Never fall in Love with a provider

[maverickghost]

I met this girl before she was a provider, and by some stupid choices she ended up working at IB. I fell in love with this girl and she is the only girl in the world as far as I am concerned. To make a long story short, I lost her to this business. So what I am saying is be careful in falling for a provider.

"I find it interesting that the brainwaves for love so resemble insanity."
-the Marovingian, The Matrix Reloaded

Peace

 

[maverickghost]

how old are you..?

Hey,

I'm older than 20 but younger than 40 - that's the best age range I can give.

MavG

 

[maverickghost]

Welcome on board Maverickghost, I know what you mean exactly, it is hard to see someone you know in this line of work you must have a strong stomach. However people make choices and mistakes go just let her know your thoughts and feelings If you still love her.


ELIZA.

Thanks Eliza!

I appreciate the encouragement. I have told her, but I'm at the end of my rope - we'll see what happens.

 

[FuZzYknUckLeS]

I met this girl before she was a provider, and by some stupid choices she ended up working at IB. I fell in love with this girl and she is the only girl in the world as far as I am concerned. To make a long story short, I lost her to this business. So what I am saying is be careful in falling for a provider...

You say careful in falling for a provider, yet you met her before she was one? So she became one while you knew her? Where were you during all this time? If you loved the girl, I think you would have done everything in your power to give her other options. I'd question that if I were you. On the other hand, if she doesn't love ya back, yer hooped regardless of your actions.

 

[maverickghost]

You say careful in falling for a provider, yet you met her before she was one? So she became one while you knew her? Where were you during all this time? If you loved the girl, I think you would have done everything in your power to give her other options. I'd question that if I were you. On the other hand, if she doesn't love ya back, yer hooped regardless of your actions.

I made a mistake. I'm sure you ahve at times. I regret it. And I did offer other options. BTW it was suppose to be for a short time only. But she changed. Thanks for your words of encouragement friend.

peace

 

[Ariel]

I have to agree. Its pretty difficult and i also agree it would take a strong man and strong love for someone to deal with the stuff associated with an sp as a partner. On the positive side i think its really possible. Love isn't always having your mate to oneself. Although that in my mind would be ideal i don't think its reality. There are so many other issues and i think true love can withstand anything.It just really depends on the people in the relationship. So many people are unhappy and stuck. I will probably be grandmarish before i finally settle down.. Hmm maybe not since i just met someone i REALLY like... Love is unique and wonderful and to get desperate about it is not wise

 

[maverickghost]

Without giving too much imformation...I know who that person is. If you really love her and do your best, You will win her back. Good luck.

Meiko,

Thanks. I know she loves me, but this business and money can make it difficult to break. If you know her, and our situation, please DON'T pass it on to her or anyone else. I want her to choose her own life. It's up to her now. I'm ready to move on. Don't want to, but I'm all out of TUMS antacids - know what I mean?

peace

 

[maverickghost]

I have to agree. Its pretty difficult and i also agree it would take a strong man and strong love for someone to deal with the stuff associated with an sp as a partner. On the positive side i think its really possible. Love isn't always having your mate to oneself. Although that in my mind would be ideal i don't think its reality. There are so many other issues and i think true love can withstand anything.It just really depends on the people in the relationship. So many people are unhappy and stuck. I will probably be grandmarish before i finally settle down.. Hmm maybe not since i just met someone i REALLY like... Love is unique and wonderful and to get desperate about it is not wise

Ariel,

I have been and always will be a strong man. And I do think this is true love. It is rare and that's why I am fighting for it. But I am not desperate. I am good looking, educated, professional, and can hold my own in a fight. I get hit on all the time by women. They don't excite me. Only her.

I am ready to move on and I'm at my wits end with her and I've done all I can do, it's her choice now.

 

[Ariel]

I don't know who originally came up with this quote but it was on a poster in my parents spare bedroom for years and it finally now makes sense to me It goes something like this:
"If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you its yours. If it doesn't it never was."

 

[rollerboy]

If you know her, and our situation, please DON'T pass it on to her or anyone else. I want her to choose her own life. It's up to her now. I'm ready to move on. Don't want to, but I'm all out of TUMS antacids - know what I mean?

Because surely this is the most private place to voice your anxiety. This will never get back to her.

Why didn't you just call her instead of unburdening yourself here? We don't have enough tums to go around for everyone. Not a week goes by without some poor sap posting a variation on this topic.

Go back to Man School.

Don't tell us, tell her. Put a ring on the lady's finger, if you must. Good luck, God bless, good nite.

 

[maverick73]

Hey,

I'm older than 20 but younger than 40 - that's the best age range I can give.

MavG

Yet your birthday is posted for all to see in your profile:

July 29, 1972

Or is that just a hoax to throw us off?

"I know she loves me, but this business and money can make it difficult to break"
MavG

If money is the main reason she is doing this business, then you have control over that. You must find a way to make more money for both of you so she doesn't have to do this business. That is 100% within your control. Becoming wealthy is a choice.

