grins - bingo on the first and No I haven't had the pleasure of being with any of the experts on this board but all things are subject to change right? LOL
So just what are YOU paying for?
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Speaking from the perspective of an sp, I do have actual chemistry in some way with most people I see... I'm sure many of the other sp's would feel the same way....I have to love what I do, otherwise I wouldn't do it....Some activities are not for everyone, some activities are not My personal preference either....it's about finding the middle road and having no expectations from the other person, except to have fun and find a mutual chemistry that works with the other person. Just like in real life....without inhibitions...every sp has their gifts, and every pooner has theirs...
I like the touch comment, I agree, people need touch....either in a loving intimate way or at times in a sexually hungry way...or even a soft tickly way...we all need different things at different times, sp's have to intuit that inherent need with different individuals on a day to day basis....and yes, they don't call you at inappropriate times or follow you home....they will almost always be happy to hear from you, with a sweet sing-song voice...or they will not show up at your work wondering why you haven't called them in a week....in the meanwhile, you can be as much of a work/golf/sport-o-holic as you want...lol...and when you want some fun, pop by for a visit, we'll laugh, I'll tie you up and tease the hell out of you...just for fun, a couple of spanks and nibblez if you make any sounds....while I wear the outfit of your choice....what colour boots do you want today?
I like the touch comment, I agree, people need touch....either in a loving intimate way or at times in a sexually hungry way...or even a soft tickly way...we all need different things at different times, sp's have to intuit that inherent need with different individuals on a day to day basis....and yes, they don't call you at inappropriate times or follow you home....they will almost always be happy to hear from you, with a sweet sing-song voice...or they will not show up at your work wondering why you haven't called them in a week....in the meanwhile, you can be as much of a work/golf/sport-o-holic as you want...lol...and when you want some fun, pop by for a visit, we'll laugh, I'll tie you up and tease the hell out of you...just for fun, a couple of spanks and nibblez if you make any sounds....while I wear the outfit of your choice....what colour boots do you want today?
Sweet - red boots please lol
Speaking from the perspective of an sp, I do have actual chemistry in some way with most people I see... I'm sure many of the other sp's would feel the same way....I have to love what I do, otherwise I wouldn't do it....Some activities are not for everyone, some activities are not My personal preference either....it's about finding the middle road and having no expectations from the other person, except to have fun and find a mutual chemistry that works with the other person. Just like in real life....without inhibitions...every sp has their gifts, and every pooner has theirs...
I like the touch comment, I agree, people need touch....either in a loving intimate way or at times in a sexually hungry way...or even a soft tickly way...we all need different things at different times, sp's have to intuit that inherent need with different individuals on a day to day basis....and yes, they don't call you at inappropriate times or follow you home....they will almost always be happy to hear from you, with a sweet sing-song voice...or they will not show up at your work wondering why you haven't called them in a week....in the meanwhile, you can be as much of a work/golf/sport-o-holic as you want...lol...and when you want some fun, pop by for a visit, we'll laugh, I'll tie you up and tease the hell out of you...just for fun, a couple of spanks and nibblez if you make any sounds....while I wear the outfit of your choice....what colour boots do you want today?
You're telling me that there are plenty of guys going out with hotties 20-25 years younger than them and I'm one of few unfortunately souls who has to pay for this previlege?
Get real
I"ll be trying this for the first time very soon. So right now I still don't know for what I am paying. I'm a high sex drive person and in 15 years of marriage sometimes I've gone up to 9 months without sex, and no that wasn't during pregnancy. You throw 3 kids into the mix, numerous books on intimacy, couples therapy, single therapy, and attempts at different medications for depression. Love is still there but in a non sexual marriage, which is defined as less than 10 interactions per year, and I arrive at this website. So maybe it's just pure unadulterated sex but I don't know yet.
I'm not quite sure why the negative connotation when it comes to paying for sex. Personally I think sex with a drop dead gorgious woman for $250-300 bucks is a great deal. Beats the hell out of my colleague who's paying 450/hr for a divorce lawyer.
I'm not sure either - In the man - woman equation men pay for sex and women pay for security. The form of payment differs only because we no longer use barter. Marriages break down because this is not clearly understood and one party or the other fails to make payment. This leads to resentment and you know the rest. Personally I'm very sure that sex with sp's is cheaper by far in the long run but the intimacy factor men crave is lacking in that relationship so it too is incomplete. I think that Nina's assessment of touch may well be the bottom line.
