So just what are YOU paying for?

[Puddlegurl]

Very Interesting posts. Thank you for your candid look into the minds of "pooners"
For me, sevenofnine, you are especially honest, I think alot of men have a very hard time even admitting there's a "wife" or sig other they go home to everynight.
I notice alot of men like to keep the fact they're attached private, guilt or just to create the illusion of "single and do what I want fantasy" . Either way it makes no difference to me unless you bring it up.

I don't think it would be impossible to "nail" down one reason or the other as to what you're looking to pay for.

To some I'm a slutty nymph who watches porn all day who's wet n ready when needed.
- to some I'm a friend and that one person they can share they're deepest kinks and fantasies (bucket-list)
-to some I'm a Amazon Domme who can manhandle you and take control of your body
- to some I'm a band-aid to ease the pain of cheating wife/death of wife or divorce. Sexual healing isn't just a cheesy song. Our emotional and physical health depends on being touched and nurtured.
-to some i'm one of many many girls they see. Some men speak of it as an addiction. Some look empty and lost. Its very difficult when you're with someone like this because you know no matter what you do or say they've seen it and done it all.

My Milf Mode-young men (to me is 20-35) seem to have a suprisingly good handle on why they seek services. I think men of this age feel very comfy with someone like me because they know from the time they walk in the door, they're taken care of, mothered in naughty and nurturing ways, whether they're buff gym dudes or nerdy chunky monkeys they know they can get naked in comfort that they are with a real natural beauty who isn't hung up on body image or acheiving perfection... there's no such thing.

My Slutty Girl Next Door Mode-middle age (to me 36-57) seem too be the most lost or confused or stressed about what they're doing, probably because they have the most to lose, supporting families, running businesss,married, professional but are also the most loyal to the ladies they find "fits the bill" for them. Which can lead to extremely close hot times.

My Naughty Young Girl Mode -mature men(58-up) MY FAVORITE! I've always been attracted to more mature men (my poor mom n dad )but not until I started doing this for a living did I understand why.
Its such a relaxed time. you guys are so mellow, horny, open-minded and know what you're looking for. There's no drama,and make you feel amazing even if you're not feeling so hot that particular day. I think for a SP who loves GFE as I do its a perfect time as I can be that doting caregiver/naughty nurse. And with life experience comes ALOT of fun and giggles.


Basically, as long as you feel completely relaxed,drained,happy,content and sexcited upon returning you know you'll found the right lady,or ladies for you. Sounds to me by reading reviews you guys accept less than you should. IMO
But there are some of you who see SW's, that I can't comment on as I'll start a whole nutha topic or shit storm.lol..

I understand those men who prefer the less chatty SP's, there's a time and a place for everything and I think if you're up front and let the girl know, you're not a chatter that would help alot as I think "chatty" tends to be a nervous thing for alot of people. I know I've been there. When I go to the Spa for a massage, the LAST thing I want to do is form sentences...!! That's not why I'm there.. I get that.. But you guys can't knock the ones who find the SP's brain just as sexual as her TNA . We're all individual and the voice can be a BIG turn on.. It is for me. Men's hands and voices.. yummm.. instant panty remover for me.

Anyways, thanks for sharing boys, these threads are awesome to here what's going on in both those heads of yours Xoxoxo


etc.

i guess its pretty simple
i need to feel something sexul
my wife and me are no longer having sex i still feel horny,

i work in an office full of beautiful women, i was very miserabe going home every night knowing i wasn't going to have sex.
i found a couple of women in this hobby who we seemed to enjoy each others company,
we fooled around quite a bit, i guess,
but in the end of the day,
all i want is to feel sexually alive

i book every two weeks regardless, of where my mood is, of what i feel like
and it doesn't matter we talk we laugh we have a drink
she makes me feel happy, we have sex i feel like the sexaul world hasn't passed me by,

so i guess for me, its simple
i was one miserable sob not having sex, maybe some issues i won't go into
now i see someone every two weeks we talk things out we have a drink
we have sex,
and im alot happier person,

so i guess im buying happiness,

but in the end, im winding down,
sex how big of deal is it,

my father was a convicted pedophile so i have always have had issues around sex,

but really i wonder how big a deal is it
this thing we call sex,
my old man went to jail because of it,
i have spent alot of money trying to fiqure it out

 

[lenny]

I pay for a 3 hour long orgasm, and if i don't get it i'm pissed off ;

Even if it's just kissing & or cuddling, there can be an orgasm of sorts.

