Repeat visits with SP-Better, not as good or about the same

[nickcan]

Wanted opinions on those guys who have a regular SP and if they felt the sex was better, worst than last or the same after many visits.
I think you get more comfortable with them but at the same time the excitement of what's going to happen is missing.
Also, I experienced less enthusiasm from the SP with more visits and I know you can't expect them to be in the same mood all the time and it's work so with anything they have good and bad days.

 

[jay.guitarrista]

Great question!

My general rule is that if it gets better on repeat visits, I am more inclined to repeat again. If it gets worse, I'm less inclined.

I understand that everyone is human and people have bad days; I allow for that, but you can generally tell after a couple repeats what the person is like.

I typically expect things to get better the more you repeat. For example, there is an SP I'd been seeing for a while (a few years) somewhat regularly, and we had even gone out socially (and non-sexually) a few times. We would talk/text between visits; sometimes about our respective lives, and sometimes just talking dirty to one another. Got to the point where we were actively exploring our deepest fantasies with each other; stuff we NEVER would have done with people we weren't comfortable with.

On the flip side, there was another SP a while back that I was seeing fairly regularly. She was awesome until she developed a drug problem, and then just started trying to suck money out of me to pay her habits. Our last couple sessions were pretty uncomfortable. On the one hand, it was sad. On the other, I had tried to help but was tough to really do much and still maintain our respective privacies.

 

[cjac7214]

For me, it is really simple. If I didn't have a great time, I won't repeat. There are too many great escorts that I have met that are "go to girls" for both great sex and a real connection (not love, just respect and a genuine enthusiasm for each other). Not repeating has actually never really been about blah looks or poor technique for me. Simply put, fucking someone you like is way better than fucking someone you don't give a shit about.

On a related note, I have been wondering about how often guys repeat and what it means to be a "regular". I think I read about a guy that said he had visited his favourite escort every two weeks for the last two years - so that is about 50 times (which represents my entire body of work over the last three years)! Wow, most guys don't have sex that often with their wives, and that is in a good marriage! I must admit that part of the appeal of seeing escorts is meeting someone new every now and then so I just can't imagine doing this.

I have punched my dance card with one escort six times. I am curious about others experiences?

 

[Mr.C]

Over the last 10 years I have seen basically 4 fantastic ladies who I had a great time with and I hope they had fun with me. The reason I repeated with each was not only of the great sex but the fact that we had connected. For me I have seen a lot of great ladies but the ones you connect with are few and far between, so when you find someone you connect with enjoy it for what it is.

 

[jesuschrist]

1.) I'll bet a lot of guys expect the restrictions to start to fall off if they become regulars. I'll bet they secretly want bareback full service.
2.) I'll bet a lot of guys want the SP to ease a restriction like CIM or anal while she keeps them for others.
3.) I'll bet a lot of guys want the SP to fall in love with them if they see her often enough.

As to point 1., it probably happens fairly often that the guy's expectations are met. I'm not saying it's the rule, but I think it happens often enough that it's significant. Say a third of SPs out there.

As to point 2., it probably happens very often.

As to point 3., it probably rarely happens. If you're continuing to pay money, there's no love.

 

[Guardian Angel]

I have for the most part stayed with a very small list of ladies. I do think the visits get better over time, as the barriers have been reduced and their are no longer unknown boundaries.

A connection beyond the physical enjoyment is also a huge factor. Whether it is regular conversations on the phone, texting, PM'ing or dating outside of the regular SP/Client relationship, the comfort level of being with that lady makes everything that much more enjoyable as far as my experiences go.

Not everybodies cup of tea I suppose?

G.A.

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

I have seen repeat visits go one of two ways, as Al has discussed above, they can become complicated with feelings, if that happens, the sex usually gets fantastic, because it's not just fucking, it's more emotional as well as physical. For the record, this happened to me once, and while it was the best sex I ever had, it was also incredibly painful when it became obvious it wasn't going to go anywhere, the spark dies and the emotional connection is lost. I saw her once earlier this year after my retirement was over as an SP and the sex was still good, but it's not the same. I won't see her again. My divorce was less painful than this split.

The second way settles into a friendly but ultimately business like relationship where you have some sort of connection, but it never gets complicated with "love". The sex can get really fantastic here too, but not to the depth and breadth as above. It can be ruined by a bad session and it's best if both sides agree to be completely honest. If she's in a bad mood, don't see her! If you are in a bad mood, don't go! It's rare and don't take the chance of fucking it up. I have one of these as well, but she's in Alberta not the lower mainland, but every time the sex is as good or better, in fact, after a long break it's often even better as we both know each others buttons very well. Absence makes the dick grow harder so to speak.

In both cases, the sex has to be as good or better over time. If the sex is getting worse after repeat visits, stop repeating already, what are you a masochist? It should only take one shitty session to fall off your to do list forever, unless there's a damn good reason. And if any money grubbing, rushing, taking you for granted, last second cancellations, asking for loans, etc. start showing up, it is time to bail.