One reason I have not yet seen listed here is the desire to have a sexual experience with someone who's an expert.
It seems to me a perfect reason to see an SP.. get the best sex you've ever had. That was always my goal.. to give loving happy joyous GREAT sex to my clients.
Human touch has not been mentioned either. We need it, as much as we don't think we do. The more contact you have with people who care about you, the better you feel. Being in the energy field of someone who is caring about you is something you may not be aware of, but it does affect you. Good intentions pass from one to another and help make you feel whole, happy, and satisfied. It's healthy and good for you.
ps.. I hope Lenny finds his android/doll.
Nina nailed it for me.
I started this 'hobby' seeking human touch that had been missing in my life for a long time with a 'connection' of mutual gratification thrown into the mix too.
Along the way, I found some very nice women who really know what they are doing. Since I am always up for learning new tricks and listening to their wants/needs; I have really benefited from the services.
Giving her the chance has been going on for 4 years. But even now I don't know what will happen when the time actually comes, when I"m sitting in front of someone. Maybe it'll be just talk and that will be the end of it, maybe it will be more. We'll see.
Once in a session I asked, "How do you know the difference between depression and a bad relationship". I didn't get an answer. If you have a good physician you will be told that anti-depressants will not fix you. They are supposed to stabilize your mood so that you may deal with the actual issues in a proper frame of mind. The side effects that I really hate the most, apart from the headaches, is the weight gain and insomnia.
At least for me, that is so very true. I rarely participated in the hobby but when I did, it was almost always a long session. I love sex and unfortunately get almost none in my current situation but the tender touch is even more important to me than the sex. The one without the other feels hollow; the two combined is incredibly powerful.
I feel your pain bud. In my case, throw in an affair with a rock musician, three counsellors and three more years than your four. The women I have seen in this profession have saved me from having to depart with seven figures, although that is probably going to happen sooner or later. More importantly, I have met and spent time with beautiful women who enjoy sex and have (so far) been amazing young women to know. I have no regrets, and actually some fantastic memories!
On whether or not you should tell your wife, the result of seven years of patience and three counsellors for me was this statement from my wife - "I don't think I ever want to have sex again - it's not you." My reply - "I love sex and I will be having it again - I guess it won't be with you." I don't tell her every time I have a date, but she knows. She actually told me one time that she could tell because I would be in such a good mood. So, what's wrong with that?
Very well said. Agree with the intimacy factor being incomplete but, otherwise, the nature of the SP/client relationship is not only cheaper but actually quite gratifying. I enjoy both the physical touch and the brief emotional connection. For me, this happens when the SP is not a victim but a well-adjusted, genuine human being that has a positive view of sexuality that is unfortunately not the norm in our society. In the case where the SP is a victim (or the client's pre-conception is that she must be a victim), then I think the relationship is abusive.
Beautifully said.Speaking from the perspective of an sp, I do have actual chemistry in some way with most people I see... I'm sure many of the other sp's would feel the same way....I have to love what I do, otherwise I wouldn't do it....Some activities are not for everyone, some activities are not My personal preference either....it's about finding the middle road and having no expectations from the other person, except to have fun and find a mutual chemistry that works with the other person. Just like in real life....without inhibitions...every sp has their gifts, and every pooner has theirs...
I like the touch comment, I agree, people need touch....either in a loving intimate way or at times in a sexually hungry way...or even a soft tickly way...we all need different things at different times, sp's have to intuit that inherent need with different individuals on a day to day basis....and yes, they don't call you at inappropriate times or follow you home....they will almost always be happy to hear from you, with a sweet sing-song voice...or they will not show up at your work wondering why you haven't called them in a week....in the meanwhile, you can be as much of a work/golf/sport-o-holic as you want...lol...and when you want some fun, pop by for a visit, we'll laugh, I'll tie you up and tease the hell out of you...just for fun, a couple of spanks and nibblez if you make any sounds....while I wear the outfit of your choice....what colour boots do you want today?
I would love to be tied up and teased!
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Well I'm about 10 years older than that, but I too am reasonably good looking, just not good enough to attract a hottie 20 years younger than me, without waving a few bucks.