Sure it is possible to get this w/o seeing an escort, by masterbating {with or w/o a sex doll}
or with a non SP. But in the former the physical contact of the first kind is missing, and the
latter is just way too much trouble for various reasons.

2656 {really at least 3000}.

 

[a_shy_guy]

I pay for a 3 hour long orgasm, and if i don't get it i'm pissed off ;

I have had sex a total of maybe 16 times in my lifetime(I am still in my early 20's). I have only ever had 3 orgasms with a girl(4 if you include my ex). The first couple times I seen SP's, none of them can get me to fire off the baby cannon. No matter how hard they tried, it just couldn't happen. How do you think I feel when my time is up, and I couldnt get off despite the 1 or 2 hour long fuck sessions?

Onto the topic.

When I first saw an SP, I was a virgin, and looking for someone to teach me a couple pointers. Give me some experience to work off of, give me some confidence. She flat out told me that not alot of people are capable of holding a rock hard erection for the entire 90 minute session, and still not be done. Quite pleasing to hear that not alot of people are capable of doing that, and I was one of them.

The next few times that I saw SP's(wasnt for year or so), I was just plain horny and had some cash sitting around. This lead to some fun times, and I don't regret it a single bit.

When I saw the 2 SP's in December of 2010, I will admit, I was just curious, and a bit horny as well, so I took the plunge. My general rule is not to see the same one twice(which with traveling SP's is hard to do anyways). I met one of them one night at an MP, and because of how new she was to the industry, it turned out to be a very awkward session both for me and her(because she couldn't get me off). The following week, I returned to see another girl there, but the first one I saw there made me wonder if the sessions could get any better. I took the plunge once again and booked her again. After seeing her a second time, things went so much better that I kept rebooking her.

Currently, when I go see her, I go there not because I feel horny, but I go there to feel the intimacy and companionship of a georgous women. The actual sex act isnt as important to me as the connection I feel between us. Being able to open up, or even listening to them when they have a bad day makes me feel special and noticed in this world. Having been single pretty much all my life anyways, and how I have lived my life, this is really important to me. I no longer go there expecting to have a happy ending(its just a bonus), but I go there to ease the pains in my life and try and soldier through the remainder of my life. I am still trying to seek out that significant other to fill the void so I no longer have to see an SP, but until my number comes up, this is all I have. I have no shame in seeing an SP for this very reason. We all need some that something in our lives to keep us going on, this just happens to be it for me.

 

[maroonedsailor]

from the heart shy guy - thanks for showing up and being real.

I have had sex a total of maybe 16 times in my lifetime(I am still in my early 20's). I have only ever had 3 orgasms with a girl(4 if you include my ex). The first couple times I seen SP's, none of them can get me to fire off the baby cannon. No matter how hard they tried, it just couldn't happen. How do you think I feel when my time is up, and I couldnt get off despite the 1 or 2 hour long fuck sessions?

Onto the topic.

When I first saw an SP, I was a virgin, and looking for someone to teach me a couple pointers. Give me some experience to work off of, give me some confidence. She flat out told me that not alot of people are capable of holding a rock hard erection for the entire 90 minute session, and still not be done. Quite pleasing to hear that not alot of people are capable of doing that, and I was one of them.

The next few times that I saw SP's(wasnt for year or so), I was just plain horny and had some cash sitting around. This lead to some fun times, and I don't regret it a single bit.

