Seeing an SP while in a relationship, need advice

[white Ninja]

I genuinely wonder how everyone affords to see SPs often. For me itd have to be a once every year thing MAX otherwise my finances would definitely be hurting.

You will surprise yourself , how creative you become , how hard you start to work ( endless overtime hrs ) , how great you suddenly become at saving ( at the sacrifice of your social life or personal passions ) .

My original plan was to give myself a hall pass to scratch an itch once per yr .
At the time I too thought it was a lot to spend .
That was 6 yrs ago .
Gradually it increases.
I’m now up to about 6-10 times per yr .

Not to Mention when I was new all the hrs I spent on Perb researching different ladies to make sure I picked the right ladies .

Finally , once you get used to sticking your D in rando’s who will happily do things your girlfriend won’t do unless it’s your birthday ( if your lucky ) and who likely do at least one of those things much much better

Having sex w your girlfriend is not going to be quite as thrilling as it used to be .
So if the sex w her not enough for you now ,
Fill in the blanks ….

 

[white Ninja]

I genuinely wonder how everyone affords to see SPs often. For me itd have to be a once every year thing MAX otherwise my finances would definitely be hurting.


Thats very good advice, honestly what I had in mind was basically to just worship a thick booty for like an hour and end it in a HJ so thats kinda in line with my thinking. I definitely also had that thought that she might know my gf, which definitely would be unfortunate. The SP i was looking into is traveling from a different city thought so that would help make me feel less worried. Idk I'm leaning on just holding this urge in but we'll see.

Your better off investing in therapy , in the end it will likely be cheaper as well .

 

[MisterMR]

Looking for advice, wondering how everyone here feels about seeing an SP while dating. My girlfriend is amazing but theres things I cant help but fantasize about, and I keep trying to convince myself that if I get it out of my system then I will be good. I find myself fantasizing about women with body types different than my gf, and I'm struggling with not pulling the trigger on paying a SP to help me get the fantasy out of my system.

Just looking for advice since these urges are strong and its getting harder to not pull the trigger since I've found the profile of an SP who ticks all my boxes.

Ask your girlfriend how'd she feel about you seeing other women who tick the boxes that she is missing. Look at it from her perspective. Would you want her to be fooling around with other men who have traits that turn her on that you don't have?

"Honey, I want to explore sex with other women because you just don't do it for me."

Break up with your girlfriend. You are not married to her and you owe her nothing. Set her free. You are not a match and there are plenty of fish in the sea.

 

[brown.sugar]

Seems like a lot of people on here regret going down this path. I myself am pro starting seeing providers and usually encourage people to do it. Life is short enjoy it however you see fit. Though always stick to what you can afford. Applies to life in general.

Seeing providers on a regular basis has certainly increased my quality of life, expensive hobby but worth it for me personally.

 

[GeeBeeP]

Seems like a lot of people on here regret going down this path. I myself am pro starting seeing providers and usually encourage people to do it. Life is short enjoy it however you see fit. Though always stick to what you can afford. Applies to life in general.

Seeing providers on a regular basis has certainly increased my quality of life, expensive hobby but worth it for me personally.

I agree.

I started out telling myself it was a one time thing and the itch dad been scratched. How many hundreds of us on here said that I wonder? Obviously it wasn’t the case and I’m still doing it years later.

But I don’t regret it. Pleasure was missing from my life and my quality of life, and mental state are all healthier because of SP's. Yep it’s cost me a fair chunk of cash. But I’m scewing hot women on a regular basis.

I’m a better guy to be around and TBH a better husband than I was before.

 

[Banged_Up]

I live by this…
“Suckin’ ain’t fuckin’,
And eatin’ ain’t cheatin’.”

 

[VinVan]

If your SO would dump you because of a relationship (whether emotional or physical) outside of your existing one, then it’s cheating. It’s not anymore complicated than that.

 

[lukom]

If your SO would dump you because of a relationship (whether emotional or physical) outside of your existing one, then it’s cheating. It’s not anymore complicated than that.

It isn't a relationship when it's transactional.

 

[VanCityNewb]

It isn't a relationship when it's transactional.

Sounds like a transactional relationship, lol.

 

[poolerbrian4]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I think I'm going to hold off on this. I'm going to try cutting back on the porn and just initiate sex more with my gf and maybe this will help get these urges out of my head. There might be women out there with a body more sexually attractive than my gf, but she has the prettiest soul of anyone I've ever met and she doesnt deserve this. Probably gonna see a therapist about this lol.

 

[VinVan]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I think I'm going to hold off on this. I'm going to try cutting back on the porn and just initiate sex more with my gf and maybe this will help get these urges out of my head. There might be women out there with a body more sexually attractive than my gf, but she has the prettiest soul of anyone I've ever met and she doesnt deserve this. Probably gonna see a therapist about this lol.

You are far wiser and principled than I am. Kudos to you.

 

[YaletownFuckboi]

Another note: if you do it, avoid BBBJ at all costs. thats how you catch something.

 

[tymyshoe]

Another note: if you do it, avoid BBBJ at all costs. thats how you catch something.

Yup

 

[MikeyLikey99]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I think I'm going to hold off on this. I'm going to try cutting back on the porn and just initiate sex more with my gf and maybe this will help get these urges out of my head. There might be women out there with a body more sexually attractive than my gf, but she has the prettiest soul of anyone I've ever met and she doesnt deserve this. Probably gonna see a therapist about this lol.

Good call dude! Much respect ✊

 

[Pornholio]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I think I'm going to hold off on this. I'm going to try cutting back on the porn and just initiate sex more with my gf and maybe this will help get these urges out of my head. There might be women out there with a body more sexually attractive than my gf, but she has the prettiest soul of anyone I've ever met and she doesnt deserve this. Probably gonna see a therapist about this lol.

Great choices. Good for you.

 

[lukom]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I think I'm going to hold off on this. I'm going to try cutting back on the porn and just initiate sex more with my gf and maybe this will help get these urges out of my head. There might be women out there with a body more sexually attractive than my gf, but she has the prettiest soul of anyone I've ever met and she doesnt deserve this. Probably gonna see a therapist about this lol.

That's not a bad idea. Some of this can be addictive. I generally don't see SPs for safety reasons when I'm in a relationship, but I'm bound to be single for life, and occasion semi committed lol

 

[ChromeGasCap]

We all have our reasons for seeing SPs as well as not seeing SPs.
The reasons are truely a personal thing, that must be reconciled to ones personal conscience.
I am glad you were able to reconcile.

 

[rampart]

Do you want to eat fried chicken every meal even though it is your favorite dinner? I am happy changing things up every once in a while with a different entree but know the fried chicken will always be there.

 

[blondeluver]

As Rina and many others have said elsewhere, this isn’t generally something you just do once and get out of your system.

Well, but we still need to go for dental cleaning once every 3 to 6 months...annual physical checkup you know so why not? LOL

Jokingly aside, don't do it if you are happily in a relationship or marriage. When she becomes jaded and not putting out or acting like a dead fish then it is time for that visit.

 

[Illuminated]

Just looking for advice since these urges are strong and its getting harder to not pull the trigger since I've found the profile of an SP who ticks all my boxes.
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Seeing an SP while you are in a relationship is cheating. But it is better than having am emotional affair.
You live only once, so if you see a 😽 you want to lick or 🍑 you want to eat, just go for it. Obviously only if you can afford it. Treat it like a spa day.
Remember you live only once, live your life to the fullest and be happy.