The only difference is the fact that people think there’s a difference. It’s the stigma and prejudice. I had more negative experiences and was assaulted more working in bars than I have been at this job, but guys never seemed to think I shouldn’t be working in bars.
The fact that you think our lives are different because of the job instead of because of the perception of the job shows you don’t have what it takes to date an escort.
Also I don’t see why you don’t think women could “never understand it”. I think usually our relationships end because of a lack of understanding from our partners.
I’ll also remind you that gay women and male sex workers exist 🙃
Society is so flipping weird about love, sex and, let's be honest here, the sense of ownership that society still defaults to where being in a relationship basically implies that the man assumes sole possession of the woman's sex life as some sort of messed up property.
I like your comment of "have what it takes to date an escort" because I feel that this whole intertwining of emotion and sex needs to be unwound. I'd be much more concerned about an emotional affair with or without sex that a partner engages in then whether my partner's business involves getting paid large sums of money to basically provide therapy and have orgasms. Frankly, I'm a bit jealous that my business isn't as much fun.
If somebody is paid for their time and service and chooses to spend the rest of their time and actual passion with you after all that, then fuck it, consider yourself lucky.
My biggest problem is that it's hard to find the qualities I find most admirable in civilian life: entrepreneurship, intelligence, beauty, confidence, rejection of BS societal norms, and personal resilience. I have a lot of respect for the women who approach this as a skilled career, frankly like a pro athlete (I know those lovely butts dont just happen), and I'm sorry the hypocritical stigma loses them a lot of opportunity for legitimate connections due to misplaced judgment.
That being said, after decades of being raised in that BS stigma soup, would I be able to separate those feelings? Really not sure.