Never fall in Love with a provider
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Well said, Meiko.Meiko said:
Of course it wasn't true love. Life can hold the clearest mirror to a man's face, and he'll never see his own ego.
Mav, you shouldn't have violated her privacy like that.
god damn.. reading this thread nearly put me to sleep because of so many repeats....
I think if each and every member were to put a post on their definition on "love" on this thread, it will probably crash this site. Come on, I am sure most of you would know or agree that "love" has no concrete or single definition to it. All of us grow up and will continue to grow as a person with dif surroundings, dif situations, dif ppl, and dif forms of obtaining knowledge of the world. So most of us will see or define the meaning of what's real or true love differently. I will save most of you the suspenses or a late charge from borrowing a book in love from your local library. Sure there is real and true love, just that some will manage to catch it earlier than the others.
Love is one's source of comfort and journey that ALL of us are destined to quest for, it gives us no time or schedule to its arrival, and it holds no promises to its destination, but when it decides to reveal to us that we are the fuel to its very existance; than, we will have a better feel and understanding of the meaning and purpose of love in our life.
the ups and downs, good and bad, pretty and ugly side of love have shaped and rounded me into the person I am today and I am grateful for it. No regrets and no grudges...
I think if each and every member were to put a post on their definition on "love" on this thread, it will probably crash this site. Come on, I am sure most of you would know or agree that "love" has no concrete or single definition to it. All of us grow up and will continue to grow as a person with dif surroundings, dif situations, dif ppl, and dif forms of obtaining knowledge of the world. So most of us will see or define the meaning of what's real or true love differently. I will save most of you the suspenses or a late charge from borrowing a book in love from your local library. Sure there is real and true love, just that some will manage to catch it earlier than the others.
Love is one's source of comfort and journey that ALL of us are destined to quest for, it gives us no time or schedule to its arrival, and it holds no promises to its destination, but when it decides to reveal to us that we are the fuel to its very existance; than, we will have a better feel and understanding of the meaning and purpose of love in our life.
the ups and downs, good and bad, pretty and ugly side of love have shaped and rounded me into the person I am today and I am grateful for it. No regrets and no grudges...
2 sides of a story
Wow, this is quite a thread in such a short time.
Correct me if I am wrong, but hasn't BSD been struggling with the situation for quite some time. Did anyone ever thought that perhaps BSD is going public because he is on the verge of making his decision, and that he might be looking for concurrence from other. Don't we all do this at time. We believe we have decided (perhaps afraid to execute yet), but we nevertheless look to people around us for their blessing.
Finding someone else attractive so quickly - could that also be part of the escape route to make oneself feel better about the decision, or even to reinforce the idea that the decision is sound. Being the first one to walk away in a relationship is very hard.
Meiko's most recent input throws a twist to the plot (actually thickens it more). We now have a 3rd perspective to the situation that no one has ask. Which is, what is Valerie's view about the whole situation. What is her version of the story?
Wow, this is quite a thread in such a short time.
Correct me if I am wrong, but hasn't BSD been struggling with the situation for quite some time. Did anyone ever thought that perhaps BSD is going public because he is on the verge of making his decision, and that he might be looking for concurrence from other. Don't we all do this at time. We believe we have decided (perhaps afraid to execute yet), but we nevertheless look to people around us for their blessing.
Finding someone else attractive so quickly - could that also be part of the escape route to make oneself feel better about the decision, or even to reinforce the idea that the decision is sound. Being the first one to walk away in a relationship is very hard.
Meiko's most recent input throws a twist to the plot (actually thickens it more). We now have a 3rd perspective to the situation that no one has ask. Which is, what is Valerie's view about the whole situation. What is her version of the story?
You are wrong, TT.trainTrack said:
Soap opera's always have multiple simultaneous plotlines going. You've mixed up the BSD unrequited love stream with the Mav revenge stream. Never cross the streams.
Ahem... you mean MavG or MG... I'm also Mav.trainTrack said:You're right. I meant Mav instead of BSD. These streams are place way too close together.
Hello, Its Valerie!
Ok, I would like to clarify a few things...
No.1: I did not leave MG for the industry. I had a whole other long list of reasons which I have enough decency to not air in public. Well ok Meiko was right MG is a slob, hehe, but he doesnt owe me money.
No.2: I am not in the industry for financial reasons. I have made many friends in the business and we have fun together and more of a bond then MG and I will ever have.
The chemistry of lust is a strange thing that cant be bottled. When its gone, its gone and unfortunately ours had kinda fizzled.
Ok, I would like to clarify a few things...
No.1: I did not leave MG for the industry. I had a whole other long list of reasons which I have enough decency to not air in public. Well ok Meiko was right MG is a slob, hehe, but he doesnt owe me money.
No.2: I am not in the industry for financial reasons. I have made many friends in the business and we have fun together and more of a bond then MG and I will ever have.
The chemistry of lust is a strange thing that cant be bottled. When its gone, its gone and unfortunately ours had kinda fizzled.
Her eyes, they shone like the diamonds,
You'd think she was queen o'er the land,
Her hair, hung o'er her shoulders,
Tied up with a black velvet band...
It's an old story folks, never follow that black velvet band... heartache is sure to travel with ye.
I've never had the chance to be in this situation, but my 2 cents would be:
1. If she chooses to enter the profession , voice your dissent and and ask her why she wants to do it. Tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable...and tell her why it makes you so. To me, I'd probably find myself worrying about her safety... more than even my little caveman raging about my mate being taken by another man.
