Running into your SP on the street?

[Valium]

So the answer to this stupid question is WALK RIGHT PAST HER ...

I would walk up and slap her ass.

Unfortunately i have never seen any SP's i know in public, except when i am with them.

 

[visiting]

Anyone had the experience of running into your SP....

Not everyone is blind, walk/run around them at least....


Funny thing, I have never bumped into an SP, (outside "Office Hours")... (well, that I knew was an SP anyway ) The majority of folks in this hobby want to remain in "stealth mode" , from SP's to guys. So I think the real question is does everyone realize that?

There are more threads on this topic than there are on BBBJ! It seems someone starts a new one every couple of weeks.

Unless you're absolutely certain BOTH of you are alone, you don't know each other. PERIOD!!

Now your talking!

...JUST KEEP WALKING.
If you see me on the street and you recognize me from my pictures...
FUCK OFF....

Blunt fully yours.
D.

Yeah!!!

 

[Small pleasures]

I wonder if it was because he was mad that I acknowledged him or if perhaps he was actually offended that I didn't stop & chat? I have had guys before be hurt that I didn't say hi when I saw them on the street.

I passed a client on the street once and he contacted me after very upset I didn't acknowledge him. He was with a friend and so was I.

He's on Perb a lot and will probably read this. I explained what has been said dozens of times in this thread and in others that the protocol is to not acknowledge each other for discretion.

He was and probably still is bent out of shape about it. I think he thought I was a snob.

I saw another one recently at the airport with his SO. We made eye contact for a second and as we both placed each other looked away and didn't look again. Perfect.

I saw another one in a lingerie shop (probably buying for himself: crossdresser) he was alone but I was with a man. Again we made eye contact and then not again. Perfect.

 

[Horse99]

same as meeting your boss in the hallway

make eye contact and move on...otherwise more grief (work or other) is coming your way

 

[HeMadeMeDoIt]

Your head is in the clouds on this. Yes, we need variety...that is why we remain single. You don't think it's wrong for a married man to see a SP? But you would object if your husband saw one without you?

A handful of women who abhor sex are more than happy if their rich executive husband goes out and gets it elsewhere but they would for sure be in the minority.

I think banging whores is a lot less complicated and constitutes a much less "cheating offence" within the confines of a marriage. Lets face it some women get lazy and useless once you've been married for a bit and we need action without the emotional involvement/entanglements of an affair.

 

[Violet]

I do not think it's wrong for a married man to see an SP. And not just because if I did I'd be out of business

I think there a lot of reasons why men cheat & many marriages are probably kept together by the man seeing an SP, because if he couldn't he might end up having an affair or even getting a divorce just because he wasn't fulfilled sexually. Is it realistic to think that one person can fulfil every single one of our needs for the rest of our lives, including mentally, emotionally, physically (affection etc), sexually, intellectually? What if you're in a perfectly good marriage & you love your wife & don't want to leave her, but you are not getting any sex or what little sex there is is doing nothing for you? I personally think going to see an escort is a lot less harmful to everyone invloved than having an affair where you might fall in love with the woman or vice versa, & there would be strings attached & people would be far more likely to find out... I honestly wouldn't mind if I was married & was for whatever reason not willing to have sex very much anymore (although in reality that would never happen ) & my husband went to an SP. At least he would be playing safe & not hurting anyone. What would bother me, though, was if he was IN LOVE with another woman (regarless of whether sex was involved or not), or cheating on me just to hurt me or because he secretly didn't want to be with me at all anymore. I think most women are more hurt by emotional cheating, not physical.

And here's a question for the guys: if an SP did smile & say hello on the street, would you never see her again without explanation? Or, on the contrary, if you said hello but she ignored you?

 

[trackstar]

And here's a question for the guys: if an SP did smile & say hello on the street, would you never see her again without explanation? Or, on the contrary, if you said hello but she ignored you?