When I saw the 2 SP's in December of 2010, I will admit, I was just curious, and a bit horny as well, so I took the plunge. My general rule is not to see the same one twice(which with traveling SP's is hard to do anyways). I met one of them one night at an MP, and because of how new she was to the industry, it turned out to be a very awkward session both for me and her(because she couldn't get me off). The following week, I returned to see another girl there, but the first one I saw there made me wonder if the sessions could get any better. I took the plunge once again and booked her again. After seeing her a second time, things went so much better that I kept rebooking her.

Currently, when I go see her, I go there not because I feel horny, but I go there to feel the intimacy and companionship of a georgous women. The actual sex act isnt as important to me as the connection I feel between us. Being able to open up, or even listening to them when they have a bad day makes me feel special and noticed in this world. Having been single pretty much all my life anyways, and how I have lived my life, this is really important to me. I no longer go there expecting to have a happy ending(its just a bonus), but I go there to ease the pains in my life and try and soldier through the remainder of my life. I am still trying to seek out that significant other to fill the void so I no longer have to see an SP, but until my number comes up, this is all I have. I have no shame in seeing an SP for this very reason. We all need some that something in our lives to keep us going on, this just happens to be it for me.

 

[JFF009]

I have all the companionship I can handle.
I'm lucky to be loved and to love.

I pay for sex. I want the bj I can never seem to get. I want the reaction to daty that screems "don't stop".
I don't want sex to be considered something done at night only, in bed only, vanilla, vanilla, vanilla.

 

[lenny]

When I first saw an SP, I was a virgin, and looking for someone to teach me a couple pointers. Give me some experience to work off of, give me some confidence. She flat out told me that not alot of people are capable of holding a rock hard erection for the entire 90 minute session, and still not be done. Quite pleasing to hear that not alot of people are capable of doing that, and I was one of them.

I'm a very shy guy too, believe it or not; don't be fooled by the online persona/Wizard of Oz
{guy behind the curtain} - he is a fraud/scarecrow ;

Having practised masterbation for years, i find it's possible to whack off for an hour, even
up to three hours or more at a time, without viagara. I get pissed off at myself when it
only lasts 15 minutes.

Likewise with sex with women, and i tend to be even more enduring with them, since i
want to get my money's worth, and enjoy the physical "oneness" of {preferably} her entire
body as long as reasonably possible. What usually happens, though, is that i tire them
out/they want to stop {for various reasons/unknown to me/inspite ofwhat they claim} long
before i am ready to stop. Often it is because they {claim} they did cum already, need to
get drugs, are tired, sore, too sweaty, etc

A few short years ago an SP told me, when i was about 48 YO, that i would never need
a drug to keep my horny and hard for 60 minutes plus. I'm not so sure about that, but i
think with practice, effort, and discipline, it may be possible, much of the time, especially
with a younger fellow such as yourself.

But, yes, word is that most guys cum in an average of 15 minutes or less. For me that
is about how long it often takes just to get warmed up. It's after that and in the 2nd and
3rd hour when it's goes from the first heaven to the seventh!

 

[OriannaXO]

I have had sex a total of maybe 16 times in my lifetime(I am still in my early 20's). I have only ever had 3 orgasms with a girl(4 if you include my ex). The first couple times I seen SP's, none of them can get me to fire off the baby cannon. No matter how hard they tried, it just couldn't happen. How do you think I feel when my time is up, and I couldnt get off despite the 1 or 2 hour long fuck sessions?

Onto the topic.

When I first saw an SP, I was a virgin, and looking for someone to teach me a couple pointers. Give me some experience to work off of, give me some confidence. She flat out told me that not alot of people are capable of holding a rock hard erection for the entire 90 minute session, and still not be done. Quite pleasing to hear that not alot of people are capable of doing that, and I was one of them.

The next few times that I saw SP's(wasnt for year or so), I was just plain horny and had some cash sitting around. This lead to some fun times, and I don't regret it a single bit.