Furthermore, anything worth having is rarely easy to get. Out of the girls I've dated long term, I've found empirically that the harder it was to get the girl, the more rewarding and higher quality the girl was.

Look at this as an opportunity to better yourself and make yourself more attractive to the girl. Become who you need to be to make the choice to be with you a no brainer for the girl. I'm not saying to change yourself at your core (that never works), but we are all capable of optimizing ourselves, making the most of what we're given, making adjustments, being the best we can be. If it was meant to be, it will be... and if it wasn't meant to be, well why not give one of the other girls that hits on you a chance. You may be pleasantly surprised by the results.

Live by Viper's words: "Better to select zone 5, where you can extend and escape, than to push a bad situation."

 

[rollerboy]

Furthermore, anything worth having is rarely easy to get. Out of the girls I've dated long term, I've found empirically that the harder it was to get the girl, the more rewarding and higher quality the girl was.

I spent 8 years getting (back) together with an old flame. Love at first sight, intense passionate affair, yada yada...years of friendship cat and mouse. Insanely hard to get. Afterwards, I asked myself, "Why did I want this so much?" The idea of getting is often so much better than the reality of having.

 

[maverick73]

I spent 8 years getting (back) together with an old flame. Love at first sight, intense passionate affair, yada yada...years of friendship cat and mouse. Insanely hard to get. Afterwards, I asked myself, "Why did I want this so much?"

Nobody said that all things hard to get are worth having . Sometimes the game of hard to get is just that... a game. There is a difference between playing hard to get because you want people to think you're worth it and ACTUALLY being hard to get BECAUSE you're worth it. See below for my new quote.

The idea of getting is often so much better than the reality of having.

That is a damn good quote! I like it. I'd like you on my quote committee .

Here's another one back at ya:
"Anything worth having is rarely easy to get. However, not all things hard to get are worth having."

 

[rollerboy]

"Anything worth having is rarely easy to get. However, not all things hard to get are worth having."

Whoa. That's a mouthful.

How 'bout, "The best thing about having a monkey flying out of your butt, is now your butt has one less monkey in it."

 

[rollerboy]

Rollerboy,

I also liked your quote. Maybe it is that, but I don't think so. Well at least I hope it is not some psychological mindfuck that I received from my parents that makes me want her. No, I think we match pretty good in most categories. She's beautiful inside as well as out.

BTW, how'd it work out with the ol' flame?

Thanks. It worked out crazy. At least I know what it was and what it wasn't. I should have gone for it years ago, instead of being such a chicken shit. We were all wrong for each other, but I took 9 years to find that out.

She's not a bad person. I try to set aside the bitterness, and see that it was natural to explore the excitement and chemistry that we once shared. Love is a crapshoot. Thing is, if you take too long to move on, you miss out on all the other wonderful crazy mixed up romances that might await.

 

[rollerboy]

2. I don't know if she checks these boards out and don't want to give up that I was here chatting about it.

Looks like you've been made, pal. I bet the girls' locker room talk at IB is all a titter with the gossip. Perhaps needlessly, since you could have just as easily said SU or VE and there would have been likely candidates for either role.

If I had a girlfriend who told me she planned to start escorting, there's NO WAY IN HELL I'd let her actually do it. What kind of man would? That would call for an emergency trip to Rome or Barcelona. Uh, you wanna do what? How 'bout we travel around the world for a year instead? I can't imagine that if I truly loved a girl, I could be ok with her sleeping with other men.

But I think the clock should stop, if a girl wants to talk about her boyfriend, jealous or otherwise. It just dilutes the experience, call me crazy.

 

[rollerboy]

I don't know who originally came up with this quote but it was on a poster in my parents spare bedroom for years and it finally now makes sense to me It goes something like this:
"If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you its yours. If it doesn't it never was."

I think that was the theme song to "The Love Boat."

 

[TheNewGuy]

If money is the main reason she is doing this business, then you have control over that. You must find a way to make more money for both of you so she doesn't have to do this business. That is 100% within your control. Becoming wealthy is a choice.

Using the word "control" caught my attention. This statement is suggesting that the girl in question should become financially dependent on maverickghost, hence giving him control over her and her lifestyle choice of becoming an SP. Rather than depending on someone else to provide financial comfort for her, perhaps she's seeking control over herself.

 

[pussy lover]

I spent 8 years getting (back) together with an old flame. Love at first sight, intense passionate affair, yada yada...years of friendship cat and mouse. Insanely hard to get. Afterwards, I asked myself, "Why did I want this so much?" The idea of getting is often so much better than the reality of having.

isn't that spock's quote when his bride to be wanted someone else? and they had to do that deathmatch on planet vulcan??

 

[rollerboy]

isn't that spock's quote when his bride to be wanted someone else? and they had to do that deathmatch on planet vulcan??

Yeah, I'd hate to do that death match all over again. Not even on the Love Boat.