Self-care
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Lots of time with my SO.
Lots of time with our dog.
Too many hours at the computer every day, but it pays the bills. And actually, I like the work.
Stay away from Vancouver. Since I'm not seeing SPs in this era of COVID, Vancouver really has nothing to attract me.
Whatever food and drink happens to appeal to me when I'm hungry or thirsty.
Early to bed and somewhat early to rise.
Spend several hours a day without thinking about Justin Trudeau or Donald Trump.
Lots of time with our dog.
Too many hours at the computer every day, but it pays the bills. And actually, I like the work.
Stay away from Vancouver. Since I'm not seeing SPs in this era of COVID, Vancouver really has nothing to attract me.
Whatever food and drink happens to appeal to me when I'm hungry or thirsty.
Early to bed and somewhat early to rise.
Spend several hours a day without thinking about Justin Trudeau or Donald Trump.
May take care of yourself leave healthier than may you can stay in hobby longer?
My dog.
Meditation.
Music for my soul.
A good story.
Sunsets, lakes, rivers, ocean.
Tofino.
Gym.
Laughter.
Poutine.
Meaningful conversation.
Sex and blowjobs.
(Not all in that order).
Meditation.
Music for my soul.
A good story.
Sunsets, lakes, rivers, ocean.
Tofino.
Gym.
Laughter.
Poutine.
Meaningful conversation.
Sex and blowjobs.
(Not all in that order).
1. I try to walk in the morning.
2. I drink a lot of water
3. Maintain a positive attitude throughout the day.
4. I pray
5. I play with my little daughter.
2. I drink a lot of water
3. Maintain a positive attitude throughout the day.
4. I pray
5. I play with my little daughter.
I have tried talking with someone. Trouble is, I can't afford it and it doesn't work. Also tried medication, but that was nightmarish.
My apologies Charlee, this was supposed to be an upbeat thread... carry on.
There are some newer options that are a bit more affordable, like betterhelp.com
Sometimes it takes time to find the right person, and the right meds. I went through several counsellors and three different kinds of meds before I found what worked for me. Don’t give up on yourself! You deserve to feel better than this. ? don’t apologize for needing help or feeling down, all of us do sometimes.
Don't apologise. You were on topic - you just didn't have answers, yet.
Having put it out there, you might even find that some of the ideas offered in response are useful. Even just the fact that Charlee takes the time to offer thoughtful replies is uplifting, isn't it?
Or like even if it isn’t uplifting that’s cool too ??♀ you’re still a human being who deserves to care for yourself whether it makes you feel better right away or not. Try treating yourself like a child, that’s what I do when I’m really struggling:
Grumpy? Take a nap
Hungry? Eat your vegetables then you can have some ice cream
Bathtime with bubbles and toys (whichever kind hehe)
Keep your room/house clean before you can watch tv!
Watch cartoons made for all ages like avatar: the last airbender or steven universe
Go to bed on time
Eat a good breakfast
back to basics ?
Forest walks with my dog
Netflix
Hot shower and fuzzy jammies
Cuddling
Really hot connections
Good food
Music
Therapy
Bodywork (giving and receiving)
A day of favourites
Netflix
Hot shower and fuzzy jammies
Cuddling
Really hot connections
Good food
Music
Therapy
Bodywork (giving and receiving)
A day of favourites
https://crisiscentre.bc.ca/
I am rarely serious and rarely helpful but loneliness and depression sucks. Not sure the above link can help but it might be worth a try.
Also if you are so inclined you might try reaching out to a Pastor, Priest, Rabbi or some individual who is responsible for the well being of people.
I have a lot of issues with churches and their interpretation of god for their own purposes but there are some good thing in relation to caring. Just don't drink the koolaid or see a Pastor name Jimmy Jones. Talk doesn't have to cost you.
I was laid off a couple of years ago and after a couple of rocky years I kicked myself in the ass and started walking/exercising, drinking less, eating better and being okay with myself....I'm having the time of my life , pooning and partying.
My life hasn’t changed much during this pandemic....but the neighbours dropping in to visit has grinded to a halt.
Ill still run a liner down to the coast full of finished beef, if the order is small enough, otherwise I’ll have them shipped by cattle liners....so that’ll get me to civilization about every six weeks or so.
About ten years ago I spent about 6 months completely alone, never seeing another soul....it was winter, and the road had given way, so the only way out was snowmobile.
I had enough food, and what I did run out of, some neighbours left in a cache about 10 miles away....you can do complete isolation if it’s necessary, although you end up learning an awful lot about yourself, and what your made of.
My house was spotless, I found I was a half ways creative cook....and I have 679 hardwood oak planks downstairs on my house floor.
