life is fleeting...

[edmontonsubbie]

...and any rational analysis can only support that notion. Still and all, life is a whole big whack pile of fun and if it isn't...ummm...then...well...change it, find a support group, or don't bother with it.

As I prepare for tomorrow, actually, that's a lie. I have already prepared. Ergo, I am a liar. And that has led me to this thought process. I know there are "personal fitness" trainers and they are quite successful....I also know there are "business coaches" out there....I'm unsure if they are successful, I have not employed one but I suspect they must be.

Fitness and business are, and should be, a bit of a lonely game. They are solitary pursuits. Each of them are wonderful pursuits...one cannot nor should exist without the other. The mind and the body must be properly attuned to meet the challenge that each of the other will exert upon it. Does that sound a bit insane? Maybe so...I know the Grecians loved and respected the body and the life as a whole....I'm no Grecian nor philosophical expert...but I do enjoy the philosophy behind that very basic precept.

To the point, I am embarking on the "silly" season here in Deadmonton. That means I need to totally focus on what I am doing for the next 5 months. I don't want to do that by myself...I'm weak. I will, of course, do it. It needs done, I am relatively competent, and it will happen. But...I don't want to do it. I want some assistance.

That is the basis of marriage...coupling....call it what you want. Nobody likes to blunder along without a muse or mentor to call on and whine/confide in. I have stayed single at cost for the last 5 years and I have no intention of f**king that up. I have two amazing children that are entering adulthood and an ex who I would never permit a disparaging word to be spoken about. In my mind...I have it under control....I have no doubt that life will surprise me with a new curve but...that's kinda cool too. Toss it.

I have done the whole collarme thing...the local munch thing...I have yet to do the alt thing...but, I don't have a lot of time either. I expect to be dead in 35 years. Screw alt. I have met some wonderful people and I have disappointed a number equal to the number that wrote me off on first glance.

I want a business/lifestyle coach. I want someone to tell me when it's o.k. to masturbate...when it's o.k. to ???....

Having said all that...I don't want a babysitter. I want to share my business plan for the next 5 months c/w forecasts of revenue....low side...high side...achievable side....and then I want someone to take an interest in that and to provide me with some pretty cool motivation to achieve the goals. In my mind there is a monthly fee payable...and a percentage of NIBT payable for any amounts in excess of the forecast. Standard stuff.

I expect it to be doable in terms of an "expense".

kindest regards,

eddie of hopeville.

 

[_Gypsy_]

Eddie - too bad we are so far apart as wellness & lifestyle coaching is in my tool bag amongst other interesting things

 

[edmontonsubbie]

Eddie - too bad we are so far apart as wellness & lifestyle coaching is in my tool bag amongst other interesting things

yeah...I could tell you were pretty frigging cool. An email per day is as effective as a visit once in a while. Interest is interest....and it does not require proximity.

In my mind....I achieve my goals....I exceed them...and I hand the "10% extra" to the Mistress once per quarter. That involves a huge trust that I won't cheat the books. I am old enough to know that value is value...and never cheat value. I can explain anything the same way today as I can in 100 days....that's the value of not cheating.

A "coach" who keeps you on track is worth his or her weight in gold....errrr...silver...

eddie.

 

[_Gypsy_]

Correction on your Typo

Thank you eddie

One of my beliefs is that the people that stay strong know that establishing a good support network keeps them strong and on track. That means they can accomplish their dreams, keep focus and get that bit of motivation they need to reach & maintain their goals (does anyone hear my whip cracking here?).

Gold? Silver? no no no no no...eddie...eddie...eddie *tsk tsk* Platinum you meant Platinum It's great to hear that you are not into cheating yourself.

I enjoy the idea of a tithe as well, how long have you used the tithe method for your Mistresses?

yeah...I could tell you were pretty frigging cool. An email per day is as effective as a visit once in a while. Interest is interest....and it does not require proximity.

In my mind....I achieve my goals....I exceed them...and I hand the "10% extra" to the Mistress once per quarter. That involves a huge trust that I won't cheat the books. I am old enough to know that value is value...and never cheat value. I can explain anything the same way today as I can in 100 days....that's the value of not cheating.

A "coach" who keeps you on track is worth his or her weight in gold....errrr...silver...

eddie.

 

[edmontonsubbie]

Thank you eddie

One of my beliefs is that the people that stay strong know that establishing a good support network keeps them strong and on track. That means they can accomplish their dreams, keep focus and get that bit of motivation they need to reach & maintain their goals (does anyone hear my whip cracking here?).

Gold? Silver? no no no no no...eddie...eddie...eddie *tsk tsk* Platinum you meant Platinum It's great to hear that you are not into cheating yourself.

I enjoy the idea of a tithe as well, how long have you used the tithe method for your Mistresses?

My most sincere apologies. Obviously I meant to say platinum but the keys on this board randomly rearranged themselves as they often do. I will purchase a new keyboard.

