I've had a few girlfriends who really were late to the orgasming party, and had never really explored themselves (which was alarming and strange). So when we first started to progress through clitoral orgasms i would notice they could get off more easily with legs close together. Typical position for this was prone on the belly and either my hands or hers on her clit. Much in the same way guys legs straighten (hamstrings and hip flexors contract), they would flex everything forward and together. I find often if Im giving a woman head and I can tell its going well from her body language but she isnt coming, if i put her legs closer together rather than hold them apart, and put her hands on the back of my head it helps to bring her back to the mental pathway i need.
At the end of the day, men and women ARE much different, as emphasized by this thread. However we all require a mental pathway that is engrained into our mind to lead us to orgasm. Some people have many different paths, and some people need to hit that one specific combination like a safe lock. Your best bet as a human is to practice orgasming in many positions to many ideas and sensations, thus giving you many paths to orgasm.
Ps whoever said squirt is colder because its not stored, makes no sense. Unless shes got a hose coming out her back, you have to wonder where all that non stored liquid is coming from. Body temp is body temp, if it comes out of your body it comes out at temp.