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How to maintain privacy as a client?

islander1-1

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I am surprised at how many guys use their real names. Only the escorts I trust, and a cpl of my buddies, here on perb, that I trust, know my real name. I try and keep most communications in emails.
Second cell phone... either a burner or your own retired phone left over from an upgrade... (my current is an iPhone 5 on Public Mobile) 15 a month on my Visa, both which are paperless. It stays hidden away in my mancave under a stack of papers, gets looked at once a day, and only goes on the road with me when I am out for an "adventure"
 
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GeeBeeP

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I have had one sp that uses a texting app but won’t let you use one. When I asked why the hypocrisy ( I asked a lot nicer) , they said because they know they are real and don’t know if you are a time waster or violent. But as a indie, we also know there could also be time wasters or scammers. In fact some one just got scammed in the victoria section. As for email, that works . I have tried that, but I find responses to email is a lot slower than text and alot of times you don’t get a response till the next day or the next few days . ( when your horniness has already been resolved one way or another ). Also the problem with some emails is that yiunhave to give the email provider your phone number, so if LE is a concern , they can still find out who you are .
I'm a planner not a last minute guy so an immediate response when making arrangements isn't a concern. BTW you do not need a phone number to set up an email account, you just won't have access to Two Factor Authentication for the account. A simple gmail account is easy but for added security use Proton Mail. It is end to end encrypted and based in Europe away North American eyes.
 
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Bde

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Telegram, Snapchat .. No burner required.
Oh ok, I think I may have misunderstood. I had assumed that they (including whatsapp, kik, etc) would be considered text apps.

Don't be an asshat that gives a SP a reason to invade your privacy.
I'm not worried about SPs invading my privacy at all and that isn't context on which I made this thread. Eventhough I am a newbie, I'd imagine there's a certain amount of professional discretion one can rely on.

My point was on seeking tips on how to maintain my own privacy when it come to my family/private life. I figure a byproxy benefit of doing so would also be minimizing any potential privacy issues of a SP I speak with.

I don't believe it is unreasonable to consider it is at least plausible that a wife/spouse could see an unfamiliar phone number on a monthly cell statement/bill - eg: Koodo - then Google that number and find it leads to an SPs ad. At the minimum it's somewhat of a consideration.

100% agree with Charlee here. In my experience very few reputable SP's use text as their only form of communication, so to be honest this would be a red flag for me.
*snip*
...as said above search under Burner Phone Precautions for a relevance discussion.
I guess I had assumed that's just the way it is? It made/makes sense from personal security position to have something that ties a meeting with an unknown client to a real person. I am completely in support of all protections and security for all sex work.

I should have searched "Burner Phones" but at the same time I was also looking for tips and practices from those with more experience than my none lol. I was thinking stuff like: Should you park down the street to avoid neighbors and/or attention. That sorta stuff too
 

pussy lover

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WhatsApp is still linked to your phone number. No message record. But the sp still have your number. There is also the scenario where the indie is a scammer and if you decide to not see them as others have mentioned, they threaten to go public with your phone number on social media.
This “threat “ was a shared story on one of the review. Not necessarily WhatsApp though
 
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Turrible

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You guys are making me feel paranoid af.
Whew, that went away fast.
“The people you think are thinking about you, well, they aren’t.”
 

Turrible

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What some Sp who you see regularly but go rogue on you? They have lots of information!
Yea, that’s why this site is useful. If you see a reputable lady none of this hyperbole is really anything to concern myself with.
Any sign of hard drug use is the big red flag I watch for. They are most likely to perpetrate shenanigans. Simple solution? Party friendly with snowflakes is a hard no for me.
Negative reviews with a demonstrated shitty attitude? Nope, thanks.
Strange behaviour? I’m out. Had a threesome set up, would have been my first. Prebooked with the girl I had previously seen and the night before the date the other girl decided she wanted a $200 deposit. Nope, I’m out. Done deal, and it cost me.
It’s easy to get paranoid. Understandable even, I’ve read the bad reviews. I stick with reputable, classy and decent girls.
Twitter is good to source, good for connections too. LL is alright but most reputable ladies can’t stand it. Tryst is where it’s at. Only reputable ladys, quality and I haven’t heard any negative about any girl on that site.
Essentially you gotta give a bit to get a bit. No pro is going to risk a lifetime of earnings to bilk you out of 10 or even 100 grand. Their rep is more valuable than a one time bribery cash grab. Some of the girls I see could buy me 10 times over. Don’t be flashy, don’t be a target. Mary Jane sex worker don’t care about your $20k watch or how big your bank is. They care if your junk stinks, you’re not late, and you leave when you’re supposed to. They just don’t want to get beat up or worse. Seems fair to me.
 