I don't think the two scenarios you pointed out are mutually exclusive. I've been seening the same woman on and off for the last 5 years. She was 24 when we met now she's over 30. During that time we've pretty much covered the whole spectrum of what you've described in the two scenarios you've pointed out. A couple of years ago I would have said I loved her, and yes it complicated things but the sex was mindboggling. We even saw each other while she was engaged, and it actually got to the point where I felt like I was cheating on her if I saw someone else.

Over the years thing have tappered off and i only see her occassionally now but we certainly know we can trust each other and if for some reason we can't have intimate get togethers we will on occassion meet for breakfast or something along those lines. No easy task considering she lives in MR and I'm on the north shore, making breakfast close to a 3hr jaunt. But there are boundaries, for example when we depart from breakfast or things of that nature it's a huge and a kiss on her cheek, while in the bedroom it's deep french kissing..so it is what it is. I've also prepared her tax returns for the last 3-4 years, so again, we know each other quite well.

 

[badbadboy]

it actually got to the point where I felt like I was cheating on her if I saw someone else.

I was waiting for someone to make that statement because that is what I have been faced with recently. I have found that sometimes performance anxiety hits me with the 'others' because I could not get the one out of my head. If you knew the two I have had the P A with; you would shake your head and say WTF is wrong with you man?

I have seen a small group of SP's on a semi regular basis but I am mostly exclusive with one. There is no denying that there is a common bond and we share anything and everything. Still, I have to hand it to her, she keeps it fresh, has new ideas, new scenarios and it is always fun.

To answer the OP's question. Yes, sex does improve over time and the caveat being there is always emotion attached to the 'relationship' so if you want to be more emotionally detached its best to see numerous SP's rather than seeing one.

 

[the old maxx50]

I was thinking about all the different SP's I have had as regulars through the last 7 yrs .. Each one different . and all most every one left the business . one or to moved ..

One has been a best friend for the last 3 or more yrs and we don't hesitate to say we love each other .. in that friend way .. it is not asexual relationship .. She is my all time best girl for .. doing any number of new things .. and that is why i saw her ..

But like i said each one that I have started up with and saw over and over again has offered some thing new .. a different experience ..that would keep growing .. For me sex has to be an adventure .. even though maybe i keep doing the same positions and the same way every time .. I just have not found a girl that has a willingness to want to try all those crazy position . But most were up for having sex in different places . beds, tables , counters , couch, floor. and showers , and then out side . beaches, back seat .. door open .. and then the threesomes and foursomes .For me i need to change it up ... I found the more comfortable we get with each other .the restrictions do come down ..

No matter how many different girls i see .. it is all ways sad to loss them , to not here from them any more . or know how they are doing .. I see them all as friends i have known .. To me it is not about the money , They can view my friendship any way they want .. But I will all way .. treat every one the same .. Sure i like to have sex with them . and also . like to just spend time with them too.

I have all way been a visual person when wanting to see some one .. it is their picture that first entices me or if i have seen them in person even better , then I see there personality .. which is the most important to me . i see if they are open minded , and fun, maybe a little shy , strong willed out going .. and just can talk openly about them selves as i do .. Those that i see are that way with me ..

I seem to pick those that are troubled . and with problems ... but then i again i think mot people have stuff they are dealing with in life .. .we each just look at things differently and how we handle them . I seem to be attracted to girls with addiction issues .. part i guess because I think i can help .. part because i don;t judge them .. and they don't judge me .. even though i they know i am not to happy it. .. and sure i got my own intermittent addictions ..

When it come to shape and size i seem to go for small breast .and smaller women .. although i have gone for a few with enhanced because they just seem right..

I just saw the comment about feeling they are cheating on there SP if they see some one else .. That is exactly how i feel and why i just try to see the same girls .. I know they can get jealous , can have hurt feelings , and don;t like you talking about other SPs that you have seen Unless they are up for a threesome


From girls that I could phone and have an appointment with in a few hours . day or night , to one that I text with every day .. Or go for photo shots or just dinner and movies .. I think i have been fortunate not to just see the women for sex .. I get more from it and i give more to every one i know ..

 

[PlayfulAlex]

...we each have different needs some like variety and some like consistency. To each there own.

I predict that this will be a long-standing thread, as it could be a hot topic for most everyone involved in the hobby.

When a fella prefers variety, there doesn't seem to any shortage here in the Lower Mainland...so I say 'experiment away'!

Some fellas just want to feel comfortable enough with one person, with whom they can take care of that weekly or bi-weekly need. They don't expect to be wowed every time, but are more interested in the safety or the sure-thing aspect of the get-together. Even so, the lady can't become apathetic, she still needs to offer something 'special' each time, whether it be different new outfits, colours, toys, or little twists to the story (bj in the kitchen this time?)...

I think that each one of our encounters involves some level of 'relationship' because of the intimate acts involved. But pining for someone (who probably isn't available to you) is on a whole-nother level, as far as I'm concerned.

