Well you're kind of an idiot, to be honest. The reason you TRAIN is so that when a situation arises where you need to use it, you don't HAVE to think about it, because you've trained yourself to know what to do in advance. If you think self-defense is "stuff for the movies" you're a moron, frankly. Jiu-jitsu is a highly effective discipline for self-defense. If you go into shock, get tunnel vision, and lose your hearing when you're scared you really need a HUGE boost of self confidence. This reaction comes from being weak and defenseless.
You clearly know absolutely nothing about fighting and martial arts, so you should probably avoid acting like you know what you're talking about, and should absolutely avoid giving people any sort of advice on the subject.
I can't say it any more clearly, if you think training to learn how to defend yourself is useless or something that happens only in movies, you are really, really stupid. Roll by an MMA gym and see if you can last more than 25 seconds with anyone in the gym. If you can't, you have no business talking about the subject. There are plenty of girls at my gym who can decimate guys a lot bigger than them because they took the time to train themselves instead of being a scared victim who will just go into shock and collapse when something goes wrong.
You sound like a pretty big coward to me. Most likely some fat balding old man who has never had to defend himself. lol.