BigRawd

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Me, a single guy laughs at your secret agent life. Honestly if I have to put in so much efforts to hide the texts and see an escort, I am not even sure it's worth the paranoia.

Echo one perbite said above, if your partner wants to know, she will know. I had an ex who was very good at detecting scents of other women on my body, that's not the reason we broke up though. The point is, speaking from experience, if you truly care about your partner, and you are cheating on her, she will know, one way or another. You will gradually behave unnaturally around her when you know you are cheating on her. And if you don't care about her, then just break up, why keep her around when you are spending money seeing other girls already.

As for security concerns, I think my information is pretty safe with reputable providers I have seen. It's just a phone number after all. Unless the SP really wants to ruin your life for some reason, most won't even bother doing anything with your number after the date anyway. Just my 2 cents.
 

islander1-1

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<QUOTE> And if you don't care about her, then just break up, why keep her around when you are spending money seeing other girls already. <QUOTE>

Because I love my wife very much and I am happily married. But for the last several years I am not gettin any at home because of mernopause. For me love and sex are two different things. I have been able to separate them...many haven't figured this out yet.
 

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<QUOTE> And if you don't care about her, then just break up, why keep her around when you are spending money seeing other girls already. <QUOTE>

Because I love my wife very much and I am happily married. But for the last several years I am not gettin any at home because of mernopause. For me love and sex are two different things. I have been able to separate them...many haven't figured this out yet.
I strongly agree. "Just break up" is naïve and simplistic.
 
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GeeBeeP

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<QUOTE> And if you don't care about her, then just break up, why keep her around when you are spending money seeing other girls already. <QUOTE>

Because I love my wife very much and I am happily married. But for the last several years I am not gettin any at home because of mernopause. For me love and sex are two different things. I have been able to separate them...many haven't figured this out yet.
This a million times
Next time you're with an SP ask her how many of her married clients say exactly this. Many older married guys like myself simply miss the intimacy and passion of sex, but have long ago realised that they are only a small part of a lifelong partnership. I'm likely happier and better husband now that I'm filling that need.
 
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I have been using email as initial contact and later my Speakout (7 11) prepaid burner phone very successfully for many years. I keep my burner phone at work which is very safe.

I have not seen too many reviews about someone's privacy being compromised. The girls know their limits and you should know and respect theirs.
 
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BigRawd

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I strongly agree. "Just break up" is naïve and simplistic.
I don't know man. Naïve and simplistic? Maybe. But I think that's what your partner will do if she finds out you are seeing escorts on the side, she will just break up with you. Lol

The "I'm able to separate love and sex" speech, good for you. And I am not arguing with you tho, but I wonder if your wife will be able to understand that if she ever finds out? I'm not team wife, but I wonder how you will react if it was you who finds out your wives are seeing escorts on the side? Are you cool with it? Will you take the opportunity to come clean about yourself or will you just break up too?

My 2 cents. For those who aren't getting any action at home, your wife may be feeling the same way? Maybe she is wanting actions too? Just talk about it, or again, just break up man.
 

masterpoonhunter

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And ... we have moved the thread away from privacy to not getting any in the marriage ...

Common theme isn't it. Discussed in other threads, I think the "marriage thread" most recently.

No judgement here of anyone's comments, just adding my two bits into the fray.

Speaking for me, sex in the relationship is a glue that sticks the various pieces together. I am closer to my partner when the sex is happening. I know that for her, it is about a lot of other issues and sex is not as important but for me, when the sex wanes, the relationship wanes. And so for me, I got it outside the marriages/relationships and god knows I have been through many of these.

It really is a common theme of men, women and relationships. It is always is in the top few reasons for marital breakdown but it seems does not get the very high emphasis it should.
 
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CDNVT

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I have not seen too many reviews about someone's privacy being compromised. The girls know their limits and you should know and respect theirs.
I have had many fine encounters @ BOA and never an issue .
All very fine Woman / Ladies
Just wish the 90 min was in the cheaper range for the SP and the old guy , who will help put the room back to normal and clean up the mess. Some older men need a growing time , or until BOA starts selling the blue drink !
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