2. If she still chooses to do it, let her go. She can either choose to be with you or be with the profession... but if it really means something to you, she can't be with both. I really don't know how I'd handle the situation, and I hope I never have to.
<< Still single, but tiring of it.
You'd think she was queen o'er the land,
Her hair, hung o'er her shoulders,
Tied up with a black velvet band...
It's an old story folks, never follow that black velvet band... heartache is sure to travel with ye.
I've never had the chance to be in this situation, but my 2 cents would be:
1. If she chooses to enter the profession , voice your dissent and and ask her why she wants to do it. Tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable...and tell her why it makes you so. To me, I'd probably find myself worrying about her safety... more than even my little caveman raging about my mate being taken by another man.
2. If she still chooses to do it, let her go. She can either choose to be with you or be with the profession... but if it really means something to you, she can't be with both. I really don't know how I'd handle the situation, and I hope I never have to.
<< Still single, but tiring of it.
Rollerboy
---Dr. Moe
Go see the 1977 French film That Obscure Object of Desire to further explore your query. The idea is, indeed, often so much better than the reality.rollerboy said:
---Dr. Moe
I talked to her today. She has decided to go with it. I am sick of this shit. I can't watch her do this. IF this is what she wants then fuck it! I FUCKING TOTALLY GIVE UP! I AM FUCKIN' DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AAAGHHHHHHH!!!!!!
FUCK LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AAAGHHHHHHH!!!!!!
FUCK LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Am I in trouble? I can answer yes to 3 out of 5.~Alexandria~ said:If she cooks for you in her pajammas with messy hair, she's in
If she's had you in her private bedroom, she's in
if you've met her kids and her mom, she's in
If you've only ever got together paid for time, or an occasional dinner or evening out, then she's probably not in.
If she tells you she's not ready for a relationship, that it's not you, it's her, she's really not in
It depends on which 3 out of 5. If its the first 3 then no. If its the last 1 or 2 then yes I'd say you are in trouble.el_diablo said:
My thoughts:
There shouldn't be payment for time or sex if the feelings are mutual. Falling in love with an Sp & having those feeling reciprocated doesn't happen very often. Even finding mutual love outside the industry can be challenging. It takes a lot of communication, trust & an exceptionaly understanding partner to be in & continue a long term relationship with an Sp. Ultimetly the majority end up hating what the Sp does for a living. Compleatly understandable. Reverse the situation to your boyfriend being an sp & servicing women. Even if it's just for money & there is no emotional attachment, it doesn't change the fact that you are sharing the person you care for. That is difficult to deal with, even for the most rational of people.
Is there hope for these relationships to work, it depends on the reason(s) the Sp got into the business. If it was for fun, then probably not. If it was strickly economics then it is possible. If the Sp is able to reach her goals & be done with the industry & both people still have love & are able to put the past behind them then absolutly. My advice to those who are having difficulty dealing with their partners profession is to continue the relationship when the Sp is no longer an Sp.
Very interesting thread.
Are there any right answers? I don't think so. We are all entitled to our own opinions and have the right to share our experiences as a result.
I fell in love with a client who I was sure felt the same way. And although we never talked about "US" on a personal level, I thought it was going somewhere. I saw this person fairly consistently for about 3 years, then all hell broke loose and we were no longer having sex we were making love......phone calls back and forth ect. We never talked about the business ect. He was married...and I knew I had to get away from him. Then he left his wife recently. I decided to retire, told him so....... asked him out on a date.....was ignored but he continued to call me to hire me. I went along with it. Last time we were together, I told him I loved him and meant every word. He said it right back with no hesitation. That was the last time I saw him. That was 2 months ago. Broke my damn heart.
How crazy am I????????
I will never allow myself to get into such a situation again.
So it this thread can go 2 ways.
Caryn
Are there any right answers? I don't think so. We are all entitled to our own opinions and have the right to share our experiences as a result.
I fell in love with a client who I was sure felt the same way. And although we never talked about "US" on a personal level, I thought it was going somewhere. I saw this person fairly consistently for about 3 years, then all hell broke loose and we were no longer having sex we were making love......phone calls back and forth ect. We never talked about the business ect. He was married...and I knew I had to get away from him. Then he left his wife recently. I decided to retire, told him so....... asked him out on a date.....was ignored but he continued to call me to hire me. I went along with it. Last time we were together, I told him I loved him and meant every word. He said it right back with no hesitation. That was the last time I saw him. That was 2 months ago. Broke my damn heart.
How crazy am I????????
I will never allow myself to get into such a situation again.
So it this thread can go 2 ways.
Caryn
Having held the person I was in love with as she died I know that Love is fleeting...
If you find yourself falling in love you just might consider going for it although you might want to be extra careful if the person you are falling in love with is already 'attached' to someone else...
Providers are human and for the most part truly wonderful people - they can fall in love too...
If you find yourself falling in love you just might consider going for it although you might want to be extra careful if the person you are falling in love with is already 'attached' to someone else...
Providers are human and for the most part truly wonderful people - they can fall in love too...
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My heart goes out to you, I can't imagine how you must feel. However, how lucky she was to have you as the last person she sees in this world. A luxury that very few get in their final moments. Perhaps that in itself is a comfort?Sir Woodster said:
