Nube in the trenches....

ronniejoe

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In my 60's and recently hooked up with a sp in their 20's. This is my first time at this after a long marriage and a first ever for paying for sex. Expected the experience was not going to be anything like I was imagining, and was not wrong!


First off the 20's thing sounded great. She (name and any identifying details omitted) came well recommended here. I was a little shocked when she opened the door. Her face had been greyed out on the site, and in retrospect I realized in my mind I had inserted the face of a gorgeous 40 year old. Was taken off guard by how young she was and think she was similarly a bit surprised by my age, although she never let on directly.


Things progressed quickly, too quickly, wish I had talked to her for 10 minutes beforehand to make us both a little more comfortable. I was only an little taller than she but I sensed immediately some hesitancy even intimidation. I had thought that she would be a professional in charge to some degree but I think the age difference played against that. I was a bit ham handed and at one point started to put my hand up behind her head which she pushed away. I started scratching her back, which my wife had loved and I never really thought much about it, but she was really not happy with that for which I apologized. (Afterwards I scratched myself with the same intensity and was surprised at how hard it actually was.) When I asked if it was OK to straddle her while she hand massaged me, she declined that idea outright. Repeating another habit, my earlier (rebuffed) hand caress behind the head, she reacted very strongly and stated that one more transgression and I would be shown the door. I apologized once more but after that I was too perturbed to make any more moves through the minefield of ordinances that I was obviously having such difficulty detecting, and pretty much just laid there.


On top of it all I was having difficulty performing after spending a sleepless adrenaline drenched night dreaming about the encounter which had left me dehydrated. A few more weak apologies/explanations and I scampered out the door. Without a doubt, the highlight of the entire (mis)adventure had been during our initial text messaging when she had replied to a comment with a heart emoji! To be honest this alone was worth the price of admission so I have no complaints.


Even though I never did anything to make her think I was a threat, in retrospect I never did near enough to put her at ease that I wasn't. As she declared to me at the end 'Live and learn'!
 
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In my 60's and recently hooked up with a sp in their 20's. This is my first time at this after a long marriage and a first ever for paying for sex. Expected the experience was not going to be anything like I was imagining, and was not wrong!


First off the 20's thing sounded great. She (name and any identifying details omitted) came well recommended here. I was a little shocked when she opened the door. Her face had been greyed out on the site, and in retrospect I realized in my mind I had inserted the face of a gorgeous 40 year old. Was taken off guard by how young she was and think she was similarly a bit surprised by my age, although she never let on directly.


Things progressed quickly, too quickly, wish I had talked to her for 10 minutes beforehand to make us both a little more comfortable. I was only an little taller than she but I sensed immediately some hesitancy even intimidation. I had thought that she would be a professional in charge to some degree but I think the age difference played against that. I was a bit ham handed and at one point started to put my hand up behind her head which she pushed away. I started scratching her back, which my wife had loved and I never really thought much about it, but she was really not happy with that for which I apologized. (Afterwards I scratched myself with the same intensity and was surprised at how hard it actually was.) When I asked if it was OK to straddle her while she hand massaged me, she declined that idea outright. Repeating another habit, my earlier (rebuffed) hand caress behind the head, she reacted very strongly and stated that one more transgression and I would be shown the door. I apologized once more but after that I was too perturbed to make any more moves through the minefield of ordinances that I was obviously having such difficulty detecting, and pretty much just laid there.


On top of it all I was having difficulty performing after spending a sleepless adrenaline drenched night dreaming about the encounter which had left me dehydrated. A few more weak apologies/explanations and I scampered out the door. Without a doubt, the highlight of the entire (mis)adventure had been during our initial text messaging when she had replied to a comment with a heart emoji! To be honest this alone was worth the price of admission so I have no complaints.


Even though I never did anything to make her think I was a threat, in retrospect I never did near enough to put her at ease that I wasn't. As she declared to me at the end 'Live and learn'!
Yes communication is key but if you are self aware you know that everybody has different boundaries and any action that has the potential to hurt or restrict movements will get you blacklisted or an asterisk will be put beside your name in a normal encounter or in this industry.

Pound for pound you are stronger and the ladies in the sex industry have to deal or have experienced the worst behavior from men of all walks of life...so they think safety first . They share among themselves as much as they can to awake the sixth sense of the new ladies entering the industry when they have a chance or share the coordinates of badly behave men ( still not enough sometimes) .

So next time play nice even if it's not what you are use to . Put yourself in the lady's skin (empathy) and how vulnerable she might be during any encounter...
 
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masterpoonhunter

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Welcome new legacy class perbite (so am I). Stay in the game, you'll get it all going just fine, you know the riding the bike thing.
The only suggestion I have is to spend some quality time in these forums, make notes. Maybe go for the bit more seasoned gals, then find the suggested SP's, check out their ads. Book some time. Whatever your budget, keep at it.
You'll be enjoying yourself in no time!!
 

vanperb

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First time, it happens. You don't know the pattern. You're hopped up on adrenaline. You're using techniques you refined for a very specific person. Also there just might have not been any chemistry. It'll be your third or fourth time before you're relaxed enough and familiar with the expectations enough to enjoy yourself.

It's like driving in a new country. You know the general techniques and rules, but what's happening around you is only vaguely familiar. Write an apology text to the young lady, and perhaps try someone new. This time tell them you're new, and would really like them to take the lead. Or go to an agency, and ask the handler who they would recommend as someone who would take charge.
 
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Harmony-bc

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Aww it sounds like you had good intentions but you’re just out of practice. It’s best to remember we’re all human and every person is built a bit differently. What one person loves, another might hate. Communication is key. Seeing as how you were shocked by how young she was and before hand you had imagined her to be older, I suggest just going with older. Get your feet wet, get comfortable with somebody that prefers men your age and is closer to your age. It will be more comfortable from the get go.

It’s good practice while you’re navigating the dating scene and the sp scene to get into the practice of asking before you can do something. And learning how to take a bit of direction. Once you slow down a bit, you’ll find there’s lots of fun to be had in this world 💕
 

GeeBeeP

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Good advice above.

I’d add two things.

Use the reviews here to find a girl thats more comfortable with what you might like, perhaps a more PSE kind of provider, but always be upfront and discuss what you might want before hand (I know the conversation both in person or via text / email will feel awkward as hell, but don’t worry she’s a pro)

Second consider booking 1.5 or 2 hours with a quality SP instead of just an hour. There will be an opportunity for the chatting you wish you did before hand, and the thrill you got with just that little heart emoji will pale in comparison to what you’ll get with some good conversation, flirting, and hopefully the chemistry that can happen with the best escorts.
 

Cock Throppled

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I'm trying to figure out how booking someone you knew to be in their 20's was a surprise when she opened he door.

Also surprised being such an age difference, you wouldn't have disclosed your age, or even asked, if she was comfortable seeing someone your age.

Not asking questions about what was wanted, or expected with a new partner seems a recipe for problems regardless if she's an SP or not.
 
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I'm trying to figure out how booking someone you knew to be in their 20's was a surprise when she opened he door.

Also surprised being such an age difference, you wouldn't have disclosed your age, or even asked, if she was comfortable seeing someone your age.

Not asking questions about what was wanted, or expected with a new partner seems a recipe for problems regardless if she's an SP or not.
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