From a guy who comes from a very dysfuntional family. My father was in jail and just was very abusive menatally physically sexually.
I think being a victim, is a choice or a decision we make.
I think we can chose to be a predator in this hobby as well to be honest.
I think whether your a predator or a victim in this hobby depends on what your getting out of it and what your motivation your reason for being here.
And to be honest I think its a fine line.
When I started this hobby, I pretty much didn't give a dam about the girls. I just wanted sex, didn't care what her emotional state was or whether she liked it or not.
I fiqured she wanted money and that I gave her, nothing more to think about.
But once I wasn't quite so horny any more, I looked into the woman's eyes and saw a human being there.
I cared about her well being, even after the door closed.
I worried about whether this was right or wrong for the both of us. I asked her repeatedly if it was ok, could I do something different for her.
I don't know,
but I would say I have benifited in many ways from seeing the lady I see.
And I have felt sorry for only giving her paper in return.
But she has told me many times. I have given her more then paper.
I think like I said being a predator or a victim are both a choice we make.