I want my co-worker bad

[microbru]

Guys I'm in a jam and need some serious counsel.
Anyway I work with this lady and have always been attracted to her.
But she's married and has couple of kids.
She's older than me by 14 yrs but I always had a thing for older women.
So we work pretty close. She sits next to me.
I handle the technical stuff and she's on the business side. Like partners in crime.
Everything's under control for the past year or so since this set up.
Then a couple of weeks ago I stumble upon a MILF porno and damn the lady totally reminds me of her. Obviously it aint her, but from one of the angles it's damn close.
Now its screwing me up at work since every time I see her now I think about the lady in the porno rocking that young stud's world.
If the situation weren't the way it was, her being married and all, I'd take a chance and tell her how I feel.
But I've always been able to keep my emotions in check and just do my job and stuff.
Anyway it just seems that junior has taken over now and I'm getting too many unsavoury thoughts in my head.

 

[Danika]

Sounds harmless to me....so far you're just playing around with a fantasy...

Why don't you have fun with this, find an sp who looks like your secret turn on and use your imagination to rock out..fuck her like no tomorrow and conquest is satisfed right?!

Once I had a client who reminded me of my highschool sweatheart, I was so lucky this client seemed to like my misplaced affection we saw eachother every so often for a while and I actually got him to do "things" the way my ex did....

I loved how my imagination manipulated the situation to my satisfying fantasy

As long as you realize after the experience that is was exactly that just roleplay.

I would reccomend this route before confessing "feelings" to your MILF!

You know who I think is hot at my waitressing job the guy who delivers bread....lol
He came past me with that little trolley thing full of different kinds of bread...and I greeted him with hello...and...by the way Nice buns baby...I laughed..If he only knew I was serious

xo
D.

 

[noscmn]

If I was put into that situation, I'd tell her how I feel.

Based on what you have said so far exactly, I'd say:
CO-WORKERNAME, I think you are a gorgeous lady, and I am attracted to you. (She might interrupt you and say something along the lines of she is married) If she does then you respond, Woh haha slow down lady!(in a jokingly manner) let me finish. I'd acknowledge that I know she is married, blah blah.

**I just had to tell you or I'd kick myself after everytime I see you. Don't have to think anything of it, I just had to get it off my chest. Based on how well I know her I might or might not say I'm not looking to come inbetween your marriage or husband / w/e.

(If she doesnt say anything after I've told her I'm attracted to her, I'd say ) Don't take this the wrong way though, I know you are married with kids, happy and all. and continue with the **

You might say its selfish putting your feelings out there, it's also selfish to keep it up inside you and feel like shit? (you know that feeling... where you see a HOT girl walk by and you want to talk to her but to scared to and then she walks away... yea that feeling.... It feels bad.. sucks!)

From what I read from your post.. seems like you are attracted to her just sexually?
I only say to tell her how you feel if you are sexually attracted to her AND actually want to get to know her / have a relationship with her (if she has a bad marriage or w/e )

I'm not down with coming in between marriages or happy couples and what not.
But for a lot of women, even if they are married, to have guys approach them and tell them they are attractive or they are attracted to them makes them feel good and isnt necessarily a bad thing for them. They will just suck up the compliment like nothing and then its +ego for them. Hope you understand what I have been trying to say.

 

[blazejowski]

Christ, I can think of about a dozen girls at work I wanna fuck...

...and a dozen I see on the bus...

...and a dozen etc etc etc....

Just jerk your meat at home, and do your job. It's not worth losing your job over it - if she's interested in the least, she'll let you know.*





*which is how one day I ended up fucking my boss's girlfriend on the roof of the parking garage....

 

[FloridaGuy]

Fuck it pal, you only live once. Take a shot at her, but DON'T do it at work, or at a work function. That way at least your job is probably safe if things go tits up. Most harassment policies indicate that the harassment has to take place at work.

It will take some time....start asking her out for coffee during the day, and do NOT hit on her on these occasions. You are just trying to get some alone time with her in a non-work environment. After a while, regardless of how things are going with the coffee dates, turn them into after-work drinks together. Again, go slow. Eventually, though, the conversation will turn to your respective sex lives and the door will open for you to play your cards. She might well be looking for some distraction, but is too shy to ask your or wouldn't think you'd be interested.

But of course, what Hatrick says about an uncomfortable work environment probably holds true. You could get lucky and it turns out she's a good sport, but the odds are against it. Good luck though!!!

 

[Danika]

Fuck it pal, you only live once. Take a shot at her, but DON'T do it at work, or at a work function. That way at least your job is probably safe if things go tits up. Most harassment policies indicate that the harassment has to take place at work.

It will take some time....start asking her out for coffee during the day, and do NOT hit on her on these occasions. You are just trying to get some alone time with her in a non-work environment. After a while, regardless of how things are going with the coffee dates, turn them into after-work drinks together. Again, go slow. Eventually, though, the conversation will turn to your respective sex lives and the door will open for you to play your cards. She might well be looking for some distraction, but is too shy to ask your or wouldn't think you'd be interested.

