Spitzer Sex scandal - that dude is not having a good week

rodholder3

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I am sure most if you are familiar with this case. I was watching the news the other day when Anderson Cooper was all over the story, and my wife is sitting there saying how "sick" the guy is for doing what he did ..... and how "being with escorts is even worse than having an affair...." talk about an uncomfortable few minutes - I finally made an excuse to change the channel. But anyway, her comment blew me away.. I would have thought if you got caught cheating, you might have a better chance of surviving it "in tact" if it was with a woman where there was no emotional attachment - in my case, apparently not!

Any thoughts on this guys (and ladies) ?

Link to story here if you are not aware of it:
http://www.iht.com/articles/2008/03/13/america/13spitzer.php
 

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My thought is that your pooning will eventually catch up to you, and your wife will find out, so take some notes.
 

rodholder3

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You should stop seeing SP's right away ands start having an affair with her hot best friend. Problem solved. ;)
That's what I'm thinking, but there might be some "loyalty issues there... hhmmm

Fort MacGuy said:
My first thought was that she suspects something and was trying to send you a message. Did it work?
Maybe, but I doubt it .... but it did get to me, perhaps that's why I'm seeing a "non-pro" instead today :cool:
 
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Miss*Bijou

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What do you mean?

'non-pro'... as in: non renumerated
or 'non-pro'... as in: 'doesn't do this often' or 'first time doing this', but donation expected?

If it's the last one, I'm not sure your wife would see any distinction between paying for sex with a 'pro' or a 'non-pro'...




he says: But honey, you said he was sick for paying to sleep with 'escorts'... Sure I paid her, but it was her 'first time' doing this and she's a 'non-pro'. That's not the same thing!

she says: Oh! I'm sorry dear, I misunderstood.. If that's the case, I'm so sorry for jumping to conclusions this fast. Let me give you a BJ to make up for assuming that my husband paying a 'non-pro' for sex is the same as paying an escort. Silly me, it's a lot better. I promise not to make that mistake again.... now take your pants off!
 

rodholder3

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non-pro versus pro

Hey MissB - I meant the 2nd one ... you're right, its not much different.. ... baby steps.

I enjoyed your little script there, if only it was like that!!
 
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Understanding Wife

I asked my wife what her thoughts would be on me being with another woman. From the beginning she didn't like the idea at all. But for a few different reasons she reluctantly gave me premission to do it one time. We agreed that it had to be something I paid for so there would be no emotional involement. I have used up the "one time" so now if I want to do it again ( which I do ) i will have to ask again. I knew it would have to be something I paid for cause I couldn't get any for free.
 

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Feel sorry for him

Spitzer is propbably not the kind of guy I would agree with politicaly but I feel sorry for him. I know what it is like to be tempted by beautiful women.
 

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I asked my wife what her thoughts would be on me being with another woman. From the beginning she didn't like the idea at all. But for a few different reasons she reluctantly gave me premission to do it one time. We agreed that it had to be something I paid for so there would be no emotional involement. I have used up the "one time" so now if I want to do it again ( which I do ) i will have to ask again. I knew it would have to be something I paid for cause I couldn't get any for free.
fuck steel, you got balls of titanium. I get a smack across the back of the head every time I look at another woman.
 

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erious note

i asked my wife basically the same question. she felt she could forgive an affair if it ended in the early stages. she felt it would have been an unplanned, spur of the moment thing that continued on.

the idea of an escort seemed to be more serious and less forgiveable. why i asked. and her reply was ...sex with an escort... you have to plan it, look for it, go out of your way to have it..it is so much more deliberate on my part and therefore less forgivable on her part.

all i can say is if she ever finds out what i have been doing deliberately, so often, i am f**ked in so many other ways.
 
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Mick420

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there is a saying...

