Social Date Inquiries

tvman

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Not sure if this is the appropriate place to post this, but this is something I have wanted to know for a while. I tried searching the site for "Social Date", "Social", and "Social Dates" and had no results, so I decided to post it here. Sorry if this has already been answered.

The one thing that has always perplexed me in regards to the ads in the section regarding the social dates. I'm getting to the point now where after following many of Vancouver's SW's on twitter I'm starting to develop interest in them that is away from the services of sex (crazy I know). I do have some social date ideas that I want to try with some ladies, but I am very confused about what social dates would involve and how rigid the rules are. I'm hoping some SP's on here can help turn my head straight in regards to this. I'll post my main questions/concerns and see what answers I can get.

+ Expenses: This is my biggest question. Many of the ads for SP's say their hourly rate with the caveat of "+expenses". This has always concerned me, because I have a big fear that, for example, I will book a social date to a club with a SP, say like $200/2h but she ends up buying top shelf alcohol and other things, and then all of a sudden a $200 date balloons into $1000! My question here is, what is the proper etiquette in the +expenses category? To make this easy, I'll list out 3 options from the example I have used here and leave it to the audience to tell me which is the most acceptable.

Option 1: +expenses is +expenses idiot! What the lady wants the lady gets!

Option 2: You are responsible for the social date rate, the cover fee for the club, and possible transportation costs. Other than that, any other purchases of drinks and food are to be paid by the SP, or by you at your discretion.

Option 3: Everything from Option 2, but it would be considered acceptable for you to set a limit as to how much your SP can buy in the booking stage. For example, if her social rate is $100/h and you pay her $20 cover, you can say to her that she can buy anything she wants up to $80 as long as it is within the date time. Anything purchases after that limit is reached will have to be paid by her.

Social Rate Time: When it comes to paying for sex, the ads are pretty straight forward. A set price for every hour. Sometimes there is some fluctuation with the time, like she may give more time to adjust for the shower or any gifts given that cut into the sex time, but most of the time, it's rigidly kept. However, social dates can be different. Certain events may not have certain set times, like a trip to an amusement park, or a trip to an art gallery. My question here is, if I were to say come up with an itinerary of a day I would like to spend with an SP, can I send that itinerary and get a rate for that, or will this be viewed as negotiating, and get me permanently blocked? Also, let's say I go to a movie with an SP, and the movie is 90 minutes long. Does that mean I would have to pay for a 2 hour date or one, and if it is a two, do I still get control of the last half hour?

Negotiating: Speaking of negotiating, is negotiating for a social date still just as frowned upon as negotiating for the sex rate? I feel this is a grey area because of how varied the date could be in terms of time.

Experience: For anyone who has gone on a strictly social date with an SP, what is the experience like? Is it like a girlfriend experience, where she will be kissing, and touching you throughout the date, or is this more like 2 friends going out on the town?

For anyone who thinks I am coming off a little cheap asking this, the answer is yes! I work 2 jobs and go to school. I don't make enough money to do this multiple times a week. Having a $1000 bill would be disastrous for me. If any SP's are offended by me asking this, I am asking it here so that I don't risk offending you by text. I am eager to learn about all this and I would rather learn before I try to book a social date and not on the fly.
 

tvman

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So would it still be a faux pa to ask what the rate might be for the event? I don't want to offend, it's just I have some elaborate ideas for social dates. I'm working hard on it now but I can't wait until I can make more money. Screw trips to Europe, the experience I want is to experience the women of Vancouver!
 

grizzly

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So would it still be a faux pa to ask what the rate might be for the event? I don't want to offend, it's just I have some elaborate ideas for social dates. I'm working hard on it now but I can't wait until I can make more money. Screw trips to Europe, the experience I want is to experience the women of Vancouver!
Forgive me for being honest but if you have to count pennies, this hobby isn't for you. If you are interested in social dates then I suggest dating sites. There are a lot of attractive ladies that would gladly attend certain functions without the hourly charge. Even if you paid 30 bucks a month for a membership, you're further ahead. When you're making the big bucks then come back to this forum.
 

badbadboy

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Maybe try the Cuddle website. I see a few that offer socializing as well as cuddling.

