Romantic emotions getting in the way.
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And this is precisely why I will never be in a committed relationship as long as I live. Although, it would have been nice, at one time.BS Detector said:
(a) at no fault of the clients I have seen over the years......I have been seriously jaded as far as monogamy is concerned. I do not believe for a minute that it exits, and I kind of have a problem with that, while society judges me for what I do.
(b) It has always been thrown in my face at some time or another......nothing but a dirty little whore......which I'm really not.
(c) Any client that was SINGLE......i.e. not married, and no significant other in sight.......just used me for a hire for fuck, while scouting the bars ect.....looking for the nice girls. But I knew that deep down inside I was being looked down apon. (If you're reading this ****** you know who you are)!
Most clients however.....are great people, but there's always the few with a double standard thing going on.
Nuff said!
Paris/Caryn
I don't agree with this point 100% there Paris. I am single, with no significant other in sight and have had the company of an sp now and then. I think I speak on behalf of many here when I say that I have never looked down upon a service provider. In the rare encounters that I have had the enjoyment of being with a woman on that level, my appreciation and respect for that moment and for that lady is in fact cherished more than anything else.Paris said:
I do believe in monogamy(physically),but I do believe sum or most men cheat in their minds..Yes or No Maybe so.... 
which means there is no monogamy.
which means there is no monogamy.Funny, but ´dirty little whore´ is not something I would ever say to a prostitute. I might say it to a girlfriend though...Paris said:
Go figure..
But it raises quite a little dilemma if the girlfriend also happens to be a ... you know, someone like Paris. I guess I'd have to call her something else in the heat of the moment.
Little miss goody two shoes maybe..?
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I didn't mean that I would be insulted by some real raunchy talk in the bedroom.........I meant with my last post that I have been called a whore by someone I cared deeply for.....while in the heat of an argument. End of relationship!!!!!!!!!rockyy said:
Paris/Caryn
This reminded me of when U.S. president Jimmy Carter admitted to having committed adultery in his heart. Not ACTUAL adultery, mind you. He had merely lusted after someone and felt guilty enough about it to let it bother him. It will be a sad, sad world (yeah, like it isn't already) when people are condemned for the thoughts they have, even when they don't have the slightest intention of acting upon them.Chantal said:I do believe in monogamy(physically),but I do believe sum or most men cheat in their minds..Yes or No Maybe so....
Well after reading all of this thread i am shocked that some people would let what they do for a living be invovled in what there feelings are and would add if someone does something different for a living but are a nice person beyond that why not give it a shot for example would a lady who is say a cop date a guy who is a pornstar ??? my saying is sure if they connect on a level where they are happy why not a job is a job.
yeah but isn't it true that in relationships people learn what each other's most sensitive areas are, and then repeatedly 'push their buttons'?TJ in the 'Peg said:
I think it gets down to what your sensitivity is, and just how sensitive you are about it, how much heckling you can take. Years and years ago I went to an arts college, and one of the students was a stripper, and she never ever lived it down. She was always trying to overcome that, always trying to leave it behind her, and she never really could...and it wasn't anybody's fault or anything. It was her who kept saying 'dirty little whore' to herself, in her own mind.
But it sure as hell doesnt help that we live in a country where that profession is looked upon as something immoral or dirty. I think an SP might shed that stigma if she went and lived in a more socially evolved country. We have a real hangup in canada about prostitution. Look at all those SWs who were murdered by that psycho in abbotsford, and I know the cops could have found that motherfucker earlier if they'd really, really tried. But I don't think they did...they just kind of thought, 'well, who cares they're only prostitutes after all, nobody cares about them,'... but the victims weren't even REALLY prostitutes, most of them... just fucked up kids from the backcountry.
But ya know, that sort of attitude is kind of universal. There's a story about Eva Peron, the wife of the president of argentina, who was also a working girl at some point in her life, and during a street tour of paris with some retired admiral some people in the crowd started calling out 'whore, whore'. So she said to the admiral, 'why are they calling me that? And he said, 'well madam, I retired from the navy 20 years ago, but they still call me captain'.
Okay, if I'm reading this wrong and you're referring to one specific client, then your point can't be disputed. But if that's a blanket statement about all single clients, then I have to take issue with your generalization, Caryn.Paris said:
I'm single and by choice have had no significant other in my life for 27 years. These days, I only see Kerry and yes, I DO see her in order to get laid. Guilty as charged. But among the myriad reasons why I see her is precisely that I have no interest whatsoever in "scouting the bars ... looking for the nice girls". As to looking down upon her, nothing could be further from the truth. I admire her on any number of levels and my life is greatly enriched by her presence in it.
When the day eventually comes that she leaves the biz, I fully expect the friendship that we have developed over the years will continue. It will be friendship without a sexual component, obviously, but I have a number of close women friends of whom the same thing can be said. Much as I enjoy it, sex is far from being the driving force in my life.
I'm sorry that your experience in the biz has left you feeling pretty jaded about the male of the species, Caryn. But please don't tar us all with the same brush. Some of us make a conscious effort to fight the impulse to be a jackass (male DNA strand #4,562,029
) and actually succeed in the struggle.
Very lucidly put JustAGuy!
I can't help saying it though, don't you look down on her when you're on top?
I can't help saying it though, don't you look down on her when you're on top?
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(c) Any client that was SINGLE......i.e. not married, and no significant other in sight.......just used me for a hire for fuck, while scouting the bars ect.....looking for the nice girls. But I knew that deep down inside I was being looked down apon. (If you're reading this ****** you know who you are)!Paris/Caryn
(c) Any client that was SINGLE......i.e. not married, and no significant other in sight.......just used me for a hire for fuck, while scouting the bars ect.....looking for the nice girls. But I knew that deep down inside I was being looked down apon. (If you're reading this ****** you know who you are)!Paris/Caryn
Not trying to put words in Caryn's mouth JustAGuy, but I think she didn't mean 'ANY' client. I think the 'Any' was a typo and she meant 'A' client, referring to a particular client.JustAGuy said:
