I can agree with that. I've several female friends in their early twenties who regularly wish they were banging their prof/friend's dad/etc etc. It's all just a matter of attraction. If you're attracted, there's chemistry, no need to worry that much about age. Unless of course one or more parties involved might be so old as to have serious health concerns during sex.
Pros and cons of "rescuing" a micro girl
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Though a bit harsh, I sadly agree with this. I've mostly been around asian's my whole life, being asian myself (Canadian born), and this is one thing that I notice all the time. Although this instinct is inside all women, asian females seem to have a hard time getting around it. There are many that will be with a guy just because they can provide, even if no love is involved, and that's okay with them. So if trying to rescue an asian micro girl, I'd be pretty certain that she wouldn't be in it for love.
That car comment, wow, here's a little story. When I was younger, I had a crush on this asian girl, we hung out and I drove a shitty old family hand-me-down beater. Whenever I'd pick her up, she would say something like "eww this car again". She used to work late shifts at McD's so I'd offer to drive her home, she would say "are you gonna pick me up in that crappy car? Can you borrow your brothers?" WTF?! So when I started to hang out with this white girl a few years later, I habitually apologized for my crappy car, and this white girl was just like with a smile say "nahh it's okay!". I was floored at how easy going she was, I guess that's when my interest in white girls started, haha
I dont think this applies just to asians, women in general are very good at that psychological game. My daughter for instance is only 2 years old and she can melt me with just one little smile. Women know what we want to see in them and use that to their advantage. Who's really the predator and who's the prey?
I for one have never met a sex slave/ people traffiking so I cant comment except what i've only experienced is a mutual consenting 1 hour of bliss for the price of $ to $$.
As for materialism between asians and caucasians, I think you'll find high maintenance gals in all races.
I for one have never met a sex slave/ people traffiking so I cant comment except what i've only experienced is a mutual consenting 1 hour of bliss for the price of $ to $$.
As for materialism between asians and caucasians, I think you'll find high maintenance gals in all races.
Older is always relative to the age at which we are.
I would've loved the chance to be with my gfs dad, he was hawt....I was 17 and he was 32. But I was not attracted to her Grandfather who was in his late fifties or so.
I liked men who were between 10 and 20 years older than me, roughly the ages of my professors at University.
What I am attracted to creeps out my niece, who is 21..."ohh gawd he is so old and has grey hair". And her friends are pretty much on the same page. That seems to be normal for that age group.
Young girls like pretty boys. They don't appreciate the looks of Sean Connery or Clint Eastwood until they have matured a bit.
Nothing is quite black and white so you have probably met very young women who specifically like old men, and, I have met young men who are really focused on old women.
The question is how much of the attraction is based on the assumption of material reward? Older gents are known to be very 'giving', and younger guys are just getting started in their jobs and may not be able to compete financially.
Remove the subjects and what is there left?
Any hope that rescuing a young MP worker will result in any kind of relationship would be a potential heart-ache. An older man cannot recuperate from a financial disaster as easily as a young man.
I would've loved the chance to be with my gfs dad, he was hawt....I was 17 and he was 32. But I was not attracted to her Grandfather who was in his late fifties or so.
I liked men who were between 10 and 20 years older than me, roughly the ages of my professors at University.
What I am attracted to creeps out my niece, who is 21..."ohh gawd he is so old and has grey hair". And her friends are pretty much on the same page. That seems to be normal for that age group.
Young girls like pretty boys. They don't appreciate the looks of Sean Connery or Clint Eastwood until they have matured a bit.
Nothing is quite black and white so you have probably met very young women who specifically like old men, and, I have met young men who are really focused on old women.
The question is how much of the attraction is based on the assumption of material reward? Older gents are known to be very 'giving', and younger guys are just getting started in their jobs and may not be able to compete financially.
Remove the subjects and what is there left?
Any hope that rescuing a young MP worker will result in any kind of relationship would be a potential heart-ache. An older man cannot recuperate from a financial disaster as easily as a young man.
Unfortunately, not just high maintenance. It's a bit worse than that. I've known women who would willingly marry someone just for money and status without love, at the same time rejecting another who could have given a comfortable lifestyle and real love. As far as I can see, marrying for money and status without love is basically being a full time SP. Seems to me it's a recipe for a lot of unhappiness and turmoil. Yes, love can fade, but I'd like to at least have a few years of blissful love before the cynicism ramps up.
I like I give a rats ass about her opinion...though calling me an asshole is surely a violation of PERB rulesWhoa.....take that SR
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though calling me an asshole is surely a violation of PERB rules
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checked the rules..........it's only a violation if Hunka calls you one..............everybody else is fine.
I am a new member but been watching the board for a while. I have read this thread and i know late response but have first hand knowledge with this topic. I married a lady 2 years ago that was in the buisness at the time. Yes she is chinese and was only in the business a short time about 6 months. She left the buisness before we married and will never return.
I dont feel i rescued her i found someone who is a special person who was only trying to take care of her parents. She is mature smart and of course very loving. Her english is good so comunication is fine and she is honest. She is working a regular job now and has never been a burden or a drain on me financially.
At first when we dated i worried about running into someone she dated but over time that is a non issue as she has not been working for 3 years now.
It happened one time but we just walked away. She is loving and a very good person. We have been together 2 years and we have our problems like any couple but in life there is nothing for sure.
She feels very guilty about doing the work and didnt like it. We talked about the dark side of it and she decided the money was not worth the risk.
That chapter of her life is behind her and we never talk about it anymore even if angry.
I guess my point to this is to give my view is that anything can work if you respect each other and as i said i am proud of her for what she does today not the past. All is i know there are risks in life but i am happy overall.
I dont feel i rescued her i found someone who is a special person who was only trying to take care of her parents. She is mature smart and of course very loving. Her english is good so comunication is fine and she is honest. She is working a regular job now and has never been a burden or a drain on me financially.
At first when we dated i worried about running into someone she dated but over time that is a non issue as she has not been working for 3 years now.
It happened one time but we just walked away. She is loving and a very good person. We have been together 2 years and we have our problems like any couple but in life there is nothing for sure.
She feels very guilty about doing the work and didnt like it. We talked about the dark side of it and she decided the money was not worth the risk.
That chapter of her life is behind her and we never talk about it anymore even if angry.
I guess my point to this is to give my view is that anything can work if you respect each other and as i said i am proud of her for what she does today not the past. All is i know there are risks in life but i am happy overall.
Hey dave443,
Congratulations, brother, on your courage to see the relationship potential in a "mature, smart and of course very loving" Chinese lady that, by force of circumstance, worked for a period as an SP. She has no good reason to feel "guilty"—there's absolutely nothing morally wrong with spreading happiness through giving massage with one's hands, or using any other part of one's body to give pleasure.
It's also great that your wife has adjusted to "working a regular job" for maybe $10-20/hr when before, she could make ten times that for possibly way less effort. The difficulty of such adjustment would be one of my major worries.
May I ask if you had to sponsor your current wife as an immigrant—which, I understand, entails the risk of 10 years of financial responsibility for a person? If so, I admire your guts to take a leap of faith here; I wonder if I could. It would take a very special lady, that's for sure.
I've met about half a dozen mature but still very pretty micro girls over the past 2 years—none, alas, with much education, ability to communicate in English, or any evident sense of purpose or direction—who gave me the impression (or told me outright) they would love to give up their current, deeply unsatisfying situation for a nice husband and a regular job. For the right kind of guy, they could make terrific life partners.
Sure beats travelling life's journey nursing one's solitude, doesn't it? I wish you continued happiness with your chosen lady, brother. I certainly don't want to idealize Asian ladies—and overgeneralize about the traits of realistically available Western women—but you probably feel, most of the time, that you've hit it lucky. Hope also you have the kind of great sex life that most married guys in our society can only dream about.
Should you run into serious trouble—and are willing to consider counseling—PM me, and I'd happily recommend an exceptional counselor who specializes in these kinds of relationships and has helped me get through several tough spots in the past.
Thanks for coming on here and contributing. And if, in spite of being in a committed relationship, you seek occasional erotic diversity with SPs, that's totally healthy for a normally-sexed guy. Don't let anyone suggest there's something wrong with it. Of course, if your wife approves—as does my GF—so much the better!
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Thank you for the kind words. I did sponsor her but it is 3 years i am responsable for not 10. If we had sponsored a family member for example a child or her parents then i would be responsable for them for 10 years. That is a different class of immigration. Yes there is some risk as in any relationship.
My first marrige to a (normal) women cleaned me out many years ago so not worried this time. She is honest and of course there are risks in anything.
She has adjusted to working for the money she makes between both of us it is a good living.
I have met many SPs also over the years and some were friends but mostly it was business. For a long time i didnt want a relationship because of the first marrige. I do enjoy this hobby but a lot less now as i have many things that keep me busy now besides her.
Yes the dream for most of them is to meet a nice guy but with her she is different from most i have met, both sp or non sp. She has had a lot to adjust too as i have an elderly father i help care for, and 2 teenage children with us, she has been single all her life and no kids so it is an adjustment for all but today it is working. And yes as much as i love her it is still fun at times to be with someone else, which as you say is normal.
I dont look at her as an ex sp, i look at her as a women who is hardworking and would do anything for her parents there are not many like her. She did have guilt but over time has gone away. And yes for her age she takes good care of herself and is very beautiful which is one reason i love asian women.
My first marrige to a (normal) women cleaned me out many years ago so not worried this time. She is honest and of course there are risks in anything.
She has adjusted to working for the money she makes between both of us it is a good living.
I have met many SPs also over the years and some were friends but mostly it was business. For a long time i didnt want a relationship because of the first marrige. I do enjoy this hobby but a lot less now as i have many things that keep me busy now besides her.
Yes the dream for most of them is to meet a nice guy but with her she is different from most i have met, both sp or non sp. She has had a lot to adjust too as i have an elderly father i help care for, and 2 teenage children with us, she has been single all her life and no kids so it is an adjustment for all but today it is working. And yes as much as i love her it is still fun at times to be with someone else, which as you say is normal.
I dont look at her as an ex sp, i look at her as a women who is hardworking and would do anything for her parents there are not many like her. She did have guilt but over time has gone away. And yes for her age she takes good care of herself and is very beautiful which is one reason i love asian women.
Just when I resigned myself to see this thread end the way controversial threads on PERB often do—with a trading of petty insults between volatile egos—you injected a whole new level of realism and seriousness.
I thank you for this, Dave. Thanks also for clarifying the length of one's financial support obligations for sponsoring an immigrant without dependents: so it's 3 years! You say your wife is devoted to her parents—I hope, though, she's not pressuring you to help sponsor them to come to Canada as well, saddling you with a potential 10-yr obligation?
You sound like a decent, intelligent man who came with some baggage, as most of us do. An elderly father to care for, 2 hyper teenage kids living with you, and a previous "normal" (Western?) wife who "cleaned you out"! Amazing how your Asian partner took this on without complaint.
Most woman I've met in their mid- to late-30s (or even early 40s) have wanted to have children, which for me is a complete deal breaker. But I guess your partner is that rare woman who got past her procreative urges.
Your experience seems to bear this out, and stands as a real-life example of what my post was trying to get at: that despite all the challenges involved in romance with a mature Asian SP who's ready to quit, there's a reasonable chance that it might work.
I thank you for this, Dave. Thanks also for clarifying the length of one's financial support obligations for sponsoring an immigrant without dependents: so it's 3 years! You say your wife is devoted to her parents—I hope, though, she's not pressuring you to help sponsor them to come to Canada as well, saddling you with a potential 10-yr obligation?
You sound like a decent, intelligent man who came with some baggage, as most of us do. An elderly father to care for, 2 hyper teenage kids living with you, and a previous "normal" (Western?) wife who "cleaned you out"! Amazing how your Asian partner took this on without complaint.
Most woman I've met in their mid- to late-30s (or even early 40s) have wanted to have children, which for me is a complete deal breaker. But I guess your partner is that rare woman who got past her procreative urges.
I don't want to generalize too much based on narrow personal experience. But after half a lifetime of mostly frustrating relationship attempts with mostly Western women I certainly share your predilection for Asians, in part because they're more likely treat a man with gentleness and respect, in part because they tend to age more gracefully, and in large part because I've found their attitude toward men's non-monogamous sexuality far more open and accepting.
Your experience seems to bear this out, and stands as a real-life example of what my post was trying to get at: that despite all the challenges involved in romance with a mature Asian SP who's ready to quit, there's a reasonable chance that it might work.
Thank you Tantalizeme for the kind words. I will not respond or get into the petty arguments here or in life. This is why i watched the board for a few months before joining. When i saw this thread and you started it i wanted to respond to bring balence to ths discussion.
This has also been tough on her too, with the ready made family, she has no kids of her own and no siblings. I have a large family brothers and sister and all the nieces and nephews etc.
As far as the parents,no they will not come here they are almost 80 and never left China so the adjustment would be too much for them. She goes home once per year to visit, and with the phone plans now it is very cheap to call. They talk almost every day.
She is just trying to do her best everyday of course nothing is perfect, but what in life is?
We were both honest from the beginning, i dont want more kids as i am 8 to 10 years away from retirement so this will be my time to travel etc.
We dont talk about her working life i am sure it was not a good time for her, i know the places she worked and i know she had some bad experiances as the places were not the best or safest. I have read about some of the places on this site and am thankful she made the choice to leave. I have seen both sides of the business and she hates i know but i have told her it is the past look forward not backwards.
And yes i think there are good women in all races, but in my experiance i do prefer asian for the reasons you stated.
Again thank you for your kind words, i enjoy reading your reviews and one day i hope to post some after i get some posts in me so they are believable. Most of my punting was too long ago to review but still partake once in a while but so busy these days.
This has also been tough on her too, with the ready made family, she has no kids of her own and no siblings. I have a large family brothers and sister and all the nieces and nephews etc.
As far as the parents,no they will not come here they are almost 80 and never left China so the adjustment would be too much for them. She goes home once per year to visit, and with the phone plans now it is very cheap to call. They talk almost every day.
She is just trying to do her best everyday of course nothing is perfect, but what in life is?
We were both honest from the beginning, i dont want more kids as i am 8 to 10 years away from retirement so this will be my time to travel etc.
We dont talk about her working life i am sure it was not a good time for her, i know the places she worked and i know she had some bad experiances as the places were not the best or safest. I have read about some of the places on this site and am thankful she made the choice to leave. I have seen both sides of the business and she hates i know but i have told her it is the past look forward not backwards.
And yes i think there are good women in all races, but in my experiance i do prefer asian for the reasons you stated.
Again thank you for your kind words, i enjoy reading your reviews and one day i hope to post some after i get some posts in me so they are believable. Most of my punting was too long ago to review but still partake once in a while but so busy these days.
