Romantic emotions getting in the way.
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I think it makes sense.....but I'm getting more and more confused with this thread, only because there are so many different viewpoints.Sixpak said:
Bottom line for me I guess is what I think I've been trying to say all along........if it had happend to me, and there was an agreement to step out of the arena of SP/Client relationship and become a committed couple, with nobody else involved, (other relationships), then there would have to be alot of talking and resolving. I get out completely...and you stop pooning completely. We do it together, we do it at the same time. PERIOD!
But in the back of my mind, after perhaps being together for a long time I would wonder..........is he back at it again? And that's not a judgement call on a man that hires. Just what I think would go through my mind. And probably the guy depending on his personality type.
But people are different, and as individuals I suppose everyone handles things in thier own way.
Paris/Caryn
Interesting thread
Very interesting. I personally think it could work depending on the two people involved. Obviously the guy has to be non judgmental with respect to this and since he actively participated in this hobby, he's not in the same position to play the morality card as a non-participant. But other feeling such a jealousy and perhaps feeling of inadequacy could rear their ugly head. Then financially you might end dealing with whether or not she needs to work, if he has a decent job he may feel she doesn’t but she may still want do for a variety of reasons, one of which would be to maintain her sense of self dependence. Some of the guys she sees might even represent part of her network of friends
But I agree with the one poster who said many SP’s are special people, I know the one I see most often is a university student and seems to really have it together on many levels. Great sense of humour, intelligent, very personable, attractive, young, great in bed, financially secure, I think these are qualities most guys can live with as long as she also has a sense of decency. And in all honesty a girl like that can pick and choose who she wants, so if she picked one of her clients, who had certain characteristics she admired, I don't see why it couldn't work.
Very interesting. I personally think it could work depending on the two people involved. Obviously the guy has to be non judgmental with respect to this and since he actively participated in this hobby, he's not in the same position to play the morality card as a non-participant. But other feeling such a jealousy and perhaps feeling of inadequacy could rear their ugly head. Then financially you might end dealing with whether or not she needs to work, if he has a decent job he may feel she doesn’t but she may still want do for a variety of reasons, one of which would be to maintain her sense of self dependence. Some of the guys she sees might even represent part of her network of friends
But I agree with the one poster who said many SP’s are special people, I know the one I see most often is a university student and seems to really have it together on many levels. Great sense of humour, intelligent, very personable, attractive, young, great in bed, financially secure, I think these are qualities most guys can live with as long as she also has a sense of decency. And in all honesty a girl like that can pick and choose who she wants, so if she picked one of her clients, who had certain characteristics she admired, I don't see why it couldn't work.
It could only work if two people (men and women) are on the very same page....To grow together and have the same "goals" MHO 
Chantal said:It could only work if two people (men and women) are on the very same page....To grow together and have the same "goals" MHO
Bingo..and that pretty much applies across the board..in a non SP situation.
Falling for him,....
Hello Paris, my dear friend, notice I cannot comment,....too many opinions that make decision-making processes way way way too complicated. If you meet a wonderful man, enjoy everything, and don't take too much for granted. You know I have been blessed!
Hello Paris, my dear friend, notice I cannot comment,....too many opinions that make decision-making processes way way way too complicated. If you meet a wonderful man, enjoy everything, and don't take too much for granted. You know I have been blessed!
Sorry I couldn'T resist..........
Hello to all of you who remember myself........
I too used to date and live with an Sp.....
It was great.......
She got pregnant.....
Retired......
Miscarried.....
Went onto do movies.Etc.
I could not pursue the relationship further.....
We were an item for three years.....
Met her at a parlour.
fell head over heels she was a goddess in my books...
But the love of money was her lure to the dark side.
It was so sad I made more than enough money to look after us...
But Greed set in..
She had to make more.
she did no drugs but she was damaged from the strees of the industry.
we have no more contact with each other.
She has a very lonely life no true friends..Just two dogs she looks after.
I have moved on and found a new life..and have gone back to being a Part time client.
If it could work out we would have been the exception.
there is always a cancer in this situation.
which is why we all should be polite and friendly but remember this is a buisness first.
remember also don't feed the Tigers and you'll keep your fingers.
My two cents.
Hello to all of you who remember myself........
I too used to date and live with an Sp.....
It was great.......
She got pregnant.....
Retired......
Miscarried.....
Went onto do movies.Etc.
