Is it cheating when...

[yeahyeahyeah]

So I have a bit of a dilemma...I have a favourite lady at a local amp that has always provided me excellent service. However there a couple of other ladies that work there, one in particular that is friends with my favourite outside of work and knows that I see my favourite regularly, that I am interested in seeing. So is it cheating when you go to see others that work at the same establishment? I just don't want word to get back to my favourite that I saw her friend (which I sure will happen) and have her not see me or provided less than excellent service in the future.

Thoughts??

 

[sexpanther69]

She's not ur Gf your paying for an experience, there should be no feelings of jealously... End of the day, if she's a regular I don't think she'd mind as long as u don't replace her as ur fav

 

[buggs312]

No. Unless your her only client.
If it was she would be cheating on you 8x every workday lol

 

[Reference3A]

Def not cheating unless some sort
agreement in place. But I can tell
you some SP's will look at it that
way. Not all, but some do as your
taking money that woukd generally
go into their pockets and giving to
another. Let alone emotional side of
things. Unfortunately some SP's have
issues. Twice been confronted with
a text that read " I thought you started
seeing another girl" just cause I went
off the grid a few days .
If it were me. I would see other
if interested and not let her know
just to save yourself drama BS.

 

[take8easy]

Only way you can cheat (on) an sp is when you either somehow underpay/ do not pay her or see her despite having some kind of contagious ailment/disease.
The day these thoughts start to cross your or her mind is the day to move onto another one.
She sees other men, doesn’t she?

 

[Cock Throppled]

Def not cheating unless some sort
agreement in place. But I can tell
you some SP's will look at it that
way. Not all, but some do as your
taking money that woukd generally
go into their pockets and giving to
another. Let alone emotional side of
things. Unfortunately some SP's have
issues. Twice been confronted with
a text that read " I thought you started
seeing another girl" just cause I went
off the grid a few days .
If it were me. I would see other
if interested and not let her know
just to save yourself drama BS.

I agree. While it is a business arrangement - ego, vanity, moods, jealousy and disappointment might be felt by the regular.

Just be prepared for what MIGHT happen.

 

[BC Traveler]

Since you are asking that question you obviously believe you are exclusive to her, if you feel you want to experience her co-worker ask her if she is ok with doing a duo with her friend, if she is then you can take it it’s all in your mind as she is willing to share, very tough to know what is best for you as all situations are different.

 

[yeahyeahyeah]

Thanks to all that have posted their thoughts and suggestions...definitely gives me more to think about.

 

[clu]

Why not hire them both at the same time? Then you're not hiding anything.

 

[summerbreeze]

So I have a bit of a dilemma...I have a favourite lady at a local amp that has always provided me excellent service. However there a couple of other ladies that work there, one in particular that is friends with my favourite outside of work and knows that I see my favourite regularly, that I am interested in seeing. So is it cheating when you go to see others that work at the same establishment? I just don't want word to get back to my favourite that I saw her friend (which I sure will happen) and have her not see me or provided less than excellent service in the future.

Thoughts??

cheating is not a term normally associated with a commercial relationship, it is reneging on a promise and in the case of personal relationships normally going against an understanding of exclusivity

perhaps if you signed a contract in a commercial context and breached it by deliberately circumventing that contract, that would be cheating

 

[Billiam]

No. Unless your her only client.
If it was she would be cheating on you 8x every workday lol

+1 No reason to think that she doesn't give excellent service to all of her clients.

 

[UhOh]

If you seriously are asking such a silly question its time to move on and find a new ATF. That business transaction has gone off the rails and into the bizarreo world where regret and embarrassment are all that lay ahead.

 

[summerbreeze]

If you seriously are asking such a silly question its time to move on and find a new ATF. That business transaction has gone off the rails and into the bizarreo world where regret and embarrassment are all that lay ahead.

seems to be an increase of "silly questions" over the last 2 years....

wonder why

people don't think before they post? (in terms of what is a useful contribution)

or, just seeking attention

silly being different than stirring up trouble with provocative subjects or trolling

 

[Dawid]

I think some guys take this very seriously. Specially the ones who have no real chance in life to be with some girls they see. They start living the fantasy. For fucks sake it’s a paid transaction don’t limit yourself when possibilities are endless and so much to explore. Just like you don’t eat your fav meal everyday enjoy other flavors. Don’t know what you are missing out until you get out of your zone.

In the beginning I only liked latinas no other kind worked for me. But now I appreciate all kinds they all have something unique to offer.

 

[johnsmit]

I don't think it is a silly question .
What others have said about jelousy and the girl think others are taking money from her pocket is a very common reaction from SPs that you see regularly.

There all ways is some type of attachment when you interact with someone in an intimate level.
If you have not experienced it , then you never had a regular that cared about you or you for them.

It is all way more then just business.
Even in the regular business world this situation exists between client and supplier . You have a business friend ship and they can be hurt If You go with some one else .
And like wise the client feels betrayed if another customer gets a better deal ..

It is human nature .

If you want to do it you better clear it with her or expect some change in attitude at you next meeting

 

[Claire Monet]

I think most providers are well aware that the clients we see also see others. Everyone offers something different.

 

[summerbreeze]

I don't think it is a silly question .
What others have said about jelousy and the girl think others are taking money from her pocket is a very common reaction from SPs that you see regularly.

There all ways is some type of attachment when you interact with someone in an intimate level.
If you have not experienced it , then you never had a regular that cared about you or you for them.

It is all way more then just business.
Even in the regular business world this situation exists between client and supplier . You have a business friend ship and they can be hurt If You go with some one else .
And like wise the client feels betrayed if another customer gets a better deal ..

It is human nature .

If you want to do it you better clear it with her or expect some change in attitude at you next meeting

I think the terms loyalty, disappointment, are valid but not cheating

if a provider tends to treat a client extra special and hopes/expects some loyalty and repeat business, that is normal

but cheating might not be the appropriate term

 

[SkinnyJohn]

I don't think it is a silly question .
What others have said about jelousy and the girl think others are taking money from her pocket is a very common reaction from SPs that you see regularly.

There all ways is some type of attachment when you interact with someone in an intimate level.
If you have not experienced it , then you never had a regular that cared about you or you for them.

It is all way more then just business.
Even in the regular business world this situation exists between client and supplier . You have a business friend ship and they can be hurt If You go with some one else .
And like wise the client feels betrayed if another customer gets a better deal ..

It is human nature .

If you want to do it you better clear it with her or expect some change in attitude at you next meeting

Nicely put. I think the wording of the thread could have been better.

I think the working girls in MP and micros can have rivalries between them. It might not be said out loud but tensions could arise when a girl loses a regular client to someone else. They probably always hate the 'new' popular pretty girl.

 

[johnsmit]

Truth is I felt I was cheating when I saw some one out side my regular . Now are relationships changed through the years and it was not sexual, a friendship accomodied me seeing others.
And I ended up with a handful of regulars that turned into friends and does want to see me for sex lol

So then I had to find a new regular again which I don't want to cheat on lol
But I would happily go see one of my old regulars and not thinking was cheating .. your right a little fucked up thinking

 

[yeahyeahyeah]

I think the terms loyalty, disappointment, are valid but not cheating

if a provider tends to treat a client extra special and hopes/expects some loyalty and repeat business, that is normal

but cheating might not be the appropriate term

I guess I used the wrong term to describe my point...yes loyalty and disappointment are more closer to what I was trying to get at.

I know that at the end of the day it is just a business transaction...but we are humans and we tend to have feelings involved on some level.