SP’s and agencies asking for Perb handle

[HankTomas]

For me, if I ask the handle and your alter-ego is what comes up, I'm definitely not seeing you. I will avoid meeting clients who write graphic reviews, discussing provider's body down to their pussies and ''shop talk''. Your future possible review (good or bad) will bring me business (theoretically) and I am not interested in getting clients who need to know the tightness of a provider's pussy before booking her. I offer a safe, non judgmental and respectful space to all those who see me. I expect the same kind of respect from my clients. If you are uncomfortable giving your handle because of the persona you have chosen to embody on this website, perhaps it's time to change that persona? Either you own up to your words and give your handle, or you don't. If what you write here is something you would never say to a provider's face, then why write it at all?

Wow, great response

 

[HankTomas]

Not all escort think the same way. No one does. The sex business is a business. There is competition. Its nice to see that most sp on this board conform to the sisterhood of the flying yoga pants, but again not everybody is going to think the same way.
Another Sp calling another Sp unprofessional goes against the yoga pants sisterhood. You can't say you get to eat your cake, and not let others eat their cake...

If an Sp wants references, give references or don't see her.

As for your Perb handle, Its is up to the member to reveal his/her Perb handle.

I agree with many of your points.
It is a business & the implications surrounding it- competition- is real

 

[PuntMeister]

When asked for my perb handle, I have no problem telling them that I’m uncleg. Lol.

Gotta say the SP’s that are ok with that are kinda wierd. Fun to ride, but kinda wierd. Lol.

 

[Sophia Fae YVR]

As the other providers have mentioned, we do take your Perb activity into account when we consider booking you. So if you’re concerned that we may not appreciate the things you say, then maybe reconsider the way you talk about women when you think they aren’t listening. Behind a screen or not, it’s still part of your personality.

Personally, I allow 3 options for screening and prospective clients can choose one of those 3, because everyone is unique in what they feel comfortable sharing. An active Perb handle (meaning there needs to be post history) is one option.

I am also happy to provide references, community safety is important to me and taking an extra couple of minutes to check booking history/notes is no sweat. You aren’t my husband/bf, you aren’t cheating on me any more than I’m cheating on my nail tech when I get a pedi at a new spot. ?

 

[sybian]

When asked for my perb handle, I have no problem telling them that I’m uncleg. Lol.

A word of warning there from personal experience........you may get a big sloppy kiss for doing that, because he is so loved, or you may find out how fast you can duck your head ,avoiding a flying chair.

 

[Just4fun00]

Not all escort think the same way. No one does. The sex business is a business. There is competition. Its nice to see that most sp on this board conform to the sisterhood of the flying yoga pants, but again not everybody is going to think the same way.
Another Sp calling another Sp unprofessional goes against the yoga pants sisterhood. You can't say you get to eat your cake, and not let others eat their cake...

If an Sp wants references, give references or don't see her.

As for your Perb handle, Its is up to the member to reveal his/her Perb handle.

80watt you sure do know how to win friends and influence people...”sisterhood of the flying yoga pants” comment! You might as we tossed a grenade into the room.

As for giving your Perb handle? I guess if you have something to hide then you will find it offensive but if you are who you are with a lady in a room alone as you are here you will gladly hand over your handle

 

[MargauxDubois]

Not all escort think the same way. No one does. The sex business is a business. There is competition. Its nice to see that most sp on this board conform to the sisterhood of the flying yoga pants, but again not everybody is going to think the same way.
Another Sp calling another Sp unprofessional goes against the yoga pants sisterhood. You can't say you get to eat your cake, and not let others eat their cake...

If an Sp wants references, give references or don't see her.

As for your Perb handle, Its is up to the member to reveal his/her Perb handle.

I stand by my point. We are not your wives, we do not own clients. Getting emotional, jealous or furious when a regular sees someone else is unprofessional. There is no two way about it. References are there to keep other providers safe. I understand not being willing to endorse that responsibility for others, but not jealousy. Clients are allowed to spend their hard-earned money on whomever they please.

 

[georgej]

I'll give my perb handle if asked. Recently I included it in my first contact text to someone I wanted to see, thinking it a "get to know me" opportunity. Instant response was "So you start by telling me you're a reviewer! Never going to happen". Just can't get it right.

 

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[PuntMeister]

As the other providers have mentioned, we do take your Perb activity into account when we consider booking you. So if you’re concerned that we may not appreciate the things you say, then maybe reconsider the way you talk about women when you think they aren’t listening. Behind a screen or not, it’s still part of your personality.

i’m gonna go out on my own special little limb here an disagree with this statement, and similar previous statements.

First, this is PERB.

Pacific
Escort
Review
Board

This is foremost a place where guys get together and share their experiences with escorts. Many of us have justifiably been drawn to great providers and avoided shitty service thanks to the open forums that were the inception of PERB. Many of us wear our TOFTT disclosures as a badge of honour. Helping a bro find good providers and de-select bad providers is like a right of passage here. I for one do NOT want my bro’s to hold back on outing crap providers or lamenting the virtues and details of good providers for fear of being denied service in the future. Go ahead, listen in beihind the silk screen where men talk about sp’s, but if you can’t handle the heat.... This is PERB, where guys talk about sex with women. It’s gonna be gritty.

Second, guys tend to talk to ladies different than they talk to other guys. We know that we gotta be all nicey-nicey when we talk to our date/girlfriend/wife/partner/mom. Yes, we clean it up when we need to. But We also need our bro time. We need to let lose, open up, and release our pent up emotions and let our little vulgar womanizers out for a chance to vent a little. The absurdity of our dna driving us relentlessly toward copulating with women in modern society makes being a guy a crushing responsibility. The best release (other than seeing an sp) seems to be the locker room talk which, on the surface, is easy to judge, but deep down the sharing of our bro-time curse through inappropriate humour assuages our otherwise intolerable existence. Please be understanding—we are mixed up complicated beings pre-programmed to act contrary to our own expectations and yours as well. This special place allows us some small but significant freedom.

Third. Welcome to our locker room?. Men are the users of perb. Sp’s are advertisers. It is nice when you join our little chat space, and I regard sp’s as honoured guests in an otherwise men’s club. But as with other men’s clubs that get infiltrated by expectations to clean up their act, it risks becoming no longer a men’s club. I have seen actual men’s clubs fail and fold when they couldn’t cuss and swear and tell lude jokes anymore because they might offend the women folk in the room. To me, this would be the death of Perb. If this places becomes too suppressed that I can’t indulge my bro-time, I’m outa here.

i believe I have been judged fairly by the SP’s I have seen, based on how I have interacted with them, and visa-versa. Fortunately they don’t witness me make a long string of derogatory slurs when the sockets slips off the oil pan drain plug, my knuckles bash into the tranny and bleed like a (edited for inappropriate content), while the socket flies into my face face snd chips my (edited for inappropriate content) tooth.

-Punt.

 

[take8easy]

I almost always tell them my perb handle. I don't think I have ever been rejected because of that. In fact, I got in the door a bit quicker, based on that. I am sure the girls have their own little group that they use for reference.

Like, "Hey, take8easy wants to see me, He said he has seen you, what do you say?"
Response, "Yea, he is ok, not too big down there, kinda seriously punctual,. Oh yea, btw, Make sure you let him rim you. "

Having said that, there are some that i have had run in with and I am sure they are just going to ............. not see me. Fair enough.

So yea, to conclude, I would rather give them my PERB handle.

 

[uncleg]

When asked for my perb handle, I have no problem telling them that I’m uncleg. Lol.

Gotta say the SP’s that are ok with that are kinda wierd. Fun to ride, but kinda wierd. Lol.

.......and I thought your walking the dog was out of the goodness of your heart......

 

[Sophia Fae YVR]

i’m gonna go out on my own special little limb here an disagree with this statement, and similar previous statements.

First, this is PERB.

Pacific
Escort
Review
Board

This is foremost a place where guys get together and share their experiences with escorts. Many of us have justifiably been drawn to great providers and avoided shitty service thanks to the open forums that were the inception of PERB. Many of us wear our TOFTT disclosures as a badge of honour. Helping a bro find good providers and de-select bad providers is like a right of passage here. I for one do NOT want my bro’s to hold back on outing crap providers or lamenting the virtues and details of good providers for fear of being denied service in the future. Go ahead, listen in beihind the silk screen where men talk about sp’s, but if you can’t handle the heat.... This is PERB, where guys talk about sex with women. It’s gonna be gritty.

Second, guys tend to talk to ladies different than they talk to other guys. We know that we gotta be all nicey-nicey when we talk to our date/girlfriend/wife/partner/mom. Yes, we clean it up when we need to. But We also need our bro time. We need to let lose, open up, and release our pent up emotions and let our little vulgar womanizers out for a chance to vent a little. The absurdity of our dna driving us relentlessly toward copulating with women in modern society makes being a guy a crushing responsibility. The best release (other than seeing an sp) seems to be the locker room talk which, on the surface, is easy to judge, but deep down the sharing of our bro-time curse through inappropriate humour assuages our otherwise intolerable existence. Please be understanding—we are mixed up complicated beings pre-programmed to act contrary to our own expectations and yours as well. This special place allows us some small but significant freedom.

