talking to sp on msn

[JohnTeal]

Just was wondering about peoples views on talking with sp's via msn before setting up a visit. Is this common place? What type of discussions do you go into?

I see this as a slippery slope in that the anonymity that is usually surrounding a visit goes out the window if you have been talking for a while prior. Also what if you talked to an sp for quite a while then decided not to visit, isn't it unfair to have wasted that much of her time?

Share your thoughts.

 

[Noob888]

Its no different than chatting by email or cybering online.

 

[cutesexymya]

sometimes i enjoy to chat with a new friend on msn before meeting just to get to know what you are looking for. I am not looking for personal information but am only looking to see if we are a suitable match. I then know what your fantasys are, or if a gentleman is particularly shy to put him at ease and make him feel more comfortable.

 

[Imjustaguy69696]

It definitely helps with the comfort level. I met Alyson and Sugar from Temptations this way and it was a great ice breaker. The initial visit nerves are all gone when you go in. I highly recommend it. It also helps in the middle of the afternoon when you're feelin the need, then you know if they're around and if the have any time for you.

 

[Umberto Tozzi]

I agree

It builds up a little 'trust' if you can call it that. My first experience with an independant was in Las Vegas and we chatted back and forth for about two months before I even got there. I was so nervous going to the motel I thought I would throw up. To make matters more interesting, as I was waiting in front of the motel for the call to come in, a police cruiser showed up and an officer went into the lobby...

But yeah, you kind of get a feel for the person by the way they respond via chat and mail. I found it helpful.

 

[jack13]

All the previous points are well taken but a very popular well reviewed SP (since retired )told me that she often had others pose as her online because she was too busy to always do it herself. Just something to consider.

 

[CalgaryJenn]

I have a number of gents and SP's on my messenger. However, nothing is ever set up via messenger. Phone only!
What do we talk about? Well, when I talk to guys, we usually talk about local events, joke around, weather, cars, bikes, and sometimes we talk about posts that are made and our opinions on the posts. When I add somebody to messenger, and they ask to go on cam, I block and delete them instantly.
When I talk to other girls, we discuss things like how we keep a condom on a cock that is as thick as an HB pencil. I usually use a staple gun or hot glue gun.

 

[kidstone]

I still haven't figured out how to do chat with msn, so I think there's no danger of me doing it with an SP.

I usually send a few emails. The first email says I'm interested and what times. The second email I say that I like this and that. I don't say I want this and that or I expect this and that. I just let the SP know my interests so that she can check that with her menu. Once that's established, I figure we can work out the details when we meet. After all when we meet I might be more in the mood for this rather than that, and I don't want to commit to just one act.

I also don't feel comfortable chatting through emails with someone I've never met. And if the SP (or any other contact I haven't met) starts getting chatty right away, I start to freak a little. There's no reason for the other person to feel a sudden familiarity and friendship with me, so they must be faking it. Granted we all fake it, but it seems so disingenuous that it puts me off.

 

[edmontonsubbie]

I have a number of gents and SP's on my messenger. However, nothing is ever set up via messenger. Phone only!
What do we talk about? Well, when I talk to guys, we usually talk about local events, joke around, weather, cars, bikes, and sometimes we talk about posts that are made and our opinions on the posts. When I add somebody to messenger, and they ask to go on cam, I block and delete them instantly.
When I talk to other girls, we discuss things like how we keep a condom on a cock that is as thick as an HB pencil. I usually use a staple gun or hot glue gun.

no wonder it hurt....and here all along...i thought it was just me.

I still haven't figured out how to do chat with msn, so I think there's no danger of me doing it with an SP.

I usually send a few emails. The first email says I'm interested and what times. The second email I say that I like this and that. I don't say I want this and that or I expect this and that. I just let the SP know my interests so that she can check that with her menu. Once that's established, I figure we can work out the details when we meet. After all when we meet I might be more in the mood for this rather than that, and I don't want to commit to just one act.

I also don't feel comfortable chatting through emails with someone I've never met. And if the SP (or any other contact I haven't met) starts getting chatty right away, I start to freak a little. There's no reason for the other person to feel a sudden familiarity and friendship with me, so they must be faking it. Granted we all fake it, but it seems so disingenuous that it puts me off.

eloquently put kidstone.....i can say little else.

eddie.