Replies by SP's by text to pooners, when is an appropriate time lapse to call

[Rickyatthey]

I want to ask all SP's and pooners when and how long of a time lapse is appropriate for a SP to return a text.
I have had a few experiences in the last while since I have returned to the hobby where I text a SP for information and/or availability and there would be no immediate response which is not an expectation as that SP can be busy or not working......common sense.
However, I have experienced on a few occasions where I send a message out and the SP returns the text the next day...is that appropriate? I have always maintained a high level of discretion with SP in the past but I wonder if that discretion is being lost. On a few occasions in the past couple of years I have had text messages from SP's sometimes after a 3 day lapse.
The reason I bring this forward is due to an experience I had last night where I called a SP at 2 pm...she returned the reply at 1230 am late...10 hours later ( I won't bother getting into the details of the messages as that is another issue) So back to my original question to all...what should be or what is the etiquette for reply calls or texts from SP to pooners ? Especially for the ones that might be in relationships or are expecting some sort of discretion? After last night I thought to myself, thank goodness I normally don't get involved in this hobby when I am in a relationship.
Thank you. Looking forward to opinions from all. R

 

[rinamood]

I stopped doing "thank you so much for coming!" texts for discretion, and I encourage communication via text or email based off of your own discretion. I do try to respond to text messages even more quickly than emails; however, this may not always be possible due to travel, extended dates, or simply being otherwise preoccupied with life. Most of my clients (98% probably) are single.

I allow prospective clients to screen using their texting number, but to communicate via email-only by request. If this is a potential option for some of your SPs, I highly recommend it!

My answer to you is to (1) ensure that you are forward with you expectations of discretion, and (2) use a separate phone if necessary to protect yourself and your personal life. We cannot control the actions of others; we can only accommodate for our own preferences and comforts assuming that others wouldn't be aware in the moment.

 

[Forum mod]

The level of professionalism of the lady will vary, just like her service levels. Many professional SPs will state right in their ad or on their site that if they cannot reply in a specific time frame, they will not do so. Others will not only reply the next day, the next week or whenever they feel like it, they will spam you with texts when they are slow and looking for clients right out of the blue.

Either use a burner or a text app, or give them a window for replies. There's been many stories over the years of a text arriving and a spouse seeing it either at that point or later on. Take precautions and realize that while some ladies are discreet, others don't give a good goddamn about your living situation or privacy.

 

[Marie_lynxx]

The level of professionalism of the lady will vary, just like her service levels. Many professional SPs will state right in their ad or on their site that if they cannot reply in a specific time frame, they will not do so. Others will not only reply the next day, the next week or whenever they feel like it, they will spam you with texts when they are slow and looking for clients right out of the blue.

Either use a burner or a text app, or give them a window for replies. There's been many stories over the years of a text arriving and a spouse seeing it either at that point or later on. Take precautions and realize that while some ladies are discreet, others don't give a good goddamn about your living situation or privacy.

If you give a time frame to which we can respond that would be really helpful and/or just text again ..I miss a bunch of texts sometimes and I am always conflicted if I should respond if it’s a couple hours later 😖😖

 

[Rickyatthey]

If you give a time frame to which we can respond that would be really helpful and/or just text again ..I miss a bunch of texts sometimes and I am always conflicted if I should respond if it’s a couple hours later 😖😖

In my opinion 2-3 hours is quite reasonable. 10 hours later after midnight is a bit extreme IMHO. Thank you for input...all of you previous to this thread.

 

[jgg]

I stopped doing "thank you so much for coming!" texts for discretion, and I encourage communication via text or email based off of your own discretion. I do try to respond to text messages even more quickly than emails; however, this may not always be possible due to travel, extended dates, or simply being otherwise preoccupied with life. Most of my clients (98% probably) are single.

I allow prospective clients to screen using their texting number, but to communicate via email-only by request. If this is a potential option for some of your SPs, I highly recommend it!

My answer to you is to (1) ensure that you are forward with you expectations of discretion, and (2) use a separate phone if necessary to protect yourself and your personal life. We cannot control the actions of others; we can only accommodate for our own preferences and comforts assuming that others wouldn't be aware in the moment.

The level of professionalism of the lady will vary, just like her service levels. Many professional SPs will state right in their ad or on their site that if they cannot reply in a specific time frame, they will not do so. Others will not only reply the next day, the next week or whenever they feel like it, they will spam you with texts when they are slow and looking for clients right out of the blue.

Either use a burner or a text app, or give them a window for replies. There's been many stories over the years of a text arriving and a spouse seeing it either at that point or later on. Take precautions and realize that while some ladies are discreet, others don't give a good goddamn about your living situation or privacy.

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[Harmony-bc]

I sometimes will reply to a text hours later or even the next day. But it really depends on the text.

if somebody’s text seems to imply they’re looking for right now, I won’t reply. If somebody’s text is just looking for basic information, I’ll reply. I am super discrete in my replies and will never cold call anybody or send a text out of the blue. However, I will reply to some texts and ignore others

90% of my appointments prebook a few days to a few weeks in advance. Sometimes it makes sense to reply and sometimes it doesn’t.

If you’re in a relationship, please be responsible and think ahead. Look after your own discretion by using a burner phone or giving the lady a time in which she can’t send a message.

ie: hi my name is so and so and I’d like to see you at this time. Please only reply to this text Monday to Friday 10am to 4pm. Or if an hour has gone by, please don’t reply etc etc.

I will do my best to be discrete but please look after your own discretion as well.

 

[JackRyder]

I sometimes will reply to a text hours later or even the next day. But it really depends on the text.

if somebody’s text seems to imply they’re looking for right now, I won’t reply. If somebody’s text is just looking for basic information, I’ll reply. I am super discrete in my replies and will never cold call anybody or send a text out of the blue. However, I will reply to some texts and ignore others

90% of my appointments prebook a few days to a few weeks in advance. Sometimes it makes sense to reply and sometimes it doesn’t.

If you’re in a relationship, please be responsible and think ahead. Look after your own discretion by using a burner phone or giving the lady a time in which she can’t send a message.

ie: hi my name is so and so and I’d like to see you at this time. Please only reply to this text Monday to Friday 10am to 4pm. Or if an hour has gone by, please don’t reply etc etc.

I will do my best to be discrete but please look after your own discretion as well.

I had to delete my reply after reading yours. You truly are an excellent communicator.
Very professional and even generous in providing so much discretion and detailed advice to gentlemen and clients here.

 

[GeeBeeP]

I will always use email for inquiries and booking a date, and text only on the day of a date to get directions, say I’ve arrived etc… I honestly don’t like trying to book SP’s who only communicate via text. Emails are far more discreet and it doesn’t matter what time of the day or night they arrive.

 

[Harmony-bc]

I will always use email for inquiries and booking a date, and text only on the day of a date to get directions, say I’ve arrived etc… I honestly don’t like trying to book SP’s who only communicate via text. Emails are far more discreet and it doesn’t matter what time of the day or night they arrive.

Some clients who communicate via text are great. But I’ve noticed over the years that some of my absolute best dates always came through email.

People who send emails are generally very thorough about what they’re looking for, polite and friendly.

 

[Sheen]

If the message has gone unresponded after a couple hours I will send another one saying have a good day and will reach out again, no need to reply.

Usually I will then block the number and unblock when i want to reach out again

 

[Rickyatthey]

If the message has gone unresponded after a couple hours I will send another one saying have a good day and will reach out again, no need to reply.

Usually I will then block the number and unblock when i want to reach out again

That is probably the best advice going forward!! thx

 

[Harmony-bc]

If the message has gone unresponded after a couple hours I will send another one saying have a good day and will reach out again, no need to reply.

Usually I will then block the number and unblock when i want to reach out again

This is the best way to be proactive about your own discretion.

I swear I think some men want to be caught. It makes no sense to be in a committed relationship with someone and then expect strangers to you to be the ones discrete with your relationship. If you want to sneak around, get better at your James Bond skills lol.