Third. Welcome to our locker room?. Men are the users of perb. Sp’s are advertisers. It is nice when you join our little chat space, and I regard sp’s as honoured guests in an otherwise men’s club. But as with other men’s clubs that get infiltrated by expectations to clean up their act, it risks becoming no longer a men’s club. I have seen actual men’s clubs fail and fold when they couldn’t cuss and swear and tell lude jokes anymore because they might offend the women folk in the room. To me, this would be the death of Perb. If this places becomes too suppressed that I can’t indulge my bro-time, I’m outa here.

i believe I have been judged fairly by the SP’s I have seen, based on how I have interacted with them, and visa-versa. Fortunately they don’t witness me make a long string of derogatory slurs when the sockets slips off the oil pan drain plug, my knuckles bash into the tranny and bleed like a (edited for inappropriate content), while the socket flies into my face face snd chips my (edited for inappropriate content) tooth.

-Punt.

You can disagree all you want, that doesn’t change anything.. Including making judgements based on how you conduct yourselves online. There are plenty of honest reviews that don’t pick providers apart in vulgar ways.

 

[Just4fun00]

You can disagree all you want, that doesn’t change anything.. Including making judgments based on how you conduct yourselves online. There are plenty of honest reviews that don’t pick providers apart in vulgar ways.

Well said Sweet Sophia!

 

[cruefan]

I am surprised that you posted that.

i’m gonna go out on my own special little limb here an disagree with this statement, and similar previous statements.

First, this is PERB.

Pacific
Escort
Review
Board

This is foremost a place where guys get together and share their experiences with escorts. Many of us have justifiably been drawn to great providers and avoided shitty service thanks to the open forums that were the inception of PERB. Many of us wear our TOFTT disclosures as a badge of honour. Helping a bro find good providers and de-select bad providers is like a right of passage here. I for one do NOT want my bro’s to hold back on outing crap providers or lamenting the virtues and details of good providers for fear of being denied service in the future. Go ahead, listen in beihind the silk screen where men talk about sp’s, but if you can’t handle the heat.... This is PERB, where guys talk about sex with women. It’s gonna be gritty.

Second, guys tend to talk to ladies different than they talk to other guys. We know that we gotta be all nicey-nicey when we talk to our date/girlfriend/wife/partner/mom. Yes, we clean it up when we need to. But We also need our bro time. We need to let lose, open up, and release our pent up emotions and let our little vulgar womanizers out for a chance to vent a little. The absurdity of our dna driving us relentlessly toward copulating with women in modern society makes being a guy a crushing responsibility. The best release (other than seeing an sp) seems to be the locker room talk which, on the surface, is easy to judge, but deep down the sharing of our bro-time curse through inappropriate humour assuages our otherwise intolerable existence. Please be understanding—we are mixed up complicated beings pre-programmed to act contrary to our own expectations and yours as well. This special place allows us some small but significant freedom.

Third. Welcome to our locker room?. Men are the users of perb. Sp’s are advertisers. It is nice when you join our little chat space, and I regard sp’s as honoured guests in an otherwise men’s club. But as with other men’s clubs that get infiltrated by expectations to clean up their act, it risks becoming no longer a men’s club. I have seen actual men’s clubs fail and fold when they couldn’t cuss and swear and tell lude jokes anymore because they might offend the women folk in the room. To me, this would be the death of Perb. If this places becomes too suppressed that I can’t indulge my bro-time, I’m outa here.

i believe I have been judged fairly by the SP’s I have seen, based on how I have interacted with them, and visa-versa. Fortunately they don’t witness me make a long string of derogatory slurs when the sockets slips off the oil pan drain plug, my knuckles bash into the tranny and bleed like a (edited for inappropriate content), while the socket flies into my face face snd chips my (edited for inappropriate content) tooth.

-Punt.

You win the landmine post of the year award with that honesty bomb that probably put you on a few naughty lists. lol

 

[happycanuck99]

Getting emotional, jealous or furious when a regular sees someone else is unprofessional.

I think you've nailed it, and I agree. But saying that also exposes a couple of problems:

• I don't believe all companions are necessarily as "professional" as they should be. (I don't think all clients are, either, for that matter.)
• I think this "industry" is somewhat unique. For many of us it is much more personal than where one gets a haircut or where one gets an oil change. It's much more intimate, and as a result tends to be much closer to the potential emotions. Whereas I agree that it might be unprofessional behavior in this context, it's not difficult for me to understand people struggling to keep those emotions in check. So, for example, professionally a lady should have no trouble providing a reference, but it's not unreasonable for her to think something like "but I thought we had a thing" or "what's wrong with me that he's not coming back", etc. That, to me, is a mine field. I can call a lady unprofessional, but at the same time I REALLY don't want to cause ANY hurt or negative feelings.
• I certainly don't want a wife or a girlfriend, but I also don't want a purely professional transaction. Connection without any strings can be a difficult balancing act. And again, there are two people involved, each with his/her own thoughts and emotions involved.

I'll stop there, because I think I've already proven the point that I have a gift for overthinking!

Just my 2¢ - take it for what it's worth.

 

[MargauxDubois]

I agree 100% with everything you say HappyCanuck99. I am very involved emotionally with my clients (that's kind of how I built my reputation as well) and I deeply care for them. I am however happy to help them meet other women and vouch for them because a) I want their happiness and b)I want my colleagues to have wonderful experiences in the business. If I can guarantee both by providing a reference then I am happy. If you truly have something good going on, they always come back and if they don't, then you get to keep the beautiful memories you created together. It might be hard at times, but that's the business.

 

[happycanuck99]

I agree 100% with everything you say HappyCanuck99. I am very involved emotionally with my clients (that's kind of how I built my reputation as well) and I deeply care for them. I am however happy to help them meet other women and vouch for them because a) I want their happiness and b)I want my colleagues to have wonderful experiences in the business. If I can guarantee both by providing a reference then I am happy. If you truly have something good going on, they always come back and if they don't, then you get to keep the beautiful memories you created together. It might be hard at times, but that's the business.

Clearly YOU ROCK, and I need to meet you!!!

 

[uncleg]

Considering what this site is about, why would anybody want to create an alter ego to be here.......unless the real you is a total asshole that nobody wants anything to do with. This goes both ways, there's SP's here that come across as just the sweetest thing.....then when it's business time, duck and cover. I see no reason why you can't be yourself when you're on here. Sure, a little puff and fluff here and there is not going to do any harm.....but as stated elsewhere, don't say here what you wouldn't say in public and there'd probably be fewer SP's looking for references.

To those Sp's that do a reference/background check whatever, have you passed up on the reference based on your perception of a person based on his Perb behaviour ?

For those that do the reference routine, if you would consider passing on the reference based on a Perb reputation, drop a few names that you would see, based just on Perb reps......if you feel comfortable doing that.

 

[MargauxDubois]

i’m gonna go out on my own special little limb here an disagree with this statement, and similar previous statements.

First, this is PERB.

Pacific
Escort
Review
Board

This is foremost a place where guys get together and share their experiences with escorts. Many of us have justifiably been drawn to great providers and avoided shitty service thanks to the open forums that were the inception of PERB. Many of us wear our TOFTT disclosures as a badge of honour. Helping a bro find good providers and de-select bad providers is like a right of passage here. I for one do NOT want my bro’s to hold back on outing crap providers or lamenting the virtues and details of good providers for fear of being denied service in the future. Go ahead, listen in beihind the silk screen where men talk about sp’s, but if you can’t handle the heat.... This is PERB, where guys talk about sex with women. It’s gonna be gritty.

Second, guys tend to talk to ladies different than they talk to other guys. We know that we gotta be all nicey-nicey when we talk to our date/girlfriend/wife/partner/mom. Yes, we clean it up when we need to. But We also need our bro time. We need to let lose, open up, and release our pent up emotions and let our little vulgar womanizers out for a chance to vent a little. The absurdity of our dna driving us relentlessly toward copulating with women in modern society makes being a guy a crushing responsibility. The best release (other than seeing an sp) seems to be the locker room talk which, on the surface, is easy to judge, but deep down the sharing of our bro-time curse through inappropriate humour assuages our otherwise intolerable existence. Please be understanding—we are mixed up complicated beings pre-programmed to act contrary to our own expectations and yours as well. This special place allows us some small but significant freedom.

Third. Welcome to our locker room?. Men are the users of perb. Sp’s are advertisers. It is nice when you join our little chat space, and I regard sp’s as honoured guests in an otherwise men’s club. But as with other men’s clubs that get infiltrated by expectations to clean up their act, it risks becoming no longer a men’s club. I have seen actual men’s clubs fail and fold when they couldn’t cuss and swear and tell lude jokes anymore because they might offend the women folk in the room. To me, this would be the death of Perb. If this places becomes too suppressed that I can’t indulge my bro-time, I’m outa here.

i believe I have been judged fairly by the SP’s I have seen, based on how I have interacted with them, and visa-versa. Fortunately they don’t witness me make a long string of derogatory slurs when the sockets slips off the oil pan drain plug, my knuckles bash into the tranny and bleed like a (edited for inappropriate content), while the socket flies into my face face snd chips my (edited for inappropriate content) tooth.

-Punt.

I'm not saying you should censor yourselves (even though I think you can review ladies in a respectful way and still warn your buddies about scammers). I'm saying that if you are going to adopt that kind of talk, you should be held accountable and own up to it.