MEN: Why Do Men Cheat?

[metoo113]

I jusdge because you chose to lose the race. In fact you cheated to lose the race. Unintentional joke but still the same.

And that atitude is part of whats wrong. Just like the "you don't know anything about how to raise a child because you don't have any" I still know it is wrong to hit a child. I don't need to have one to know that. I don't need to have a g/f or wife to know it is wrong to cheat on her. You promised to stick together, and your only other choice is to not be together. To damn bad if it cost you a lot of money. You made that choice. Not me, not her.

- TR

I think we were talking about "Why Do Men Cheat", not is it right or wrong to cheat.

 

[TheRater]

I think we were talking about "Why Do Men Cheat", not is it right or wrong to cheat.

Which digressed into "you have never cheated so you dont know what your talking about" and I gave my answer way back. Most guys don't have the balls to admit they made a mistake and won't accept the consequences of their actions. SO they try to have it both ways, not having to pay for the mistakes and having some on the side at the same time.

Therefore they cheat because they are cowardly hypocrites.

- TR

 

[metoo113]

Which digressed into "you have never cheated so you dont know what your talking about" and I gave my answer way back. Most guys don't have the balls to admit they made a mistake and won't accept the consequences of their actions. SO they try to have it both ways, not having to pay for the mistakes and having some on the side at the same time.

Therefore they cheat because they are cowardly hypocrites.

- TR

Actually the comment was that you haven't been in a relationship, so therefore had no clue as to the different factors that can contribute to a man cheating.

"you no play the game you no make the rules" or comment on the outcome.

 

[metoo113]

Nope.

Anynoe can look at relationships, see where they go wrong, what the consequences are, and what you can do to avoid it 100% of the time.

I think your attitude is a lot more about jealousy that I am not stuck where you are and am not a lying hypocrite.

Marriage/relatinships are not magic goggles that all of a sudden let you see all sorts of wonderful things and horrible things that no one else who is not in a relationship can see.

More the other way around, you are so desperately lonely that you do anything to find someone to latch on to, praying she is the right one, then blame her when things don't work and go off and cheat on her.

Sometimes I am just embarassed to admit that I am the same sex as most guys.

- TR

Hardly desparate and never lonely.

 

[LaCreme]

without love we are nothing

It goes both ways. A lot of women choose to cheat.

I really feel that marriage is not necessary and although I'm still young, I don't plan on ever getting married. Why do people insist on having a big ceremony and sealing the deal on a piece of paper to prove their love? What's wrong with being life partners? Seems like less of a headache.

To prove their love" no "but to put in paper their commitment to each other.
That all. Many people is convenience marriage.. a lot of time is nothing to do with love a lot of time real love come after.. many time they don't know each other that well.. that explain many divorce as well.. because if you don't have a proper meaning into your marriage with someone**it worth nothing as well it got to be deep love man. like Victoria and Beck the soccer player.

i am not here to change your mind.. As a young person .we all have stuffs to figure for our selves**with our own mistakes.

 

[LaCreme]

There is a bit of an anarchist deep down inside of me. I really have no plans to ever get married..not saying that marriage is a complete WOT..just not for this girl!

who is anarchist ? right now i feel punk baby love in few hours it could be something else because god is going to give me other card to play yeah give me the play!

last night i wrote that because i was inspire from something.. sometime i read what i wrote i just can't believe is me.
so be it anything you want to be as long that make you be and feel happy

respect

 

[sdw]

I jusdge because you chose to lose the race. In fact you cheated to lose the race. Unintentional joke but still the same.

And that atitude is part of whats wrong. Just like the "you don't know anything about how to raise a child because you don't have any" I still know it is wrong to hit a child. I don't need to have one to know that. I don't need to have a g/f or wife to know it is wrong to cheat on her. You promised to stick together, and your only other choice is to not be together. To damn bad if it cost you a lot of money. You made that choice. Not me, not her.

- TR

I've never cheated when involved in a relationship. I have been cheated on. It's the price that most people in the military pay.

Nor do I pay large amounts of money. I divorced as soon as I knew. There are men that will allow themselves to be cuckolded and then whine because they found that women don't stay in love with doormats. I serve the papers as soon as I know because it's not going to get better, I don't own anyone and I'm not a free parking spot.

Not being willing to take the risk at all deprives a person of any chance of finding "the one", means that a person has no possibility of being part of their children's life and ensures that nobody will care about you.

If a person isn't willing to take the chance of forming a relationship, they are likely to be just as cautious in forming friendships. There is a huge difference between acquaintances from work and other activities and friends. The acquaintances won't be around when you no longer work there or no longer participate in that activity. The friends will still be around.

Being safe and unwilling to take a chance on being hurt is the formula for loneliness.

What happens when you don't have the money to buy acquaintances, sex and companionship?

If you have taken the risk, you will have at least one spouse, child or friend who is glad to hear from you.

 

[TheRater]

Actually the comment was that you haven't been in a relationship, so therefore had no clue as to the different factors that can contribute to a man cheating.

"you no play the game you no make the rules" or comment on the outcome.

Or maybe I know the game so well I chose not to play?

- TR

 

[freakychef]

Why does anyone cheat..........

............boredome, oppurtunity, variety, revenge, whatever. cheating is lying not sex or love. Is it cheating if you tell your partner? If they know before or after? Me I am honest as hell with my partner. if I tell her look I want to @#$% so and so she will be like just be safe!! Same way for her. If I don't tell her and she finds out she is pissed off not because of the act of sex but because of the dishonesty. Most men or women don't have the balls to just say what they want!!! As long as my partner knows me, my thoughts, my hopes, my dreams and shares them thats all that matters. Love is love and sex is sex. IMO.