I could not pursue the relationship further.....
We were an item for three years.....
Met her at a parlour.
fell head over heels she was a goddess in my books...
But the love of money was her lure to the dark side.
It was so sad I made more than enough money to look after us...
But Greed set in..
She had to make more.
she did no drugs but she was damaged from the strees of the industry.
we have no more contact with each other.
She has a very lonely life no true friends..Just two dogs she looks after.
I have moved on and found a new life..and have gone back to being a Part time client.
If it could work out we would have been the exception.
there is always a cancer in this situation.
which is why we all should be polite and friendly but remember this is a buisness first.
remember also don't feed the Tigers and you'll keep your fingers.
My two cents.
I've been keeping an eye on this thread for a while all the time knowing that I would post to it but wondering what I would post.Miss January said:
Whether a relationship with an SP and a client would work cannot be generalized in my opinion. Like Miss J says, it is much too complicated and depends on the circumstances specific to the individuals involved as well as to the individuals themselves.
Factoring in such variables as current relationship status, whether children are involved, ages, whether the individuals live in close proximity to their families and friends, the types of personalities they have, etc. etc.
Relationships would vary from couple to couple with different parameters for each. Mutual RESPECT and TRUST would be the two deciding factors on whether such a relationship would work or should even be attempted!
Nothing is impossible but certain things are extremely unlikely!
Good one father Mars Man. Isn't that white collar a bitch when you have barber's itch?ranger_one said:
M
When it comes to this topic that has been discussed so many times...It becomes to everyone individual opinion that matters.I made it clear it does not work being that I have been in this business for a sum time,and have observed it...there is no and right answer to the ? at stake..
Really good post, and very intelligent thought process, on your part Mchatte!Mchatte said:I've been keeping an eye on this thread for a while all the time knowing that I would post to it but wondering what I would post.
Whether a relationship with an SP and a client would work cannot be generalized in my opinion. Like Miss J says, it is much too complicated and depends on the circumstances specific to the individuals involved as well as to the individuals themselves.
Factoring in such variables as current relationship status, whether children are involved, ages, whether the individuals live in close proximity to their families and friends, the types of personalities they have, etc. etc.
Relationships would vary from couple to couple with different parameters for each. Mutual RESPECT and TRUST would be the two deciding factors on whether such a relationship would work or should even be attempted!
Nothing is impossible but certain things are extremely unlikely!
Good one father Mars Man. Isn't that white collar a bitch when you have barber's itch?
M
First comes the chemistry between two people......then the human mind......Oh god! That's when things would get really complicated IMO.
As I said in another post the other day, it would take alot of communication and trust to make a situation such as the one mentioned in this thread...to make it work. Bottom line............get out of the business, for both parties involved. Stop seeing clients, stop pooning. But will two people in such a situation really believe the other is doing just that? Would be a really big lesson in learning how to trust. And....if I were in such a situation and found out 100% that my S/O was still pooning, I would go ballistic.
Nuff said.
Paris/Caryn
Thanks P/C. And you thought that I was nothing but a cesspool of metaphors and weird humour! Ha!Paris said:
All I can add is that if something very special happens between an SP and a pooner, then it will develop naturally, at its own pace, and with both parties realizing that they are in a very unique and wonderful relationship. From that point on, it's time to just nurture it, enjoy it, and appreciate it for exactly what it is.
Having a good bond and close friendship with a member of the opposite sex is very exhilirating and special and I have always appreciated the ones I've had and the ones I have.
M
Nope! Always thought your posts were bang on from what I have read. Have a good day!Mchatte said:Thanks P/C. And you thought that I was nothing but a cesspool of metaphors and weird humour! Ha!
All I can add is that if something very special happens between an SP and a pooner, then it will develop naturally, at its own pace, and with both parties realizing that they are in a very unique and wonderful relationship. From that point on, it's time to just nurture it, enjoy it, and appreciate it for exactly what it is.
Having a good bond and close friendship with a member of the opposite sex is very exhilirating and special and I have always appreciated the ones I've had and the ones I have.
M
Paris/caryn
UMMMMM Could it possibly be a coincidence Marshall that your post hit #69, or is it fate somehow?Marshall said:Has any SP fallen for me yet?
I'm waiting .............
LOL
(go figure - this post is #69 in the thread - nice!)
Time this thread gets lightened up a bit. Lol!
Paris/Caryn
