Seeing a SP outside of work?

[PradaLover]

Found myself in an interesting situation i’ve never been in before.

Context: 2nd time seeing this particular SP, first time there was great connection. Yet she asked me some personal questions. The second time around she essentially asked me out on a date and wanted to exchange personal contact information.
I took down her number and let her know that i’d reach out later on.

Anyways, how do I navigate this? Is this something that happens? I understand that whatever happens during a session may not be “real” but seeing as I was the one that was invited out must be real?

She made it clear that this “date” wouldn’t be during work hours so I wouldn’t be paying anything.

I’m young, not a lot of experience in this field to begin with. Both hobby wise and real life.

Should I be cautious with moving forward? I’d like to think we’re both on the same page in regarding how this would be casual, seeing as she’s going back home in a few months.

Any insight would be appreciated!

 

[ExpCharlee]

Bruh it’s just like any other person you’d meet at their work who expressed interest. If you're 100% sure it’s unpaid and you’ve clarified that, treat her like a human being and just live your lives

 

[VinVan]

It’s certainly not unheard of. And even if it’s a casual date, her job (at the moment) involves exchanging cash with strangers for sex. Do an internal check with your feelings to make sure you’re okay with that; some guys are, and others, it turns them into jealous control freaks.

 

[$Mansion]

and others, it turns them into jealous control freaks.

Some guys just don't like it, find it unattractive, and are respectful and polite about their preferences.

 

[rampart]

The two things that you have said about yourself "I’m young, not a lot of experience in this field to begin with. Both hobby wise and real life." says a lot. Good to gain some experiences with relationships and one night stands, but I would stick with civilians for the relationship parts to start with. While I agree with Charlee with what she said when the dollar signs come into play as a big part of any persons life there are those that will use their power to gain more. My experience is that greed is stronger than benevolence in this world.

 

[PradaLover]

It’s certainly not unheard of. And even if it’s a casual date, her job (at the moment) involves exchanging cash with strangers for sex. Do an internal check with your feelings to make sure you’re okay with that; some guys are, and others, it turns them into jealous control freaks.

Seeing as this would be a casual/short-term fling it’s not something that bothers me. To be fair i’m one of those customers lol

Appreciate the insight

 

[PradaLover]

Bruh it’s just like any other person you’d meet at their work who expressed interest. If you're 100% sure it’s unpaid and you’ve clarified that, treat her like a human being and just live your lives

Fair enough! Guess I don’t really have anything to worry about if everything was communicated

 

[SSL Management]

Many SP's over the years have met their SO's in this manner. It is a job, however It takes a very special woman to be in this trade. People get hinky when sex is involved, but in reality it is simply a job. And not a very easy one at that.

It is the same as if you met her working at a bar or wherever. You have simply jumped right past the seeing each other naked part and awkwardness of finding out she is an SP.

SP's have personal lives outside of the trade and just like any other woman, want to date and hopefully meet someone they can enjoy the company of, outside of the trade. There are those that will argue, how could you date an SP knowing she has been with so may other men? Those with that opinion need to get over the prejudicial attitudes and learn the difference between their JOB and their personal lives. One does not define the other.
SSL

 

[vitaminD]

SP's have personal lives outside of the trade and just like any other woman, want to date and hopefully meet someone they can enjoy the company of, outside of the trade. There are those that will argue, how could you date an SP knowing she has been with so may other men? Those with that opinion need to get over the prejudicial attitudes and learn the difference between their JOB and their personal lives. One does not define the other.
SSL

One day, I hope to live in a world where men aren't shamed for having standards and preferences.
If a man doesn't consent to wanting to date a current or former escort, that is his (very reasonable) decision, and he should not be shamed for it, or be called "prejudiced".
A person's job can often play a big role in shaping who they are.

 

[ExpCharlee]

Fair enough! Guess I don’t really have anything to worry about if everything was communicated

Yeah. Just don’t be a dick about her job. 😂

 

[grusse]

I think a lot of guys would love this "dilemma" if that's a suitable word?

I've been in a situation a few times of seeing a lady on her off-days and it felt like a date but there was still a monetary component.
In every case it was short-term with the girl returning to Asia after a few "dates".

I'd say...go for it!

 

[unc]

you sound naive and admitted as much.

if you do keep your wits about you.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

Don't over think this.
Go out with her, have fun, have sex, have more fun and more sex.
Then when its over, you know you had fun and sex.