Its easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.

once your significant other has said no to the escorts, and if they do find out about it, you're gonna be even more fucked, because dont think for a second that they will forget about said conversation. I guess each woman would react differently, but i'd imagine they would be less likely to forgive you, and more likely to be very hurt, especially considering you knew her feelings on it.
 

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Make sure she knows you like to have a drink once in a while with the boys.

If she ever catches you in a compromising position, blame it on the alcohol.
Affected your judgement. Couldn't say no to a hot chick after a few drinks.
 

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I enjoyed your little script there, if only it was like that!!

lol
If only....... but then I'd be out of a job. ;)



the idea of an escort seemed to be more serious and less forgiveable. why i asked. and her reply was ...sex with an escort... you have to plan it, look for it, go out of your way to have it..it is so much more deliberate on my part and therefore less forgivable on her part.

That's interesting. I've never thought of it that way.
I do understand the reasoning, but I'm not sure how that makes it really worse than willfully continuing something much more personal and emotional. Even if not planned at first and stopped in its early stages.. To me, it still seems like there's a whole other added issue when you take the money exchange out of the equation. But that's just me, and I'm not married! Thank god. :cool:


The more I think about it, the more just I know the whole monogamy thing is such delusional crap. Maybe it genuinely works for (very) few, but if most people were honest about it - not only with others, but also with themselves - it's so unrealistic to think it works. Whether there's planning before doing or it's spur of the moment, or even if there's never any doing, the fact remains that the thoughts, needs and urges ARE there. So is it only a matter of how well one can suppress, ignore, hide them and pretend they're not there? That is supposed to mean monogamy works? Is that the expectation? :eek: :confused:



Make sure she knows you like to have a drink once in a while with the boys.

If she ever catches you in a compromising position, blame it on the alcohol.
Affected your judgement. Couldn't say no to a hot chick after a few drinks.

Hmm. Ya.. Suuuuure, that'll work. :rolleyes: OK, one more time...



he says: But honey, I was out with the boys and was soooo wasted I couldn't think straight. And I am telling you, I was pretty much attacked! She wouldn't take no for an answer. Hell, I was so drunk I think she took advantage of me in my one moment of weakness.

she says: Oh! I'm sorry dear, that's really terrible. That dirty whore! How could she force herself onto you like this. And you've been so upset you haven't been able to ever talk about it until today. I'm so sorry.. Let me give you a BJ to make you feel better, I promise to be gentle. Don't worry, we aren't all depraved, horny and preying on wasted guys at the bar.... now take your pants off!




Did you use that one when you were 18? Wait. Are you 18?
Yup, blame it on alcohol. I'm sure it will go over real well. ;) If anyone even had the balls to give me that lame excuse, they may not live to regret it.. and that's all I'm going to say about it.. :D
 

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escort versus affair

...sex with an escort... you have to plan it, look for it, go out of your way to have it..it is so much more deliberate on my part and therefore less forgivable on her part.
I find it hard to understand this because I have gone the affair route a few times as well, and I found it way to stressful trying to balance my time and I had a ton of guilt because of the emotional attachment that started to fester in each case. Therefore I decided to go the SP route, and I have very little guilt (a bit on the money side), and there are no complications or stress planning my play time (an hour here, an hour there - easy)

I discussed this topic with a FWB I have, and she felt that for a woman its worse if you are caught with an escort because it makes them feel they're not good enough. The escort is Sexier, and better at sex than she is... so how could you ever go back to being happy with your wife. I can relate more to that reasoning.

There were a couple of super funny skits on SNL this weekend on Spitzer, here is a link to one if you feel like a chuckle (you have to sit through a 30 sec. commercial first unfortunately) http://www.nbc.com/Saturday_Night_Live/video/play.shtml?mea=229475
 
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My thought is that your pooning will eventually catch up to you, and your wife will find out, so take some notes.
Psychologically, that is what married guys who poon usually want.

It is much easier to get tossed out of a marriage than it is to motivate yourself to get up and make changes in your life.
 
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