Running into your SP on the street?

[Sebulba]

Agreed.... if she's alone you can smile or even talk if "she" wants to...
if she's with someone.. move the hell on.....
same the other way... she should not talk to you if you are with someone.. wife, friend, or otherwise....

would be pretty shitty if a guy is walking with his sister or brother in law and ended up in a convo with an sp...probably wouldn't wanna come home ever again....

 

[Opie]

ya I've had it hapen and you just keep your mouth shut and treat the person as though there a stranger why would you complicat there life or yours but acknoledging thet you've fucked?

 

[GoodKat]

Ok. Also no one should ever lie, look at other girls, fantasize, or get divorced, right?

http://www.logicalfallacies.info/strawmanarguments.html

I was just stating my opinions & everyone's entitled to their own. In reality a lot of men cheat & I was just explaining my thoughts on why some do, & saying that personally I would understand if my husband slept with an escort, under certain circumstances. Everyone's entitled to their own morals & opinions, we don't have to judge or agree with each other all the time.

...and I was stating my opinion. I'm not coming down on you for yours, I'm just disagreeing.

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

If you and I know each other for many sessions and have become friends outside of business and I am alone then sure say hi...I will be happy to run into you and might convince you to go back to my place for a quickie

Tell us, does that then alter the answer you'd have to give when quizzed about ever having worked the streets?

 

[AA_Train]

Do you honestly think that one person can fulfil ALL of your needs in every way (not just sex) for the rest of your life? No offense, but if so I think you will be single for a very long time. If such a person existed we wouldn't need to have friends or hobbies or anyone else in our lives other than our partner.

And perhaps for these men they did think that they were sexually compatible when they got married but something changed. I think it is extremely rare to find a relationship with 2 people who have the exact same sex drive forever, like the exact same things in bed forever, have no desire to be with anyone else ever again, & are also compatible in every other way. There is also a lot more to a good relationship that just sex.

Or what about the woman who is physically unable to have sex? Should her husband go without having sex ever again or divorce her, even though he loves her & is happy with the rest of the relationship?

Yes, I'm sure there are certain circumstances where one can see the logic in seeing an SP, such as people being physically unable to perform but the key is that they work it out. Many women think "that's the way it goes. Again, call me old-fashioned, but I think you should want your partner every minute of every single day you're together. There may be times you need a break, but the goal is to make that desire stronger for when you see them again. Sex is not the only measuring stick of a good relationship, but it is the gateway to intimacy. If one does decide to get married, they should go into it with the intention to be loyal and honest to them and that this person, more often than not, should fulfill all there needs. I'm with GoodKat, marrriage is a declaration of loyalty, breaking such a loyalty is a HUGE statement about the condition of that marriage and is an indication of it's future stability.

I'm not judging married guys for seeing Sps. People are going to do what they think they need to do. I'm just saying that if you are to get married, you should pick a person who you think will fufill all your needs,s ex included, for life.

 

[Violet]

Thank you, I think you make a valid argument & would like to point out that I was not (as GoodKat may have interpreted it) trying to justify it or say it's perfectly ok or a great thing for any married man to see an SP, just discussing possible reasons behind it, these men aren't monsters, & I'm sure they didn't go into the marriage planning on cheating. I like that you are just defining what marriage means to you & not condemning those who think that seeing an SP is a better alternative than divorce as horrible people.

GoodKat, again I think you have trouble understanding, just like when you felt the need to scoff at me & condescendingly tell me that men ONLY see me to fuck someone young & hot, nothing more, when I hadn't said anything remotely about that. I am not going to waste any more of anyone's time debating things with you.

 

[dickotoole]

good and bad

I am a happily married man that has a great sex life at home. And I see other women at times both SPs and women I meet through work or elsewhere. Not tons of either but a few here and there. At times this adds to the great sex I have at home like when I learn something innovative or pleasurable for me or my wife. I am sure I am a bad man to some but I know I am a good man to my wife - she is like Violet in that she knows the difference between love and a man getting the odd piece of strange tail.

I don't know that there are more than a few (single digit percentage) of couples that actually never get it on with someone over 30 or 40 years of marriage.

I also don't know if it is the case that when people here are saying it is not right for men to see SPs if they also mean SPs are also 'bad' people. If that is the case then it is an odd place to state such an opinion.

This is stressful. I think I'll go get a bj.

 

[Kevin101]

I didn't read the entire thread eaither but I don't get what the big deal is. Just keep it professional though. We are all humans. Keep the naughty stuff where it belongs - in the bed.

" Hey wats up? long time no see, how have you been? Take care."

 

[treveller]

So Back On The OP Topic

Did I just miss it or has no-one suggested that a good part of a conversation following the urgent part of a first visit would be to talk about one another's preferences should you meet off hours?

On one occession I was told that her friends know about her occupation and she has no objection to a friendly nod and hello.

Another time I exchanged a few words with a woman I thought was totally hot and a few days later I realized I had been admireing her web site for years. I will have to ask her if that causes a problem if I ever decide to visit.

 

[TheSilkenBadger]

Discretion is the better part of Valour.

It is better to be prudent than merely courageous, as in I'm signing up for the easy course first; discretion is the better part of valor.

This proverb, a synonym of look before you leap, was first recorded in 1477. Charles Churchill put it in poetic form: "Even in a hero's heart, Discretion is the better part" ( The Ghost, 1762). Shakespeare also used a form of it: "The better part of valor is discretion" ( 1 Henry IV, 5:4).

There is a reason why you see an SP in the first place it's for a discrete encounter. A stuble nod of the head, or a quick smile to yourself is all that you need. '

You pay her to be discrete, she is discrete in her actions and would never approach you and ask if you had time next tuesday cause she's got an opening. So you of course need to be discrete in your actions too.

 

[Keithks]

I'd have a hard time containing myself, given that I can't keep my hands off her for 5 seconds when we're alone. But I'd do the right thing by not intruding. We have a nice thing going, and I wouldn't want to screw it up. I'm also sure I'd book a session with her as soon as possible just from the adrenaline rush of seeing her in person. I love my sp.