references 101 and provider safety

[Very Veronica]

Less and less providers are requiring references these days and that is a shame. It's invaluable for keeping the community safe. If someone has nefarious intentions, this process alone will likely weed them out and should a bad date transpire, you've got useful information for other girls and/or the police.

For all the reference newbies, this is what's generally required:

-website & email of sp (i only accept reputable references, no phone#'s from free ad sites)
-contact info you used: email, phone & name (aliases are fine just be consistent lol)
-when you saw her (month/yr)
-age
-and try to keep your references current..see hi end girls regularly!

Generally this is enough to jog a provider's memory but if you have an accent, wore goofy socks or performed a cirque du soleil move (or are cirque..mmmemories), that helps too! I usually get a simple 'yep, he's cool, have fun' within a few hours but allow a day turnaround.

Fyi, i only require references for incalls. Although they're always appreciated, registered guest name will suffice for hotel outcalls. Wiggle room for multiple girls/stags. I personally do not visit private homes.

Hope this helps, safety first everyone!

 

[Holly Taylor]

Great thread!

Just to add:

I don't need to know any of your personal information. I don't need to know your real name or where you work. All I'm interested in is if you had a visit with Escort So-and-So, and would she tell me that you were respectful and friendly during your time together.

When I get or give a reference, it's usually just a one-line email. Something like "Yes, I saw him a few months ago. He's a nice guy. Have fun!"

I like to have 1-2 days room to check out a reference. Sometimes I only check my email at the end of the day, and then if the other escort is only checking her email at the end of the next day, it could take a couple of days to get everything sorted out.

 

[Alix Turner]

On this point, the fastest way to receive a reference is often when it is at the clients request.

i.e. "Hello Darling Deborah, I am hoping to visit Succulent Simone when I am in New York and she has asked me if I would be able to provide a reference. Would you be willing to email her at whatever@gmail.com on my behalf?"

 

[vancity_cowboy]

a much easier option is not to visit escorts that require a reference. just sayin'...

 

[neverwas]

I wouldn't hesitate to give references. If the SP feels secure that makes my appointment more enjoyable.
My only concern would be that I would name someone as a reference but she might not reply to a request for information. This may make it look like I am not a good risk.

 

[blazejowski]

My pooning reputation means as much to me as a lot of escort's professional reputations, so I never have an issue providing references when I am asked. Doesn't bother me one bit when the girl asks me - it shows me she takes her work (and safety) seriously, and that always translates into a much better time for both of us...

 

[Miss*Bijou]

a much easier option is not to visit escorts that require a reference. just sayin'...

Not everyone's into car dates, vancity_cowboy. Just sayin'....

 

[vancity_cowboy]

Not everyone's into car dates, vancity_cowboy. Just sayin'....

cars, ma'am?? dang, that's soft... i'm talkin' horseback here, lol

 

[vancity_cowboy]

My boots/spurs are in the closet just waiting to be used, when will you be here? Lets RO-DE-O!

whoaa nelly!!! beggin' yer pardon ma'am, but first off we have to decide who's the cowboy and who's the horse!

i'm votin' ME fer the cowboy, dang it!

 

[little sunshine]

I had a well known SP refuse to give me a reference for a gentlemen accusing me that I could be his wife...I have never had this happen before.
I had to get the client to call her and tell her to email me back. It was awkward but he was fine with it and we had a great time.

Just wondering if this has ever happened to anyone before?