 

[LaCreme]

Or maybe I know the game so well I chose not to play?

- TR

yeah i feel that way sometime. Unless i find a nice motivation lovable sweet romantic men.

LaCreme

 

[freakychef]

Trust me I am a sweet lovable romantic.............

.....man. I am a hopeless romantic but also a realist who just wants happiness. Even being married is not nesscessarilly the answer. Me my whole life I have looked for "The one" The person who just makes you feel like you cannot breathe if you are not around her. The true big love of your life. The person you would move heaven and earth for. Silly huh? Don't know if it exists. I have been hurt trying to find it. But if you don't even try then life is not worth living!! However I don't like the games people play. I live my life with honesty! Life is too short for head games ya know!!! Maybe that is why I have pooned because it is a direct thing. Sex is just recreation and trust me every person on earth wants it. However love is the thing that can rip out your heart or make ya feel like walking on a cloud. Now a days if you find your "one" hold on too them as they don't come around very often!!!!

 

[LaCreme]

superficial dog

.....man. I am a hopeless romantic but also a realist who just wants happiness. Even being married is not nesscessarilly the answer. Me my whole life I have looked for "The one" The person who just makes you feel like you cannot breathe if you are not around her. The true big love of your life. The person you would move heaven and earth for. Silly huh? Don't know if it exists. I have been hurt trying to find it. But if you don't even try then life is not worth living!! However I don't like the games people play. I live my life with honesty! Life is too short for head games ya know!!! Maybe that is why I have pooned because it is a direct thing. Sex is just recreation and trust me every person on earth wants it. However love is the thing that can rip out your heart or make ya feel like walking on a cloud. Now a days if you find your "one" hold on too them as they don't come around very often!!!!

the one mean "the one moment" perhaps in here it could be mean one special person for some other the one is a celebrity the one for some lover is like a movie you just want to play over again .
like this no ending like traveling everywhere nice in your mind or for real as far you could possibly go.. if you incorporate "" the one "" in it no matter where? you are! is going to be very special .

 

[CJ Tylers]

I really don't see the point of cheating. However, I do realize that we are simply fighting genetics... and monogamy goes very much against the old cave man "spreading of the seed" business.

You always have a choice, to cheat or not. I think, if you really respect them and are willing to work out any and all issues, few people will have the urge to cheat.

Marriage, or a deep relationship, IMHO is a priveledge that not everyone can have. If you are one of the lucky folks, why throw it away? Love isn't something you can pick up at Ikea (unless Love is the name of a hot swedish chicka that works there...) If it was there in the first place, then it's still there no matter what...you just have to scrape off all the crap the two of you have thrown ontop of it.

Of course, this does mean you should be a little selective when proclaiming love in the first place...

PS: Ever notice how the guys that cheat (highlighted by the 2 guys I heard at the gym) always get all the girls? lol

 

[freakychef]

Yea they get the girls but...............

I really don't see the point of cheating. However, I do realize that we are simply fighting genetics... and monogamy goes very much against the old cave man "spreading of the seed" business.

You always have a choice, to cheat or not. I think, if you really respect them and are willing to work out any and all issues, few people will have the urge to cheat.

Marriage, or a deep relationship, IMHO is a priveledge that not everyone can have. If you are one of the lucky folks, why throw it away? Love isn't something you can pick up at Ikea (unless Love is the name of a hot swedish chicka that works there...) If it was there in the first place, then it's still there no matter what...you just have to scrape off all the crap the two of you have thrown ontop of it.

Of course, this does mean you should be a little selective when proclaiming love in the first place...

PS: Ever notice how the guys that cheat (highlighted by the 2 guys I heard at the gym) always get all the girls? lol

....but there you go does not mean they keep them or the spouses they cheat on. Beside's it is like life the girls are all attracted to the bad boy louse who will never commit and treats them like hell anyways.

 

[athaire]

The game is called life and in life we all make a series of choices that at the end of the day we have to live with. You might choose to spend your life alone, others might get married, perhaps divorced, and still others will remain married and faithful. Some will also be married and unfaithful. Some will tell their spouses about it, some won't. Unless you're in someone elses shoes, you have no right to judge. Hell in my case I actually was prepared to leave my wife, that was until my 8 year old daughter grabbed on to me as I was leaving and cried and pleaded with me to stay.

It's easy to say if you cheated on your spouse or don't love them you should leave, it's a lot harder if that decision ultimately deprives your children out of a happy childhood, especially if things aren't so bad at home that there's a lot of fighting taking place.

Thank you for this.......very insightful........

 

[athaire]

Nope.

Anynoe can look at relationships, see where they go wrong, what the consequences are, and what you can do to avoid it 100% of the time.



- TR

Always easy to look from the outside in.....I agree.......

I think your attitude is a lot more about jealousy that I am not stuck where you are and am not a lying hypocrite.

Nothing could be farther from the truth. Why would I be jelous of you? I have a wonderful family, for the most part. And since I don't lie about my situation with the SO I am not a hypocrite.....

Marriage/relatinships are not magic goggles that all of a sudden let you see all sorts of wonderful things and horrible things that no one else who is not in a relationship can see.

Ummmmmmm.......thanx for stating the obvious.......

More the other way around, you are so desperately lonely that you do anything to find someone to latch on to, praying she is the right one, then blame her when things don't work and go off and cheat on her.

Hardly desperatly lonely. And it is obvious to me that my ideas of infedelity and yours are never going to be the same......

Sometimes I am just embarassed to admit that I am the same sex as most guys.

And we are embarassed for you to admit that you are one of us as well.....