I spent hours slamming a punching bag, cleaned all my guns twice, which took about a week, cleaned and polished my horse tack, then did some leatherwork repairs on them.
All the while caring for my stock, during the deep freeze....
I suppose this winter I will count the hardwood planks in the upper floor of my house...and make a trip or two down to the lower mainland....Does anyone know if Tiger Spa has parking for a diesel hauling a stock trailer?
Ill still run a liner down to the coast full of finished beef, if the order is small enough, otherwise I’ll have them shipped by cattle liners....so that’ll get me to civilization about every six weeks or so.
About ten years ago I spent about 6 months completely alone, never seeing another soul....it was winter, and the road had given way, so the only way out was snowmobile.
I had enough food, and what I did run out of, some neighbours left in a cache about 10 miles away....you can do complete isolation if it’s necessary, although you end up learning an awful lot about yourself, and what your made of.
My house was spotless, I found I was a half ways creative cook....and I have 679 hardwood oak planks downstairs on my house floor.
I spent hours slamming a punching bag, cleaned all my guns twice, which took about a week, cleaned and polished my horse tack, then did some leatherwork repairs on them.
All the while caring for my stock, during the deep freeze....
I suppose this winter I will count the hardwood planks in the upper floor of my house...and make a trip or two down to the lower mainland....Does anyone know if Tiger Spa has parking for a diesel hauling a stock trailer?
I drink and try to piss off people on the interweb, it is awsome I wake up and feel sooo much better, on a serious note, check you works healthcare, I just found out mine has counselling, never knew that
One thing I do for self care.....I will turn on the satellite to Global News.....and swear at the TV for an hour.
It is extremely important to take a day off from this crazy crazy world. Here is what I have been doing for quiet sometime to keep sane and happy.
1. Hit the gym.....hit it HARD. I'm one of those guys who like to breath hard and sweat at the gym
2. Eat CLEAN. Don't get me know wrong, I love eating new food and try different cusines. I do love my burgers and fries. But 90% of my diet it clean...& I don't over eat.
3. Digital detox
4. Stop giving a FUCK about every single little thing. Read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson and you know what I'm talking about
1. Hit the gym.....hit it HARD. I'm one of those guys who like to breath hard and sweat at the gym
2. Eat CLEAN. Don't get me know wrong, I love eating new food and try different cusines. I do love my burgers and fries. But 90% of my diet it clean...& I don't over eat.
3. Digital detox
4. Stop giving a FUCK about every single little thing. Read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson and you know what I'm talking about
1. Weed, weed, weed
2. Loud music (good with weed), which can lead to loud, somewhat rhythmic clapping so I can pretend like I'm at a show
3. Scalding hot baths
4. Discovering the wonders of nature
2. Loud music (good with weed), which can lead to loud, somewhat rhythmic clapping so I can pretend like I'm at a show
3. Scalding hot baths
4. Discovering the wonders of nature
As a single, older gentleman (he writes as he self promotes the gentleman aspect ..) living alone my sanity routines are pretty straightforward. All in addition to keeping in touch with my kids and various friends and in no particular order, all intertwined with my work and all important to et moi:
- maintain a schedule of eating well and getting proper sleep (and that included me bucking up 6 grand a while back for one fuck of a nice bed!)
- regular aerobic + weights in my 3-5 times weekly workout.
- lucky enough to have an infrared sauna that I added a very nice small sound system to so the post workout or early morning sessions are meditative as well as really good for me.
- got reintroduced to the art of sitting in my living room with the fireplace on, enjoying a dram and reading. Yes reading. Books.
- wood working - I fitted out my garage with a kick ass shop all on wheels so I can still get my car in. Have been building for years but just got into making layered picture frames and have been gilding with amazing effects.
- really enjoy cooking. The whole process from gathering the ingredients to the final meal. You tube has been a real friend.
- and of course. Sex. Good sex. Anytime of the day or night with a wide range of lovely women.
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1. Two hours of sunlight a day. Winter time there is less daytime sun. I like to walk or sitting by a window during lunch
2. Sleep. Not too much and not to little Weekends to catch up sometimes
3 Working out. Not everyday But something aerobic for 15 mins 3x a week
4 Eating well. Again not too much or little
Variety , I like to cook something different
5 Music. Helps me focus and stay energized
6 Sex. I an more into quality than quantity now
2. Sleep. Not too much and not to little Weekends to catch up sometimes
3 Working out. Not everyday But something aerobic for 15 mins 3x a week
4 Eating well. Again not too much or little
Variety , I like to cook something different
5 Music. Helps me focus and stay energized
6 Sex. I an more into quality than quantity now
