Racism versus Preference: Hatemail

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

You should see the hateful comment I received when I told someone that I didn't offer a half-hour session.

It comes with the territory, and is only worth an ignore. I think you're spending way too much time and energy on this issue, Miss Erica. Ohm........................

Oh darling Ms Alex, I know not to dwell on resentments. Like His Holiness says "Resentment is like swallowing poison, then waiting for the other person to die". It's over and done. I have stated my feelings, and been overwhelmingly supported by my community of sisters and potential clients. I have also heard from several members of the South Asian community supporting my viewpoint. I'm content to let it rest.

That being said, I have been known to hold a grudge like it's worth money...I AM a Scottish redhead after all!

Ohm shanti ohm...

 

[jackholes]

I respect that Ms. Erica can choose whomever she wants to see. I am just disappointed that I will not be able to see her.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

I respect that Ms. Erica can choose whomever she wants to see. I am just disappointed that I will not be able to see her.

I respect you all the more for that, jackholes!

 

[Tugela]

What if the example was a massage therapist instead of a B&B? I ask because I've thought about that a lot, and it really seems like a grey area to me. On the one hand, people should have a right to not be discriminated against and get their massages (after all, like me they could have an old injury that requires regular massages in order to live a normal life), but on the other hand those massage therapists have to really get in there with physical contact and work it out. I could never do a job like that because I just know there would be some cases in which I'd be totally uncomfortable with touching a client like that, and I don't know if I'd be legally allowed to refuse service.

You are not penetrating intimate body parts with them. I would say that is a little different.

 

[clu]

You are not penetrating intimate body parts with them. I would say that is a little different.

I appreciate the conclusion you are trying to reach, but it seems like you are splitting hairs to get the distinction you want. In another thread it's mentioned that many SP encounters do not involve penetration, so should that be ok?

IMHO it's not anyone's place to tell anyone else what is or isn't intimate for them. But following that reasoning, a person's home may be intimate to them, or intimate-like touch may be enough. So I'm having trouble defending that there's a line that can be drawn beyond which someone MUST provide a service.

Here's a practical example: I know someone who was a stripper, and she found a particular ethnicity tended to have a behaviour she didn't like. Maybe it was cultural, maybe it was bad luck, but as a result she stopped dancing for that ethnicity. There was no penetration, so by your definition she's prejudice? Is that correct? The lucky thing is that dancers tend to ask the customers if they want a dance. It's rarer it's the other way around. So it wasn't an obvious bias -- she didn't have to put it in print -- but it was there still. And she would turn down this group if they approached her. When she told me about it, I felt bad for the people she was ignoring but I understood her reasons.

So, lap dances: contact but no penetration. In your opinion is she allowed to be selective or not? And if so don't you feel the distinction is getting fairly nuanced and subjective?

 

[dickotoole]

Peaceguy - you wrote, "but why should I risk an encounter with a possible racist which would likely be an uncomfortable and subpar session for me?"

I have boned a couple of racist bitches and found at least one of them to be a fantastic fuck. Possible racists probably could be good fucks too.

That said, I see your point of not wanting to support a person/provider who puts out racist language and then claims not to be racist. Racism is all around all of us and is for the most part tolerated and even supported by society at large. It is only when it is blatant - all encompassing "I don't see south east Asians" - that people get up in arms. Saying the same thing using different language as I suggested in my earlier post on this matter would raise no fury in the rest of the sheep.