I think it must be a common thing, some men partake of the hobby to fill a void in thier lives, and some women who enter the profession are in a vulnerable state/situation.
So, I can see it happening both ways. An SP may be unbelievably attractive to a man, its her job to do everything and be everything that he doesn't get already. On the other hand, a man that can afford to partake can be attractive from a provider standpoint, if he's clean, kind, courteous and generous, he could be everything that is missing from her life.
Unfortunately, I can infer that in almost cases the attraction would have to be one sided. A healthy relationship is a two way street. So, we end up with a no win situation most of the time.
We humans have a problem where we want something we can't have, and the more we can't have it, the more we want it. Hence the stalker syndrome, crimes of passion, etc. It can be hard to take a step back and realize just what is reasonable and sane.
In the rare case where both fulfill the others needs, and we have a perfect (as perfect as humans can be) match, wonderful. In the instances I've encountered where these hookups have happened, though, the way the relationship started ends up being the fuel that ends it, with harsh words and/or actions based on morally questionable start. The words whore and john can be very hurtful when used in a fight, the act of paying for or being paid for sex is ammunition that can kill a relationship with a single sentence.
What's the old saying? What is the similarity between a warm toilet seat and a good fuck? Both are nice to find, so long as you don't think about who was there before you to make it that way....
Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Pretty Woman... all nice fairy tales. All just about as likely to happen.
That's my cynical 2 cents worth.
Rubin