I have never actually used the tithe method before. It kind of scares me. Having said that, however, I still think that if it is based on a percentage of profit....then it can't be anything but a win/win situation.

Today will be a rainout...sigh.

eddie

I was thinking about the colour choice of orange for the more successful flyer used....and, yes, it is quintessentially BDSM based. Red and yellow are the standard safewords yes?....combine red and yellow and you get...orange. So, obviously I chose a colour that would allow me to push limits and get as close to my limit as possible without disrupting the flow of the Mistress. I'm sure I just heard Sigmund do a quick graveflip.

 

[billstar606]

Eddie

Intersting post. but i think you are on to something. I have worked that kind of relationship inthe past. It doesn't have to be a close by relationship, but there needs to be some physical reality sessions. I do think that daily emails, assignments, obligations, directions on how your personal time is spent, sexual relief allowance; are all things that can be achieved form distance and with daily reports and emails.

A once a month trip or even every couple of months works well. It is amazing at the behavoir motification that can be achieved with the little steps. I think the more difficult thing is finding the right lady that understands control and likes to deal with the mental aspects of behavoir modification and mentorship; rather than just the physical play. In many cases i have found that the bond, through a process as you suggest grows much stronger and the sessions so much more meaningful.

keep us appraised if you proceed. i know some people in the states that are purely disciplinarians and not dommes by any stretch if you are interested. contact me directly (billstar606@yahoo.com) if you want some insight

bill

 

[edmontonsubbie]

Eddie

Intersting post. but i think you are on to something. I have worked that kind of relationship inthe past. It doesn't have to be a close by relationship, but there needs to be some physical reality sessions. I do think that daily emails, assignments, obligations, directions on how your personal time is spent, sexual relief allowance; are all things that can be achieved form distance and with daily reports and emails.

A once a month trip or even every couple of months works well. It is amazing at the behavoir motification that can be achieved with the little steps. I think the more difficult thing is finding the right lady that understands control and likes to deal with the mental aspects of behavoir modification and mentorship; rather than just the physical play. In many cases i have found that the bond, through a process as you suggest grows much stronger and the sessions so much more meaningful.

keep us appraised if you proceed. i know some people in the states that are purely disciplinarians and not dommes by any stretch if you are interested. contact me directly (billstar606@yahoo.com) if you want some insight

bill

Thank you very much bill....I will add you to my yahooooo account. I managed to get edmontonsubbie@yahoo.ca so I'm don't turn down the "add" request when it shows up.

I have been under this sort of control in the past....no orgasm until permitted...panties chosen for the day.....deadlines for project completion...and, yes, it's amazing how just a single daily email contact can direct a weak person into a stronger direction.

I completely agree that there is a need for a physical contact...I think...once per quarter would be sufficient. I am rather monklike in my habits anyway...so that would be beating my current odds.

Continuing on the "life is fleeting" subject line....it also involves trust. I trust implicitly Miss T and I should have sent this to her in an email asking for her opinion as to whether she knew of someone that she would recommend. I thought about doing that but didn't...so I kind of messed up. I'm just not one who emails too much...it's the whole "I don't want to be a bother" type syndrome.

I like Mistress Gypsy's attitude and approach to things...but she doesn't know me and I don't know her. Always things start over a cup of coffee...even if the coffee is the wrong kind and you spill it all over your hands....Mistress Gypsy was ever so cool to respond to this thread on faith/trust alone and, I am very grateful for that.

Miss T...please presume all of this has arrived to you in a private mail. I know you are busy building your business and I love that you are doing that. Nay...I admire that you are doing that.

My proposal to whichever, if any, Domme might be interested is fairly simple. I will start a "blog" with private entries by myself. Pictures, if required, can easily be pasted into that. The "keys" to the blog will be given to the Domme and She can invite any or none to view as She sees fit.

I will advance pay a stipend of $200/month for this service. My expectations will be that the Domme has the capacity and interest to understand and motivate a quite simple business plan/forecast. I would be charged with keeping the "results" updated against the "forecasts". The upside will be 10% of any profits over the projected numbers. In the "best case" scenario...I see that amounting to an additional $300/month. The downside is that there will be screw all in additional funds...that will mean I have failed.

Presuming that there are additional funds, I would travel at my own expense to the city of Her choice...and present the funds in cash to my Domme....oooooOOOooo...it kinda felt cool to say my Domme...lol. She would reward or not as She saw fit. I'm a pretty easy going type guy.

eddie.

 

[MsBlaze]

I'm really enjoying the intelligent exchange found in this thread. Eddie, I truly hope that you find what you are looking for and that when you find it, that it encourages you into the right direction.

Mistress Blaze

 

[edmontonsubbie]

I'm really enjoying the intelligent exchange found in this thread. Eddie, I truly hope that you find what you are looking for and that when you find it, that it encourages you into the right direction.

Mistress Blaze

Thank you for your kind and supportive reply Mistress Blaze. Perhaps I will, perhaps I won't, but for sure, at least I won't use my quiet times wondering..."what if i had?".

kindest regards,

eddie.