When I saw the 2 SP's in December of 2010, I will admit, I was just curious, and a bit horny as well, so I took the plunge. My general rule is not to see the same one twice(which with traveling SP's is hard to do anyways). I met one of them one night at an MP, and because of how new she was to the industry, it turned out to be a very awkward session both for me and her(because she couldn't get me off). The following week, I returned to see another girl there, but the first one I saw there made me wonder if the sessions could get any better. I took the plunge once again and booked her again. After seeing her a second time, things went so much better that I kept rebooking her.

Currently, when I go see her, I go there not because I feel horny, but I go there to feel the intimacy and companionship of a georgous women. The actual sex act isnt as important to me as the connection I feel between us. Being able to open up, or even listening to them when they have a bad day makes me feel special and noticed in this world. Having been single pretty much all my life anyways, and how I have lived my life, this is really important to me. I no longer go there expecting to have a happy ending(its just a bonus), but I go there to ease the pains in my life and try and soldier through the remainder of my life. I am still trying to seek out that significant other to fill the void so I no longer have to see an SP, but until my number comes up, this is all I have. I have no shame in seeing an SP for this very reason. We all need some that something in our lives to keep us going on, this just happens to be it for me.

I think this is the sweetest thing I have read on these boards in ages and very nice to see you be so frank about your feelings and type of relationship with your fav sp, makes me happy to hear about it

 

[a_shy_guy]

I think this is the sweetest thing I have read on these boards in ages and very nice to see you be so frank about your feelings and type of relationship with your fav sp, makes me happy to hear about it

Thank you... I have to vent it out in one way or another. Being that I am online, the anonymity makes it so much easier. I told my family certain parts of my life(IE. how I feel alone and left out of alot of things cause we live in different provinces), and all I get is them laughing in my face. I tell a few of my friends that know I visit SP's, and they all encourage me to do what makes me happiest. We all see SP's for different reasons, why society doesn't understand that is beyond me.

 

[a_shy_guy]

from the heart shy guy - thanks for showing up and being real.

It isn't often that I express my opinions in the lounge, but this is something I just had to chime in on. I have nothing to prove, nothing to gain, and nothing to lose in expressiing my inner thoughts and feeling. Its just something that I had to come out and say.

Thank you for your kind comment

 

[a_shy_guy]

Having practised masterbation for years, i find it's possible to whack off for an hour, even
up to three hours or more at a time, without viagara. I get pissed off at myself when it
only lasts 15 minutes.

When I masturbate, I can usually only last about 5 minutes or so, sometimes less(no joke), but with a girl, I feel like the energizer bunny. From what some SP's told me, most guys tend to last around the 10 minute mark. Its not often they get a client that lasts considerably longer then that. Perhaps with enough practice, discipline and effort, it is possible to achieve, but since I had none of that prior, it makes me wonder.

 

[maroonedsailor]

When I masturbate, I can usually only last about 5 minutes or so, sometimes less(no joke), but with a girl, I feel like the energizer bunny. From what some SP's told me, most guys tend to last around the 10 minute mark. Its not often they get a client that lasts considerably longer then that. Perhaps with enough practice, discipline and effort, it is possible to achieve, but since I had none of that prior, it makes me wonder.

well spending hours at a time masturbating can get very tiresome but extended lovemaking can be the greatest or the most aweful thing there is depending on the company you keep

 

[themc5]

Basically, I pay for the shower, the sex is just an afterthought. I like seeing different showers.

yep, me too. i need to know the nitty gritty on soap preferences for as many people as possible. your average person gets all weirded out when you start rummaging through their bathroom. I don't know why.

 

[lenny]

well spending hours at a time masturbating can get very tiresome but extended lovemaking can be the greatest or the most aweful thing there is depending on the company you keep

IME masterbating for 10 minutes or 3 hours requires far less energy than lovemaking/banging
a woman, and the former usually feels better too {besides being free and safer in various ways}.

