortable sharing. But an impersonal text from a complete stranger asking for personal info? Absolutely not.
Lol on the dick pics, LV. Luckily my work phone is a "throw away" and I can't receive pictures.... The emailed ones, though, argh... No thanks.
Once had a guy who sent a pic of "his" enormous cock, booked with me (because I love big cocks I quickly accepted), then cancelled half an hour before our appointed meeting time. Lol. 99.9% sure he was just a time waster, but if it had turned out to be real I would have written a glowing review while basking in the afterglow!!
Once had a guy who sent a pic of "his" enormous cock, booked with me (because I love big cocks I quickly accepted), then cancelled half an hour before our appointed meeting time. Lol. 99.9% sure he was just a time waster, but if it had turned out to be real I would have written a glowing review while basking in the afterglow!!
That's why I decided to PIN my phone. Yes Miss Tanya, you are quite right about deleteing them but some I get from SP's are quite humerous & or Very descriptive so I tend to hold on to them. My SO & I kind of have an unwritten rule, we do not pick up each others phones, ipads or go through purse / wallet. If my SO asks me to get something out of her purse, I bring her the purse & she gets it out for me. You could get lost in some of those things
Last summer while camping I got a text from an SP who sent me a picture, of course my nosy older sister picked up my phone and asked who's >>>>>> I almost had a heart attack, but then my sister says, it looks like someones dinner.
Lesson learned, I know keep my phone no where near my sister & usually keep it with me even in the office. You never know ;-)
I do agree to that gentlemanghost, about the f..... Comment but it's normal texts that I get from these SP's
I do get x rated replys but only when I've inquired about making a date. Then they know I have my phone handy & usually text back ASATC
But yeah short of turning it off it can be dicey ��
I do get x rated replys but only when I've inquired about making a date. Then they know I have my phone handy & usually text back ASATC
But yeah short of turning it off it can be dicey ��
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LADY-VIA
Out of all the days we have, I too enjoy "big cock day"
I had a guy doing his emails once too. I wasn't sure what to do ? Suck harder ? Throw my thumb in his but or what ? He was zoned out so I stopped as well, and waited until he was done.
...though if the wife or SO is a co-conspirator in the communication it could be a very different kind of slippery slope.
I enjoy a little sexting with my regulars. It can be fun and I like it that they are thinking about me. However I only engage if I'm in the mood. I also have no problem letting them know if I have to go & can't chat. Its flirty and friendly. (Quite different from the guy who never books & just texts).
hah in regards to dick photos, I set my phone to first click the "download" button before any media shows up...so all I end up getting is a text that says "no subject" with a download button, and in the spam box it goes! My spam box probably has thousands of numbers in there by now I don't even save, just move them in there right away.
I don't even save, just move them in there right away.