I've never had any inclination to cheat on any woman, when my wife was deathly sick, she gave me permission to see escorts and I told her that I didn't want that. That I would stick by her through thick and thin. I've always felt that if the relationships going south and sex has left that relationship, I'd much rather be single
Seeing a SP outside of work?
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I have to agree. I should have worded it better, because it is definitely not like any job, It takes a very special woman to be in this trade.
Although don't confuse Sex with Intimacy, they are not the same!
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highly respectable.
so the SP's you dated also stopped seeing clients/ having sex with other men when you were together with them?
Couple tried , but it's a funny business. You get used to the gobs of cash and it draws some ladies back, working min wage or making a few hundred a day is a tough decision sometimes. Me I'm easy going so I didn't really mind
It can be done if both agree to never talk about it. You both know it’s there and asking questions or making statements is out of bounds.
Lots of self control and maturity helps.
Lots of self control and maturity helps.
What did she say that made it clear to you that you wouldn’t be paying anything?
Even with a civie date I pay for meal, movie, concert etc
How did she specify there be no money transaction for sex?
The only difference is the fact that people think there’s a difference. It’s the stigma and prejudice. I had more negative experiences and was assaulted more working in bars than I have been at this job, but guys never seemed to think I shouldn’t be working in bars.
The fact that you think our lives are different because of the job instead of because of the perception of the job shows you don’t have what it takes to date an escort.
Also I don’t see why you don’t think women could “never understand it”. I think usually our relationships end because of a lack of understanding from our partners.
I’ll also remind you that gay women and male sex workers exist 🙃
DISCLAIMER: I AM GENERALIZING.
Sex workers often make great casual partners or friends with benefits,
but they make for terrible partners for long-term relationships or anything serious.
If you are aware of that, then go ahead and do it.
Sex workers often make great casual partners or friends with benefits,
but they make for terrible partners for long-term relationships or anything serious.
If you are aware of that, then go ahead and do it.
Damn i wish someone reaches out to me at their work too.
But im ugly AF
But im ugly AF
I cant say I have any kind of experiances like that but since she said this will be off the clock the likes you. How she likes you? You would have a better idea than me but she like the time youve spent together and wants to explore it further.
Just go at whatever pace seems natural. As far as caution, just make sure you don't find yourself expecting anything because of how you met her. You sound like good and respectful young guy so I don't think that will be a problem.
IIts a shame she will be leaving the country soon I hope things go well for the time she still got here.
Just go at whatever pace seems natural. As far as caution, just make sure you don't find yourself expecting anything because of how you met her. You sound like good and respectful young guy so I don't think that will be a problem.
IIts a shame she will be leaving the country soon I hope things go well for the time she still got here.
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Where did you get that quote from? If you are going to quote us, at least be accurate.
Im glad i was born the least jealous person in the world, i believe we are meant to enjoy who we enjoy, no boundaries, im kind of against the whole marriage thing myself but thats a different topic.
I think its awesome when people try new things and go outside of their comfort zone, you never know what you like or dont like until you try something, all i can say is dont be a dick and always choose kindness no matter what. Ive had some of the best times with people i never thought to hang out with
I think its awesome when people try new things and go outside of their comfort zone, you never know what you like or dont like until you try something, all i can say is dont be a dick and always choose kindness no matter what. Ive had some of the best times with people i never thought to hang out with
Thats not the point here, consider you are giving your heart and soul for someone at the best level of your kindness with your open mind but how will you make sure the person on other side is not using your kindness and humility to make fool out of you and exploit you?
Considering SPs skill is to fake connection and chemsitry, you have no chance to asses SP is really in you.
Any person is capable of what you just said not just an SP, people fake it all the time, get married, take half and walk away like nothing happened
Partially disagree with you, SPs are best at it. You are talking about 5% out of 100s Vs 100% out of 100s
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A few random thoughts .
A women usually wouldn’t ask a guy out unless she is seriously crushing on him at the very least. Except even when a women is just crushing there is still likely more emotions involved than when a guy does.
The only other time she would ask him out would be of course if the girl is fairly Machiavellian and see’s an opportunity.
Any experienced SP is going to have a lot more street smarts as well as understanding of knowing how to pull someone’s strings like a puppet more so than most men let alone an inexperienced one.
The challenges of dating any sex worker will be similar to the challenges of being polyamorous.
I once watched a friend of a friend fall in love w a stripper . At first he seemed to handle It, however over time as his feelings grew so did his jealousy .
She of course was never going to leave the job . but she also didn’t leave him nore did he leave her.
We all watched as it turned into a completely dysfunctional relationship . Ending with him a shell of the person he once was, and her walking away w the majority of the boundaries & self esteem and him just a sliver .
Not saying this would happen to every guy , but I am saying that this guy thought he could handle it , & in the end he couldn’t .
I’m sure I can’t be the only guy w an ex GF who started off as a casual FWB / hookup w zero intention of it turning into anything more, and then it did !
A women usually wouldn’t ask a guy out unless she is seriously crushing on him at the very least. Except even when a women is just crushing there is still likely more emotions involved than when a guy does.
The only other time she would ask him out would be of course if the girl is fairly Machiavellian and see’s an opportunity.
Any experienced SP is going to have a lot more street smarts as well as understanding of knowing how to pull someone’s strings like a puppet more so than most men let alone an inexperienced one.
The challenges of dating any sex worker will be similar to the challenges of being polyamorous.
I once watched a friend of a friend fall in love w a stripper . At first he seemed to handle It, however over time as his feelings grew so did his jealousy .
She of course was never going to leave the job . but she also didn’t leave him nore did he leave her.
We all watched as it turned into a completely dysfunctional relationship . Ending with him a shell of the person he once was, and her walking away w the majority of the boundaries & self esteem and him just a sliver .
Not saying this would happen to every guy , but I am saying that this guy thought he could handle it , & in the end he couldn’t .
I’m sure I can’t be the only guy w an ex GF who started off as a casual FWB / hookup w zero intention of it turning into anything more, and then it did !
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Is she well know around these parts and well reviewed?
are you obviously wealthy?
as an overly cautious person I suggest you test the waters you stud and manage your expectations, trust your gut as things play out and consider all the very valid arguments posted here. It’ll be a tricky situation to navigate, especially being young - not to imply all young people are immature.
That said, maybe on the first few dates be smart and keep your wits about you (don’t get smashed), don’t take her back to your place, and keep a close eye on your phone and ID/personal info if you decide to spend the night together - at least until you’ve had the chance to assess as best you can her character and motives, and even perhaps a brief light conversation about what you both are hoping to get out of it…..if either of you actually know, but that’s a valid response as well.
Don’t need to overthink it yet and take the win, but keep your street smarts about you for at least 2-3 dates.
hope that helps - and good luck you stud!
Totally envious, albeit old and slightly jaded.
are you obviously wealthy?
as an overly cautious person I suggest you test the waters you stud and manage your expectations, trust your gut as things play out and consider all the very valid arguments posted here. It’ll be a tricky situation to navigate, especially being young - not to imply all young people are immature.
That said, maybe on the first few dates be smart and keep your wits about you (don’t get smashed), don’t take her back to your place, and keep a close eye on your phone and ID/personal info if you decide to spend the night together - at least until you’ve had the chance to assess as best you can her character and motives, and even perhaps a brief light conversation about what you both are hoping to get out of it…..if either of you actually know, but that’s a valid response as well.
Don’t need to overthink it yet and take the win, but keep your street smarts about you for at least 2-3 dates.
hope that helps - and good luck you stud!
Totally envious, albeit old and slightly jaded.