(Don't make eye contact, don't make eye contact, she's not really saying hi to me, don't make eye contact)

 

[Lilly Wild]

i know i didnt get into the biz to...

i know if i were walking alone, i would be totally caught off guard and feel really uncomfortable if a guy i knew this way came up to me on the street and said hi or anything. if i was with ANYONE i would absolutely DIE... discretion is absolutely key for me due to my day job... and aside from that, its just a better experience for me, to keep my fantasy's my fantasy's... don't you like the idea of having your dream girl stay in your dreams and having her be a real person only for one satisfying passionate hour whenever you so desire? isn't the whole point of seeing a call girl to have a time that is your little secret far FAR away from any public knowledge? to fulfill your intimate needs for the hour and leave all the drama that touches of any other type of relationship you have in your life at the door? not have to deal with any of the unpleasantness or awkwardness mentioned in this thread?

i know when i decided to get into it, that i thought that to be a high class call girl would absolutely get me off as being the ultimate naughty dirty little secret... it wasn't to meet someone to have an outside relationship with...

i hope that that doesn't come out with me sounding like a bitch or anything, its my own opinion, and its true... trust me, when we are together, everything i feel at the moment during a call; the kindness/passion/whatever i express physically or emotionally as a person during the session is real, its just more of a heat of the moment kind of thing.. i thought that's one of the perks of hiring one of the many lovely ladies available to you lucky guys.
-Lilly Wild
oXXXo

 

[trackstar]

Are you crazy??? That's EXACTLY when they are all about sex!

 

[trackstar]

I think we have different opinions of what constitutes middle aged.

Middle age
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

The US Census lists middle age as including both the age categories 35 to 44 and 45 to 54

 

[Markl]

Depends on the person Dood... personally I could have sex all day long, everyday and still be in the mood.. and yes I'm a guy who likes only women.

Though half hour breaks to drink water would be good.

 

[Feenix]

I wonder if there is a marriage out there like that or is my head in the clouds again?!

Danika, I think there are marriages out there like that. You will find many such relationships in the swinging community.

A friend of mine has been a swinger since long before it became a common term. She and her husband have been together for many years.

If I were numerous years younger, I could see myself being involved with a woman who enjoyed the company of other men and women, just as you described. I regret that the internet was not around when I was younger, because that would make the life style much easier to find and be part of.

If you want an older... but not more mature man... give me a call.

 

[AA_Train]

If I saw an SP I knew on the street, the most I'd do is a wink and a smile, just to acknowledge her , but only if she was alone. If I was alone and she decided to come up and say hi, I wouldn't object to that but certainly wouldn't expect it. I'd like to think I've developed a pretty good rapport with a few of the ladies I've seen and wouldn't mind having a chat with them if they felt comfortable enough to do so. I do realize that this may cross a line, but I've always liked to live dangerously

When it comes to marriage relationships and SPs, I'm from the perspective that if you aren't getting a reasonable amount of sex with your wife and she is unwillingly to do something about it, you probably shouldn't be married and probably shouldn't have married her in the first place. You will only be happy with your SO if they have a sex drive that is close to yours, hence why I'm still single. I have only had a couple girlfriends who had a sex drive comparable to mine. I'm old-fashioned when it comes to commited relationships and marriage. I think it's because many women find sex a chore or see it as taboo or have insecurity issues, I'm sure we could turn such speculations into a thread on it's own. I'd like to be a one woman guy for the companionship and security that comes with it. If people on this board who have found people who like the idea of swinging and open relationships, more power to them. It's just not me, hence the whole single thing.

 

[Markl]

If I ran into my SP on the street and we were both alone, I am sure she'd stop and chat.

If she was with someone (especially a guy) I'd ignore them unless she greeted me.

 

[Violet]

Course...if the shoe was on the other foot and the guy found out his chick was banging a male escort, the dude would freak. Not only would he be cheated, but his ego would be fucked up. Imagine how the typical straight male would feel if his GF said to him "I paid for sex because you were bad in bed".