Like somebody mentioned earlier in this thread, we come from all walks of life. Some are more survival sex workers than others. Cold calling somebody might work sometimes. Who knows. It’s not something I’d do. I don’t chase money, lovers, clients, or friends. People either enjoy me and want to see me or they don’t.

Manifest abundance and it will come to you.

 

[GeeBeeP]

I swear I think some men want to be caught. It makes no sense to be in a committed relationship with someone and then expect strangers to you to be the ones discrete with your relationship. If you want to sneak around, get better at your James Bond skills lol.

I can see this sentiment to an extent, however if I can’t rely on the discretion of an SP I will not be a client. Full stop. This goes both ways, as most SP’s ask for their clients to be discreet as well.

 

[Rickyatthey]

I can see this sentiment to an extent, however if I can’t rely on the discretion of an SP I will not be a client. Full stop. This goes both ways, as most SP’s ask for their clients to be discreet as well.

So true however you won't find out until it's too late. I had that experience and for me it wasn't a problem personally as I am now single. When it really comes down to it...you are responsible for your actions when it comes down to it. I guess some expect some sort of professional discretion from both sides. I have in the past seen a SP in a public place but have never approached the SP even if it appears she was alone...would expect the same but not everyone has that common sense unfortunately.

 

[Harmony-bc]

I can see this sentiment to an extent, however if I can’t rely on the discretion of an SP I will not be a client. Full stop. This goes both ways, as most SP’s ask for their clients to be discreet as well.

Ok fair. However, if you don’t know the person and you are in a relationship, take steps to protect your relationship. Don’t depend on a stranger to act a certain way.

I say this with love and respect. Never depend on a stranger to protect your anything.

im discrete because it’s in my nature to be that way. I’ve always had a lot of pride and I’m calm and level headed. But not everybody is like me. And you don’t know until you know. So fine. Don’t be a client then, or look after your own discretion. Anything else is taking a chance 😘

 

[serascarrose]

Ok fair. However, if you don’t know the person and you are in a relationship, take steps to protect your relationship. Don’t depend on a stranger to act a certain way.

I say this with love and respect. Never depend on a stranger to protect your anything.

im discrete because it’s in my nature to be that way. I’ve always had a lot of pride and I’m calm and level headed. But not everybody is like me. And you don’t know until you know. So fine. Don’t be a client then, or look after your own discretion. Anything else is taking a chance 😘

I've read over all your replies and you've spoken quite eloquently, especially when touching on survival sex workers and that sometimes cold calling is the only way that, let's say hypothetically, a single mom who's doing survival sex work could MAKE OR BREAK financially to put a roof over her & her kids as well as food on the table for the month, even if reaching out after a day the initial text was sent.

Last I checked, any man seeing a provider is an adult, and as an adult, you have a certain level of responsibility for your own actions. So yeah, if men wanna sneak around and see escorts while married or in a committed relationship, then you need to safeguard your relationship. We are not responsible for it, and we shouldn't be blamed.

The last thing and WORST thing I hate getting is a text going along the lines of "Hi, I'm XXX's wife. I saw your recent text history with him." and now I'm directly involved in your relationship drama. Delete your messages and block the provider if she doesn't message you back in a time that fits your discretion needs and unblock us when you can book again. Not rocket science (for some)

 

[Harmony-bc]

Years ago when I was stripping, a guy gave me his number because he was arranging for a stag potentially. Told me to call him the next day to arrange things. I called him, left a brief generic message, and then thought nothing of it. I never heard from him again. But his wife called me about a week later and begged me to tell her who I was and where her husband met me. She basically stalked me from different numbers, most of the time drunk begging me to tell her the truth. I told her it must be a wrong number. I was polite and nice because, poor girl. And then I had to change my number because she wouldn’t stop from different numbers.

Another time I was doing a stag at somebody's house and the wife came home and threw a temper tantrum. I was literally just stripping. She was having a bachelorette party out with friends. And apparently knew they were hiring strippers but she got drunk. Some people are really bad drunks. It was a little intense. Fight or flight? I fled lol.

I’ve had my fair share of weird predicaments in this business.

Protect your own relationship. Don’t depend on anybody for anything.