 

[chilli]

1.) I'll bet a lot of guys expect the restrictions to start to fall off if they become regulars. I'll bet they secretly want bareback full service.
2.) I'll bet a lot of guys want the SP to ease a restriction like CIM or anal while she keeps them for others.
3.) I'll bet a lot of guys want the SP to fall in love with them if they see her often enough.

As to point 1., it probably happens fairly often that the guy's expectations are met. I'm not saying it's the rule, but I think it happens often enough that it's significant. Say a third of SPs out there.

As to point 2., it probably happens very often.

As to point 3., it probably rarely happens. If you're continuing to pay money, there's no love.

Your general answers are way off the mark.

While this may be true for you and other people it's certainly not true for me or others.

 

[sweett]

I think there could be as many opinions on this as there are people. Personally I think repeat visits enhance things, just as much as in any relationship. 90% of my clients are repeat, and I'd say about half are long time /monthly regulars.
Knowing about each others lives, getting to know each other bodys, these things increase intimacy and enjoyment. I also provide referrals for my clients, I would never expect they only see me. Variety is the spice of life!
I understand people who only see a SP once, but its my thought that a level of comfort is achieved when you get to know someone a bit, and that makes things in the bedroom better.

 

[romeochains]

I have had good and bad experiences. Sometimes, the "wow" factor wasn't there the second time. No different than seeing the Taj Mahal and then going back ten years later and not being as impressed. I've also seen some sps change in a negative manner over time whether it's drugs, becoming jaded, money hungry, bf issues etc.

On the good side, I've developed a few awesome connections by repeating. I never "fall in love" with an sp which makes a relaxed and carefree relationship simpler. The sps that are confident, can enjoy the physicality while not being ashamed of their occupation can provide the best service/relationship.

IMO sps should be treating their repeat clients better provided they aren't jerks. Like any business, you should be treating your best customers a little bit better than a one-time customer.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

IMO sps should be treating their repeat clients better provided they aren't jerks. Like any business, you should be treating your best customers a little bit better than a one-time customer.

This comes into play when I have to juggle two requests for the same timeframe. I do give schedule-preference to my repeat visitor, over the brand new caller. It's my way of saying thank-you for the loyalty...

Yes the new caller could turn into a repeat visitor too, but you know...the bird in the hand! I have to go with what I know at the moment...

 

[steverino]

I tend to be promiscuous. Even when I enjoy a session and plan to return soon thereafter I seem to be swayed elsewhere.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

I tend to be promiscuous. Even when I enjoy a session and plan to return soon thereafter I seem to be swayed elsewhere.

Haha...so many beautiful ladies, so little time!

 

[romeochains]

Who is to say that our one-time clients are not going to be repeat clients. We or most give all our clients regardless our %100. For the regular repeat clients each client has different needs so we work with each client and what he enjoys or wants. all clients. That would be to me being judgemental to treat one client better. All our clients are very important to us. Not sure my point is being made here, but do get what I am saying.

I think you're saying that you put 100% into every session regardless of whether they are new or a repeat client. Some of your new clients won't be returning regardless of how fantastic you treat them. To keep a customer in my business, I will go far above and beyond what I'll do for a new customer once the relationship has been established. It's far cheaper to keep a customer than to acquire a new one. Look at the marketing money that Groupon is burning trying to build their customer base.

 

[romeochains]

Yes the new caller could turn into a repeat visitor too, but you know...the bird in the hand! I have to go with what I know at the moment...

Smart Kitty. Factor in the no-shows from new callers, and you're definitely economically better off going with the repeat client.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

To keep a customer in my business, I will go far above and beyond what I'll do for a new customer once the relationship has been established. It's far cheaper to keep a customer than to acquire a new one.

Smart Kitty. Factor in the no-shows from new callers, and you're definitely economically better off going with the repeat client.

Funny thing is..this situation arose just yesterday. Visitor A (repeat X 6) had advised me of a schedule delay, so I accepted and booked an appointment with Visitor B (newby)...not 5 minutes later, Visitor A calls and says everything worked out and he's on his way. I immediately sent a text to Visitor B, explaining that I thought I was free but in fact I wasn't, with an apology. Re-scheduling his afternoon didn't work, but he understood and said he'd see me next time. The new visitor probably would have arrived as promised but I had to honour my original appointment, even though he "made me wait", and I "lost" the new client. Some things just make sense in the long run...

 

[adon100]

I think repeat visits make it better. Once I like a SP , I see her few times. But no SP is exclusive. I repeat with several SP. Seen Stephnie at BBC 3 times. BBC is closed so lost touch with her. It will be great if I could connect with her again. Bobbi of Van 2 times. Jessika 2 times. Sandi Laine is the SP whom I have seen the most but that is 5 times over many years but 2-3 times last year. If you have few favorites, you have connections with these girls which makes sex great, offers variety which is one major reason for pooning and also keeps you away from emotional tangles