I've always wondered why....

[edmontonsubbie]

.....more sp's, onlookers, judges, and stewardesses don't think about getting into the BDSM game. In my experience it's a pretty interesting gig....the chick gets TOTAL control for an hour...or two...or whatever is booked....and that's what the sub wants!

It takes a mindset, no doubt. But you smart ones have thought about it.

hugs,

edward

 

[chilli]

.....more sp's, onlookers, judges, and stewardesses don't think about getting into the BDSM game. In my experience it's a pretty interesting gig....the chick gets TOTAL control for an hour...or two...or whatever is booked....and that's what the sub wants!

It takes a mindset, no doubt. But you smart ones have thought about it.

hugs,

edward

Because as a man, I'm the one who likes to be in control.

I'd never let a woman dominate me. Free or otherwise.

 

[edmontonsubbie]

Because as a man, I'm the one who likes to be in control.

I'd never let a woman dominate me. Free or otherwise.

Fair enough and totally understandable. For my own counterpoint, i thoroughly enjoy awarding away control to competence for the period agreed. It is a lovely escape from having to make my daily dose of manly decisions.

cheers,

eddie

 

[princeofdarkness]

... I know I couldn't have sex with a 70 year old lady for any amount of money, why should we expect all girls to be able to or want to?...

I hear you and am with you on that. BUT, what if that 70 year old lady was wearing a white goalie mask (think horror flick, Jason Voorhees), steel coned pointed bra and black Dayton motorcycle boots and she was ready to stomp all over your "boys"?

 

[edmontonsubbie]

fucking and D/s are distinctly different. I am sure we all know that.

My question wonders why more aren't interested in taking over control when offered. My biggest fear is that the one`s offering control may be unstable...but, really, who`s in charge? I don't guess she would put up with too much crap.

Perhaps it's a fear of actually taking control over another. And, that's a fair fear.

kindest,

eddie

 

[Pirate Code]

fucking and D/s are distinctly different. I am sure we all know that.

My question wonders why more aren't interested in taking over control when offered. My biggest fear is that the one`s offering control may be unstable...but, really, who`s in charge? I don't guess she would put up with too much crap.

Perhaps it's a fear of actually taking control over another. And, that's a fair fear.

kindest,

eddie

I think there's a disproportionate percentage of submissive vs dominant people.
Taking the lead has traditionally been the mans role. Finding an SP who's a great dominant is surprisingly not that rare-- there are several I see on here who have great reviews.

I'm guessing that it also takes her a lot of extra work and costs more to set herself up. Unless she really loves it, I'm sure she wouldn't bother.

 

[uncleg]

Fair enough and totally understandable. For my own counterpoint, i thoroughly enjoy awarding away control to competence for the period agreed. It is a lovely escape from having to make my daily dose of manly decisions.

cheers,

eddie

.................just sayin'........

 

[HankQuinlan]

The main reason is also the limited market -- there just aren't enough "subs" for the potential "doms" that might want to offer the commercial service. Well, maybe in England....