 

[Hawker17]

Don't over think this.
Go out with her, have fun, have sex, have more fun and more sex.
Then when its over, you know you had fun and sex.

Couldnt have said it better myself, people need to stop worrying so much, go out and enjoy life and other peoples company.

have new experiences and enjoy it while you can , never know what type of adventure life can take you on

 

[maniacalone]

Many SP's over the years have met their SO's in this manner. It is a job, just like any other job. People get hinky when sex is involved, but in reality it is simply a job. And not a very easy one at that.

It is the same as if you met her working at a bar or wherever. You have simply jumped right past the seeing each other naked part and awkwardness of finding out she is an SP.

SP's have personal lives outside of the trade and just like any other woman, want to date and hopefully meet someone they can enjoy the company of, outside of the trade. There are those that will argue, how could you date an SP knowing she has been with so may other men? Those with that opinion need to get over the prejudicial attitudes and learn the difference between their JOB and their personal lives. One does not define the other.
SSL

I adore women and the many great providers I have crossed paths with in life. However, dating a sex worker requires a level of mental strength and understanding no women on here can comprehend.

To say escorting “is a job, like any other job” is peak level delusion.

It is not the nudity that makes porn, art has nakedness all the time, it is the perversion of the intimacy and the people involved in the industry that makes it a game changer when one considers dating escorts.

 

[luvsdaty]

It's something that you have to be mature about. I've dated more than a few escorts in my 40 + Years in this hobby. I was even married to an sp. Respect, boundaries, understanding, all very important. Often these ladies deal with very misogynistic angry men,so it's not hard to bring that home and pile it on you,are you mature enough to handle that?
My mother in law gave me some sage advice," Don't throw her work in her face if you're having an argument, once those words leave your mouth, they can never be unsaid" And she'll never let you forget that you said such hurtful things. Good luck to you👍

 

[vitaminD]

I've dated more than a few escorts in my 40 + Years in this hobby. I was even married to an sp.

were you allowed to have sex with other woman when you were dating/married to SP's? or was it only open on her end? or did they stop whilst you were dating?

 

[plodoublesuited]

Do you have (romantic) feelings for her? Then don't.

If you don't have the feelings for her, then have a date and have fun.

My personal experience:
I liked a SP (sex-wise) enough to visit her multiple times. She asked me out for food, etc one night after a paid session. We had a blast.

I simply treated as a date with some attractive girl I met at a Starbucks.
We hung out once a week for a few month (I paid for dinner, drinks, etc.) Always ended up at her place for a couple of hours of fucking. I always left her 1 hour donation on her kitchen counter when I leave.
(She said no money is needed but i always did as a line to keep for myself) I was getting more time/services than what I was paying.
It continued for a few month before we went separate ways. Never saw her again as a SP.

Consider yourself lucky and have fun.
(Don't get too attached tho)

 

[Americanboy]

If you only want something casual, go ahead.
.I would only be careful if you're a guy who gets attached easily.
You can also tell her right away that you're not interested in anything serious or a relationship and just want something casual.

But I would recommend not getting into a serious relationship with an escort (former or current) unless you are a very unique guy with non-typical dating preferences.

 

[dare.devil]

I would like to provide some comments and then and let you conclude if its just a job.
If you do a job for a long time it becomes the part of your personality. If you never heard of a study done for jailers-prisoners switch, go read it. They are called Zimabrdo experiment and Marshall projects. Its true for extreme condition jobs like Armymen went to war, Police in high crime environment and escorting.

On the other hand I still believe that people can change if SP switch the job from being escort to a working partner, its all fine. Some men are OK with their partner doing sex with others, even in front of them, so I am keeping those cases aside.

Overall my suggestion is, if she keeps on doing the job while in relationship, stay away because if she keeps on doing for money with random people, dont be in delustion that its THE connection that you can go ahead in relation with her.

If you want to learn in hard way or just looking for great sex in a relationship go ahead. Keep in mind that you can get great sex is as low as 300 dollars.

No matter what SPs say 99% of them don't enjoy their jobs. If you don't understand this, just try to keep your dick 10 times a day in pussy, you will lose the enjoyment. What I want to say is it's all about money at the core. Want to prove it's a real relationship try to pretend you are broke and the connection will vanish eventually and if it's real it will stay.

Edit: If you are capable of keeping feelings aside there is nothing wrong dating with SPs, they are human also and its just they are working in a hostile environment which comes with many other things like period suppression, being high to keep up with energetic sex many times a day, mental health issues etc.