Relationship with a HO

[smackyo]

Let me get this straight:
- A girl can choose to go back to being a SP and if her S.O. has a problem with it, then the S.O. can take a hike?

- So if said girl chooses to go back to being a SP, it doesn't matter what her S.O. feel about it, right?

- Therefore, the only choice for the S.O. is to accept the girl going back to being a SP in order to stay as S.O.?

- What if her S.O. decides to be involved in the sex business when she decides to go back to being an SP? The S.O. doesn't have that choice, eh?

I don't know, Daisy. It sounds too much like a one-way street relationship. A relationship has to go both ways and it gotta have give and take on both parts.

Regarding my last question, you may say that the girl is being a SP just for business and money. However, aren't there other professions that can earn money without the need of becoming a S.O.?

If it's not for the business and money and it's for the pleasure and company of different men, then why does she have, want and need a S.O. or BF in the first place? Wouldn't it be right if the S.O. or BF sees other women (civies or SP) for the pleasure and company also?

exactly my point. just how it goes i guess. they want it all and are not prepared to make the sacrifices at times it seems to get it all. but if you ever question a choice they make or want to have some kind of understanding or compromise about something watch out cause you are encroching on her personal freedom and god given right to chose.

but it doesn't stop them from trying to control a man when they are in a relationship.

and again i just love the choice the guy is given here. i'm going back to suck other mens cocks for money. deal with it or leave. fucking typical.

 

[JMBrowning]

Daisy,

I am not judging nor demeaning you. If you feel that I am judging you by me asking questions, then I am really sorry that you feel that way.

If you are in an open relationship with someone who accepts that you have this lifestyle, then more power to you and your S.O. I am in an open relationship myself though my S.O. is not a SP. Deal with my S.O. is if she goes around sleeping, then hell... I have every fucking right to do the same and I'll stop if she wants to stop doing that herself.

It's like this: Treat unto others as you treat yourself. Don't you agree?

However, if you post that people have choices to do whatever they want in their lifes, then it's true... except when people are in relationships, whether it's spousal, BF, GF or family because whatever choices one side of the relationship makes, it will ALWAYS affect the other side.

 

[Damaged]

Daisy,
Although you present an overly simplistic view of the situation it is a little more complicated than that. i.e. Make your decision of what's best for you and let them make theirs. Your model of decision making doesn't seem to leave any room for a compromise.
Relationships are at times a series of compromises and give and take. Often when I step back and look at a situation that I'm not happy about I realize that a little compromise is best overall. You seem to propose that the best thing to do is to make decisions that are best for yourself and as long as you are honest let them make their decisions.
IMO this line of thinking will leave you very lonely in the long run because the perfect spouse is a myth. There are always compromises.
You mention you have a kid/s yet you cannot see the value in making a compromise? Kids are all about making decisions that often benefit them but do not always benefit yourself.
Either way you present an interesting way of thinking that has provoked some deep thought from me but there is a reason it isn't as simple as you present although it would be nice if it were.

 

[FuZzYknUckLeS]

...If I ever meet that guy I'm going to slit his throat from ear to ear. And as for her, she's unbelievably fucking stupid and I've told her so. I blame her for losing control of the situation, something an SP should never lose. FUCK I'M PISSED.

yer dating a fucking SP dude. wake up.

 

[georgebushmoron]

yer dating a fucking SP dude. wake up.

go to hell.... no SP should ever have to put up with a guy who tricks her into bareback without her consent. The fucking asshole took off the condom when she wasn't looking. I don't have to wake up to the reality that there are asshole pooners everywhere, I know it. I just wish she would wake up to that and have been more on guard. As for your assinine statement, why don't you shut up and think next time before you speak.

 

[FuZzYknUckLeS]

go to hell.... no SP should ever have to put up with a guy who tricks her into bareback without her consent. The fucking asshole took off the condom when she wasn't looking. I don't have to wake up to the reality that there are asshole pooners everywhere, I know it. I just wish she would wake up to that and have been more on guard. As for your assinine statement, why don't you shut up and think next time before you speak.

yer dating an SP.
been there. done that.
like I said. wake up.
you heard his side of the story yet?

and ya. she is pretty fuckin stupid if her story is true.

 

[georgebushmoron]

yer dating an SP.
been there. done that.
like I said. wake up.
you heard his side of the story yet?

and ya. she is pretty fuckin stupid if her story is true.

Oh goody for you. Yeah sure braino, I'd looove to hear his side of the story, to what purpose? Is this something you'd recommend, oh wise one? The only thing we agree on is that she's stupid, and thanks so much for parroting what I've said twice already. Shows you know how to read, which is a big plus. Now I take it you want me to wake up to something. Care to bless us with your wisdom and put it out there straight and simple?

 

[FuZzYknUckLeS]

Oh goody for you. Yeah sure braino, I'd looove to hear his side of the story, to what purpose? Is this something you'd recommend, oh wise one? The only thing we agree on is that she's stupid, and thanks so much for parroting what I've said twice already. Shows you know how to read, which is a big plus. Now I take it you want me to wake up to something. Care to bless us with your wisdom and put it out there straight and simple?

Not really. I've said enuf.
You made yer bed man. Sleep in it.
I'm happy in the fact that I don't have that kinda bullshit in my life anymore.
Good luck with it.

 

[Gentleman First]

That was one situation that happened with one particular girl... It's really too bad it happened... But still... I don't like the general "opions" of sp's I've been reading from some of the comments that stemed from that situation.

I visit all my clients with the opion they are no less or more than I. Most people treat me with the same common decency... Now I just wonder who all thinks this way about us girs? There are some people who do act this way in my company, and I'll be nice up until some is not nice to me... And those type of guys get treated exactly how they treat me. If they don't give respect, they don't get respect.

Who care if it's just a job/life style, part time, or full time thing. Nobody should be judged like that... Expecially from people who see us girls in their free time.

But whatever. I'm not looking to start up anything, I just thought I'd throw that out there.

Love, DD. xoxox

DD,

I have read, but intentionally avoided posting in this thread.
It seemed to be a pissing match of sorts, and i just wanted to stay out of it.
Then I read your post, and Darling Daisy...I agree.
I do not care what colour your skin is, what you do for work ( unless its a loser job attempting to be a thug type, or 99% of politicians ) or what language you speak, or anything else.
If you are nice, I am nice back.
If your an asshole, expect to be treated as one in return.