But FSD - why a 30 year old SP rather than a 40 year old civillian? I don't believe it's just about looks and vanity. My dad was so lonely in his marriage that he ruined his life to marry a woman 25 years his junior because she made him feel special and needed and wanted. Sadly she was also a prescription junkie who died soon after from an overdose. A few years later he died alone in a trailer and was not found for three days. A sweet SP might have saved his life. At the very least she might have saved his bank account. The world is overwrought with judgement and rules and misconceptions and media lies and God Damn the list goes on and on - But underneath the hype and bullshit is a deeper more vibrant reality we all seem to strive for and only a very few of us ever arrive at. It's answers to that that I'm after................
grins - and just why the heck do you live in Nanaimo anyway ;-)
Speaking from the perspective of an sp, I do have actual chemistry in some way with most people I see... I'm sure many of the other sp's would feel the same way....I have to love what I do, otherwise I wouldn't do it....Some activities are not for everyone, some activities are not My personal preference either....it's about finding the middle road and having no expectations from the other person, except to have fun and find a mutual chemistry that works with the other person. Just like in real life....without inhibitions...every sp has their gifts, and every pooner has theirs...
I like the touch comment, I agree, people need touch....either in a loving intimate way or at times in a sexually hungry way...or even a soft tickly way...we all need different things at different times, sp's have to intuit that inherent need with different individuals on a day to day basis....and yes, they don't call you at inappropriate times or follow you home....they will almost always be happy to hear from you, with a sweet sing-song voice...or they will not show up at your work wondering why you haven't called them in a week....in the meanwhile, you can be as much of a work/golf/sport-o-holic as you want...lol...and when you want some fun, pop by for a visit, we'll laugh, I'll tie you up and tease the hell out of you...just for fun, a couple of spanks and nibblez if you make any sounds....while I wear the outfit of your choice....what colour boots do you want today?
Not sure how to answer that. Maybe someone else might have helped him more, but then again, he may also have valued this relationship enough to make it all worthwhile.
There's worse things in the world then finding someone to care about and spend money on, if you beleive there's genuine affection taking place. And that's true whether the person in question is 30, 40 or 50, cause it's not age specific.
I know one thing, I can't take it with me and when I'm dead, I'm dead and at the end of the day, all we really have is a collection of memories..................so start collecting.
There's worse things in the world then finding someone to care about and spend money on, if you beleive there's genuine affection taking place. And that's true whether the person in question is 30, 40 or 50, cause it's not age specific.
I know one thing, I can't take it with me and when I'm dead, I'm dead and at the end of the day, all we really have is a collection of memories..................so start collecting.
Easy Answer, I am paying for an experience, sometimes a fantasy, sometimes for something I am not getting at home, there are a number of reasons I choose the ladies I do.
The comment about my dad was meant to illustrate a larger human condition in which such a huge percentage of us are in relationships without intimacy. I swore it would never happen to me but I was lying to myself. I like me. I like my company. I'm a smart, fun, easy going guy with a great life but it's not enough. I want more so I'm making course corrections - exploring these thoughts is part of that......... There are real people here with real feelings and a real ability to express those feelings with an honesty lacking in the mainstream. The idea of a "hooker with a heart of gold" is more than just an idea. Why don't more of us have a spouse with a heart of gold and why is that? Are there so few women with a golden soul or is it that we men don't know how to bring it out in them or WTF?
Your responses are thought provoking I'll grant you that. I think at the end of the day you just have to take the actions you feel are necessary to have a meaningful life, and hopefully this doesn't hurt anyone close to you.
As to why many spouses don't have hearts of gold, relative to SP's, that's a hell of a question.
My best guess is that given the intimacy of this business, you really have to care about people, even if it's only for an hour at a time, to really enjoy and be good at it. So not only are many of these women extremely attractive, the ones who are relatively well adjusted, and are in this business by choice, are ususally very caring people. In fact I've met a couple of SP's who were really too sensitive to be in this business. One SP I know, and I kind you not, use to cry if she got a bad review.
Age may also play a factor in it this as well. Older people then to have thicker skins and can perhaps get jaded over time.
As to why many spouses don't have hearts of gold, relative to SP's, that's a hell of a question.
My best guess is that given the intimacy of this business, you really have to care about people, even if it's only for an hour at a time, to really enjoy and be good at it. So not only are many of these women extremely attractive, the ones who are relatively well adjusted, and are in this business by choice, are ususally very caring people. In fact I've met a couple of SP's who were really too sensitive to be in this business. One SP I know, and I kind you not, use to cry if she got a bad review.
Age may also play a factor in it this as well. Older people then to have thicker skins and can perhaps get jaded over time.
