sorry to here about your loss
One of the reasons I like to use the services of escorts is that if the women conducts her business well there is no bullshit .
I tell them I am willing to pay x amount of money and for that money I want XYZ and z. If I pay her and she does not do what she agreed to do I move on . Unfortunately it seems that you can not get into this hobby and get scammed at least once .
but if all your interested is sex it is less expensive than the traditional dating bullshit . Which when you break it down is similar to putting coins in a slot machine in the hopes that you will "get Lucky"
I do not loan money to people. I am not a bank or a credit card company . If for whatever reason a close relative needed money from me for example they needed it to purchase something they would literally die. If they did not get it I would most likely just give it to them . If I can not afford to spend the money or lose it. I would not give it to someone with the above exception .
In this video this man makes a point about wanting to own as property women. For example make her your "girlfriend" "wife" etc
https://youtu.be/HVD3dQKSXWg
from what you have written it seems like you just got scammed .
However
People can resent it as well if you purchase everything for them .
As if you own them and they are your pet. So you have to go to the pet store to buy food pay for vet bills etc. Even if you expect nothing in return . The whole traditional dating idea that the person who has the penis has to pay for stuff is that you go on "dates" and eventually this person becomes your property " girlfriend " or "wife" .
You may think you are being a gentleman by paying for everything. But you may in fact be upsetting the person you are paying everything for .
in our society the act of exchanging money for goods and services is seen as a marker of independence and adulthood . Children will often take candy and other items or ask parents to purchase items for them .Yes because they want the item or candy etc .But also since they do not have any money of there own. This is a way of engaging in the symbolic act of purchasing something and having a degree of personal power .
I never have had a women buy me stuff because she wanted to get into my pants . But to some extent I can understand this feeling . A number of years ago when I was a much younger man . I became interested in the local fetish community and decided to attend a bondage safety workshop that was held at a local gay man's bar on a weekday . I arrived a couple of minutes early for the event .. So I decided to order a soft drink . The bartender gave me the soft drink but when I reached for my wallet she told me it was ok my soft drink had been paid for . She then pointed to an older overweight man that looked to be in his 60's . I walked up to him and thanked him for purchasing the soft drink. But explained to him that although I fully respected his sexual choices. I was not in fact gay and just there for the bondage workshop . I then told him I would pay him back for the soft drink with cash. .. He then told me that and that he was Just trying to "be friendly" to a new person in the bar . Even though he was a homosexual he did not buy me the soft drink so he could have sex with me and not to worry about it and hoped I enjoyed the workshop .
I can tell you even though he told me his intentions where to just be polite and the soft drink did not cost much ..
I felt very uncomfortable about the whole thing and kept on wondering what the hell he wanted from me