Relationship with a HO
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Ditto to Ingrid. Using that particular vernacular it will be brought up in any argument and used against her. Relationship doomed.
You speak about her like she isn't a human being, and of course she is. Can you have a relationship with a human? Of course you can. If you have ever been with an escort, what makes you any different than her? If you two are compatable then you are compatable. If she is still working in that field then you have to decide if you are ok with that. Just be honest with yourself.
I think that you need to evaluate yourself rather than her. Can you take the implications?.... because there can be severe emotional issues if you can't. Remember, we're all the same and treating people with respect should be first and foremost. It doesn't matter what a person does if you really care for the "person".
Cheers, Expo
Cheers, Expo
Relationship with an SP
If a woman is "charging" a man for sex than she is an SP not a HO. I, personally, have never been with an SP would said "oh, its ok you don't have to pay me".
If she is thinking about going back to the work it is because she has financial goals that she feels cannot be met any other way.
Very few SP's are sluts. In fact most would surprise you if you were to find out how sexually conservative they are in their personal lives.
Being an SP is a JOB. If they are good at their job we don't sense that they are doing it for the money. Just like most other jobs. I hope that ALL my clients feel that i enjoy working with them - the fact is, however, quite different.
If a woman is "charging" a man for sex than she is an SP not a HO. I, personally, have never been with an SP would said "oh, its ok you don't have to pay me".
If she is thinking about going back to the work it is because she has financial goals that she feels cannot be met any other way.
Very few SP's are sluts. In fact most would surprise you if you were to find out how sexually conservative they are in their personal lives.
Being an SP is a JOB. If they are good at their job we don't sense that they are doing it for the money. Just like most other jobs. I hope that ALL my clients feel that i enjoy working with them - the fact is, however, quite different.
Well said Ingrid...
If he loves this lady, there is no reason to refer to her in such an unsavory manner.
If she is looking to go back, I can see why he's upset. I am sure it would be difficult to make it work, but like I always said..."If you want something bad enough, you can make it happen"
I am a big believer in "Will to power".
If she is in a relationship with him, they have to think of ''we'' and not ''me''.
Listening is important and so is compromise. Good thing that I am single.
I am way too selfish to think of others at this point.
Ingrid said:
If he loves this lady, there is no reason to refer to her in such an unsavory manner.
If she is looking to go back, I can see why he's upset. I am sure it would be difficult to make it work, but like I always said..."If you want something bad enough, you can make it happen"
I am a big believer in "Will to power".
If she is in a relationship with him, they have to think of ''we'' and not ''me''.
Listening is important and so is compromise. Good thing that I am single.
I am way too selfish to think of others at this point.
Why don't you talk to her about it?? If you're not able to accept it perhaps your relationshiip needs reassessment.es_rice said:
If sex is the only thing that matters in a relationship, then they are all doomed.
And if you read the numbers for people who have 'affairs' in 'normal' relationships, you might as well fuck the bridesmaid on your wedding night because your bride probably blew the best man on the ride to the Church!
But given that we have such strong moralizing over 'sex', it does take a certain 'whatever' for a woman to cross that line and become a prostitute -- and the encounters that she will have with men will not all be good and great and awesome and there may be some issues there or not.
The bottom line though is if the only thing that matters in your relationship with women is 'who's she fucking?' then you will be miserable even if you marry a virgin! There has to be more to it than that ... and anyone can make the decision to have a monogamous relationship or not: accidents don't happen when it comes to sex, she either says 'yes' or its rape.
It is, however, up to each person to decide what they want in a relationship or not ... you can't go into one to rescue someone or change them (take note ladies!!!) and expect happiness. If I'm a happy ball-scratching flatulator going in, that's just going to be part of my charm for the duration.
And if you read the numbers for people who have 'affairs' in 'normal' relationships, you might as well fuck the bridesmaid on your wedding night because your bride probably blew the best man on the ride to the Church!
But given that we have such strong moralizing over 'sex', it does take a certain 'whatever' for a woman to cross that line and become a prostitute -- and the encounters that she will have with men will not all be good and great and awesome and there may be some issues there or not.
The bottom line though is if the only thing that matters in your relationship with women is 'who's she fucking?' then you will be miserable even if you marry a virgin! There has to be more to it than that ... and anyone can make the decision to have a monogamous relationship or not: accidents don't happen when it comes to sex, she either says 'yes' or its rape.
It is, however, up to each person to decide what they want in a relationship or not ... you can't go into one to rescue someone or change them (take note ladies!!!) and expect happiness. If I'm a happy ball-scratching flatulator going in, that's just going to be part of my charm for the duration.
i'm tired of this double standard. ladies would you date a man or marry a man that is in the porn biz as a performer? i really doubt it. but remember by all your logic its just a job right? he gets no pleasure from it all, strictly biz like most of you claim.
shedevil said:
A Nietzsche reader amongst the working girls? Cool, very cool.
Shedevil, do you think your working as an SP is really a demonstration of our own will to power? I am not disagreeing with your claim, if that truly is your claim. I really am just asking the question. I think escorting as a means of demonstrating your will to power is fairly legit.