 

[jnewton]

IME masterbating for 10 minutes or 3 hours requires far less energy than lovemaking/banging
a woman, and the former usually feels better too {besides being free and safer in various ways}.

Hmmm ... I guess that falls under YMMV. On the other hand (or IN the other hand?), IMHO being inside a woman is an incredible feeling and my hand just doesn't compare.

 

[DavidMR]

What am I paying for? A taste of the same quality of sex, the same quality of female body, that normally only severely handsome dudes and millionaires can experience. I am looking for a one hour interlude where I get to see, feel and taste how they live.

 

[lenny]

Hmmm ... I guess that falls under YMMV. On the other hand (or IN the other hand?), IMHO being inside a woman is an incredible feeling and my hand just doesn't compare.

I totally agree, for the most part, i think, and please note that i said "usually" whacking off is better.
Additionally it is likely my most memorable and ecstatic experiences have been with a woman.

Although the left hand {with amazing porn} usually provides much better friction & technique than
a pussy, it lacks the physical contact with all of a female's body parts simultaneously.

 

[maroonedsailor]

yup

aaahhhhhhhhhhh

I have all the companionship I can handle.
I'm lucky to be loved and to love.

I pay for sex. I want the bj I can never seem to get. I want the reaction to daty that screems "don't stop".
I don't want sex to be considered something done at night only, in bed only, vanilla, vanilla, vanilla.

 

[hang5507]

Thank-you all for the honesty of your posts. A person could not discount any one of them.

I was very sexually active from a young age.. I was always looking for variety and that pornstar experience and it led to my first divorce. Duh!, why did I get married in the first place. I was young and it seemed like the right thing to do when my girlfriend got pregnant. We lasted 13 years and I received 2 wonderful kids and suddenly I got to play the field honestly again.

After 6 years of being single and having had multiple x 10 sex partners, I found myself with a beautiful hot women who is 7 years younger than I and it seems has a sexual appetite that exceeds my own. We have been married for 10 years now and I love her dearly, but I need the variety and paying for a service provider helps me experience that with out the headaches of affairs.

I know it sucks...yes I am a cheater but with out the variety of paid for sex partners I would be straying again. To me its about the sex, not love or a relationship.

Regards

H

 

[cjac7214]

Thought about this a bit more - I earlier posted about the brief emotional connection and sexual intimacy that the quality women in this industry provide. Still true but the other reason I pay is that service providers, when they are available, provide sex on demand, and you know what you are going to get at a time that works for you. Even having an affair with the horniest woman on earth will have scheduling problems, never mind the potential emotional complications.

Thirdly, you can talk openly about your sexual preferences and find someone who is excited or at least willing to act them out - I have been able to live out sexual fantasies with women that are into a particular activity and I think it is usually fun for both of us (for sure it is for me). There is a type of woman for almost anything you like (different ages, sizes, races, intelligence and sexual preferences) that would be very difficult to arrange in "civilian life".

I have a hot librarian fantasy if there are any takers....

 

[maroonedsailor]

a hot librarian sp (Beautiful Anna with her glasses on)who is just a teensy bit strict????? oops - me in trouble again LOL

Thought about this a bit more - I earlier posted about the brief emotional connection and sexual intimacy that the quality women in this industry provide. Still true but the other reason I pay is that service providers, when they are available, provide sex on demand, and you know what you are going to get at a time that works for you. Even having an affair with the horniest woman on earth will have scheduling problems, never mind the potential emotional complications.

Thirdly, you can talk openly about your sexual preferences and find someone who is excited or at least willing to act them out - I have been able to live out sexual fantasies with women that are into a particular activity and I think it is usually fun for both of us (for sure it is for me). There is a type of woman for almost anything you like (different ages, sizes, races, intelligence and sexual preferences) that would be very difficult to arrange in "civilian life".

I have a hot librarian fantasy if there are any takers....