A lot of SP do not have a social rate vs their GFE rates. It can get expensive quickly.
 

poonerboi

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There are a few SPs that don't charge for social time. My ATF , for example. So long as I book an hour of playtime and pick up the tab it's all good.
 

mercedeswest

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Personally, I think it depends on the SP. Because you're on a budget it's really important to have an honest and open conversation about your expectations. And same for the SP. I personally would not feel comfortable ordering "top shelf" or "racking up the bill" just to get most out of you. Probably helps I'm not a big drinker! Lol 1 or 2 drinks and I'm happy. As for kissing, touching etc...it depends what you're looking for. Again, it all comes down to setting expectations at the beginning so you get what you want and the SP is ok to provide it. As for timing, if you'll be going to an event where you're unsure how long it will be, budget for that extra bit. For me, if time goes a little over it's ok but not ervyone feels the same way or may other commitments that require the date to be stopped at a specific time. Again...It's ALL about communication and setting expectations for both parties.
 

JimDandy

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Maybe try the Cuddle website. I see a few that offer socializing as well as cuddling.

A lot of SP do not have a social rate vs their GFE rates. It can get expensive quickly.
Good idea about looking on CuddleUp. I think there is a girl on CU that looks like Clem. Since she is on CU, her rates are probably less than Clem's lol.

JD
 

tvman

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Forgive me for being honest but if you have to count pennies, this hobby isn't for you. If you are interested in social dates then I suggest dating sites. There are a lot of attractive ladies that would gladly attend certain functions without the hourly charge. Even if you paid 30 bucks a month for a membership, you're further ahead. When you're making the big bucks then come back to this forum.
Hey no problem. I have a researchers mind, and I'm not one to leap before I look. I had trouble finding the information I was looking for so I thought I'd ask it here. I do make enough money that I can do this, I'm just saying I'm not pulling down tens of thousands a month. I have strict codes I have set myself to follow, and one big one is to never put myself in a situation where I have gone into debt for this. I'm asking it here because I don't want to risk offending an SP by asking her in a text and getting blocked. Along with that, I would never ask an SP to adjust or change her rates for me. I understand the rules of what this is and I am fine with waiting and saving up the money to get the experience that I want. Also, the online dating thing just isn't for me. Tried it didn't like it.
 

tvman

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Thanks for the advice mercedes. Really helpful. These were all just questions I had been wondering.
 

Claire Monet

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Communication is everything, as previously said.

I think it's a great idea to ask your potential date what sort of social activities would interest her while providing some of your ideas and go from there to determine a length of time and rate. In my opinion it wouldn't be offensive, and actually ideal, to ask what her expected fees would be for the agreed upon date and time length. That would give you an idea of whether or not it'd fit into your budget and give her the assurance her time would be compensated to her liking. It's not fun to have a guessing game of expected fees at the end... either person could end up feeling disappointed/ripped off/defensive etc. Get it out in the open so that your date can flow without worry.

Expenses incurred during a date are typically covered by the client.

Personally I would find it extremely awkward if I were to be given a "set amount" that the gent would cover (as you inquired about). If I were to be constantly adding up meals, travel fare, event prices etc to ensure I didn't go over the set amount I think I would feel too much pressure from the client. I guess you need to play within your means. I don't think most ladies intend to take advantage.

The point is to have fun! Get the paperwork out of the way and enjoy the flow of the social time!
 

Evie_Brookes

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Hey no problem. I have a researchers mind, and I'm not one to leap before I look. I had trouble finding the information I was looking for so I thought I'd ask it here. I do make enough money that I can do this, I'm just saying I'm not pulling down tens of thousands a month. I have strict codes I have set myself to follow, and one big one is to never put myself in a situation where I have gone into debt for this. I'm asking it here because I don't want to risk offending an SP by asking her in a text and getting blocked. Along with that, I would never ask an SP to adjust or change her rates for me. I understand the rules of what this is and I am fine with waiting and saving up the money to get the experience that I want. Also, the online dating thing just isn't for me. Tried it didn't like it.

I just want to commend you for asking your questions here. I love men who ask questions, and I think it shows great respect and thoughtfulness to do this research in this forum rather than risk annoying a provider. I also don't agree that you have to be bathing in your money every night in order to afford to be able to see a quality provider. I get pretty tingly about balanced spending lol. My advice would be to do the math in your own mind and wallet about how much you feel comfortable spending and then find a provider who fits the bill. I don't need to "see your work" on the problem of spending, and I don't want to feel your nervousness so just plan ahead and come to a state of peace about it before you contact your girl. I agree with Claire, that socials are best when they can flow, baby.

Sounds like some wonderful ladies are going to get some fun adventures out of this research :) Have fun!!
 
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