But of course, what Hatrick says about an uncomfortable work environment probably holds true. You could get lucky and it turns out she's a good sport, but the odds are against it. Good luck though!!!

yeah ok bud..

go back to Florida lol

You think you can wine and dine a married lady into having sex...thats just cruel...if shes naive and goes for it because maybe her private life is missing something...the emotional stress she gets from you filling that void could really screw things up for her...

Its one thing to have spur of the moment mutual passionate unemotional sex with someone who is "off limits" (like you said a good sport)
but to carry on the manipulation that you describe coffee dates and not hitting on her until she gets emotionally attatched...shame on you!

Maybe she will suprise him one day and just grab him to feed her own temporary selfish desires lol now that would be good luck for him

 

[wilde]

Here is some advice from the Stones:

No, you can't always get what you want
You can't always get what you want
You can't always get what you want
And if you try sometime you find
You get what you need

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[Danika]

Here is some advice from the Stones:

No, you can't always get what you want
You can't always get what you want
You can't always get what you want
And if you try sometime you find
You get what you need

.

lol absolutely perfectly fitting!

 

[microbru]

Let me clarify the situation some more.
I already know her pretty well as we've been working together for over a year.
Coffee, lunch, shopping. We've done it all already.
Sometimes just the two of us, sometimes with others in the office.
She already tells me that I'm her work husband, whatever that means.
There's been little to no flirting thus far. Just very friendly interaction.

I'm not out to ruin any marriages. If she's happy with her life, that's great.
But yes, I am attracted to her both physically and as a person.
No, I don't systematically fall in love with people that I work with.
I've worked with lots of women in the past and this has never been an issue.
I had casual dates with women before but haven't clicked with anyone
in a serious manner.

Like I said before, if she was available (single/divorced/separated), I'd make a move.
This was my thought even before the whole porno thing came along.
Now it seems like all my pent up feelings over the past year are all coming out at once.

The job is a moot point. I can easily get a similar position almost anywhere else.
In fact, I took a bit of a pay cut when I left my old job (too stressful).

Past few days I been laying low. I ditched lunch with her today and the other day I worked from another site (remoting in).
Was hoping everything would blow over. So far, it's not working.

 

[noscmn]

Sounds like you feel like shit from this and it hurts a bit.

I still stand by what I said earlier.

 

[cruiser]

Let me clarify the situation some more.
I already know her pretty well as we've been working together for over a year.
Coffee, lunch, shopping. We've done it all already.

Sometimes just the two of us, sometimes with others in the office.
She already tells me that I'm her work husband, whatever that means.
There's been little to no flirting thus far. Just very friendly interaction.
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I will have to say that "work husband" isn't a term that I've heard before.

It "appears" that she has some kind of feelings for you.....and with what you say that you two have spent time together 1 on 1, she finds you easy to talk to and enjoys your company.

My gut says that she likes you.....would she jump your bones, "probably" but who knows?.....or does she just see you as a "friend" and doesn't have to worry about anything sexually.

One step that you could take...is compliment her personally...perhaps she's wearing a new outfit today and it looks good on her...say so. Perhaps she got her hair or nails done and she looks hot.....mention it. (I personally notice hair or fingernails on a lady...if they're stylish or done nicely, I will make a point of saying something!)

I would say start aiming for personal compliments and see how she responds.....you aren't crossing any borders....you only complimenting her appearance/perfume, etc.

I would then say that if she responds favourably, perhaps open up your feelings..that you find her attractive, etc....but I would definitely do it in a "non-work" environment...and do it at an after work social setting (drinks after work on a Friday)...so that if she wants to talk to you further, she doesn't have to worry about rushing back to the office.

You never know, she might have those mutual feelings as well!

 

[blazejowski]

I mean what's a little bit of home wrecking amongst friends? You are getting you input from people who pay for sex, so what the hell do they know?

No home wrecking involved - she's a very slutty girl, which is fine by me....

 

[blazejowski]

Permission granted.Just tell her you've expanded her job description to include wifely duties.

Sounds like you just need to test the waters with her. Start off slow, bring up sexual questions bit by bit, and you'll see what she's okay with....

 

[vic69]

Compliment her

I think you should go the compliment route... easing towards flirting. Take it slow at first, but you should be able to read the signs if she is at all receptive (and it wouldn't surprise me if she was!)

No issue about homewrecking here. If she wants / needs some extra-curricular sex, you can both have a great time. If she's not interested, you can find out before you cross any lines.

Good luck.

 

[Whackjob]

If you are only interested in a physical relationship, I would suggest that you tell her something along the lines of this:

I really respect you and the fact that you are committed to your family, but I find you so much more attractive than the whores I usually pay to have sex with. I am very interested in pursuing a sexual liason with you, and I would be willing to pay you as much as $300, if it includes anal (covered) and CIM.

That will be your best shot at landing her and protecting your professional position.

Good luck!