Nice try tho. Not much different than want a 3way with 2 women then discover oh shit, my wife likes the woman MORE THAN ME. Then it's resentment time

And if you're wife isn't putting out, maybe it's not her, maybe it's you. You want your wife to get down and suck your cock, well you get down and eat that pussy. It's a 50 50 deal brothers..

Yes that is true that most guys would be very mad if their SO was seeing a male escort, but that is because there are a lot of sexist double standards. Men & women are very different in why they are hurt by cheating. In most cases a man is hurt by sexual cheating & thinks this is an insult to his sexual prowess or that no other man should have his woman, whereas women are much more concerned about the emotional cheating or if the guy is IN LOVE with another woman. Also I was not saying all women would be totally ok with their men seeing escorts, but for many it's a lot better than the alternatives of an affair or divorce etc. Of course I would be mad if I was married & my husband said "I'm banging hookers cuz you suck in bed", but I would not be that mad if I was unwilling or unable to have sex & he was tactfully doing it without it being in my face. Those are the cases I was talking about. For men who do it because they just need something different or crave diversity, perhaps that is the only way they can be in a long-term relationship & as long as it's not hurting their partner & they're being safe, who are we to judge?

When it comes to marriage relationships and SPs, I'm from the perspective that if you aren't getting a reasonable amount of sex with your wife and she is unwillingly to do something about it, you probably shouldn't be married and probably shouldn't have married her in the first place. You will only be happy with your SO if they have a sex drive that is close to yours.

Do you honestly think that one person can fulfil ALL of your needs in every way (not just sex) for the rest of your life? No offense, but if so I think you will be single for a very long time. If such a person existed we wouldn't need to have friends or hobbies or anyone else in our lives other than our partner.

And perhaps for these men they did think that they were sexually compatible when they got married but something changed. I think it is extremely rare to find a relationship with 2 people who have the exact same sex drive forever, like the exact same things in bed forever, have no desire to be with anyone else ever again, & are also compatible in every other way. There is also a lot more to a good relationship that just sex.

Or what about the woman who is physically unable to have sex? Should her husband go without having sex ever again or divorce her, even though he loves her & is happy with the rest of the relationship?

 

[GoodKat]

Do you honestly think that one person can fulfil ALL of your needs in every way (not just sex) for the rest of your life? No offense, but if so I think you will be single for a very long time.

No offense but guys just are seeing you for the sex. You're not fulfilling anything other then his desire to bang someone younger and prettier then his wife.

 

[Violet]

You misunderstood me. That's not what I was saying. What I meant was maybe a guy's wife is fulfilling his needs other than sex (love, companionship, conversation, fun, etc) but is just not fulfilling him sexually. For some people not being happy with your sex life doesn't necessarily mean you should get a divorce. Or a relationship that fulfils you sexually may not have everything else you need. I don't think you can expect one person to meet all of your needs in every way.

 

[GoodKat]

I don't think you can expect one person to meet all of your needs in every way.

Marriage is more or less a declaration of loyalty to your partner. If a person feels the need to step outside the bounds of that then they should not be married.

 

[Violet]

Ok. Also no one should ever lie, look at other girls, fantasize, or get divorced, right?

I was just stating my opinions & everyone's entitled to their own. In reality a lot of men cheat & I was just explaining my thoughts on why some do, & saying that personally I would understand if my husband slept with an escort, under certain circumstances. Everyone's entitled to their own morals & opinions, we don't have to judge or agree with each other all the time.

PS - I don't think mental loyalty is necessarily the same as physical loyalty, but that's just me.

 

[Quarter Mile'r]

Anyone had the experience of running into your SP while you're walking down the street/mall/market/etc with your wife/children/girlfriend?

To get back to the original topic. I don't worry about this at all
cuz I'm the one walking down the street WITH my SP.





................QM'r