How to cut down on pooning?
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Learn to reprogram your brain. train your expectation reward mechanism. the very first way to do this is at the gym. You are young so you probably pound the weights. But I suggest going on a program like Jim Wendlers 531 BBB. Google it. It forces you to make progression and be accountable.
12 weeks later you will see results and then have more self esteem. Women feed of self esteem like you feed off big tiddies.
Learn to get along with good men. Consider joining some positive men mentoring groups. or join a sports team. Learn to get along with others. This will help you to observe positive male behaviour and identify "toxic" behaviour. Observe the results and think upon them.
Be good at something. Anything. it will help you to unlock your potential.
And yeah cut down on porn and masturbating.
This was my New Years goal, I am not an attractive man, and yet I persisted. I learned to love myself and then last week I got two dates with real women who don't charge me money(this is not meant to be an insult to the wonderful SP's who provide an invaluable service)! When I was on these dates, I was attentive and gentlemanly. The feeling I get to see their genuine reactions was invigorating. My goal on the dates was not to fuck the women, but to get to know them and let them know me. So set reasonable expectations.
Anyways, good luck.
12 weeks later you will see results and then have more self esteem. Women feed of self esteem like you feed off big tiddies.
Learn to get along with good men. Consider joining some positive men mentoring groups. or join a sports team. Learn to get along with others. This will help you to observe positive male behaviour and identify "toxic" behaviour. Observe the results and think upon them.
Be good at something. Anything. it will help you to unlock your potential.
And yeah cut down on porn and masturbating.
This was my New Years goal, I am not an attractive man, and yet I persisted. I learned to love myself and then last week I got two dates with real women who don't charge me money(this is not meant to be an insult to the wonderful SP's who provide an invaluable service)! When I was on these dates, I was attentive and gentlemanly. The feeling I get to see their genuine reactions was invigorating. My goal on the dates was not to fuck the women, but to get to know them and let them know me. So set reasonable expectations.
Anyways, good luck.
Not knowing how you like to spend your spare time (other than pooning), I suggest joining a mixed club or league like darts or a pool. All the ladies I have dated weren't random pick ups at a bar, they were someone I got to know as friends first. I tried the pick up thing in my younger days and it was disappointing. Ladies have their guard up and fully expect to get hit on so they are on the defensive. A league lets you network with other teams and you get to know more people who may bring other friends to their games. It also gives you something in common with your new friend. The game. Something to talk about without her feeling like she's being hit on.
A league or club will also occupy your time and keep you from pooning.
And who knows, you just might enjoy it.
I love sex and I also love the whole process. Call or text a random girl, don’t know if it will be a bait and switch, will she be a repeat? I can get girls normally for free and I still spend a pile of money on this hobby. For me, I can afford it financially but I know that I need to tone it down. I find myself day dreaming about an SP while hosting a dinner party for Christ Sake.
Addiction can be gambling, booze, woman, you name it. My addiction was work and business and then extreme sports like skydiving etc. Now it’s pussy.
The advice here is really good and I’d say based on what you’ve shared, no offence buddy, you need to rein yourself in so you can have a productive and healthy life.
First, you have to really want to stop. Otherwise you won’t. You’ll always find a way to keep at it so decide for yourself if you really want to stop first. Be honest with yourself. No judgement brother!
You need friends, and you also need to find things you really enjoy and focus on that. Then just focus man. That’s one thing men are good at if we have enough support to get on the right path. Just keep at it and try and really think why the need?
Why is there this need? Often it’s a habit that forms and it becomes a routine. For me it’s like this. 6pm every day I get this itch to call or text because it’s a habit. It’s like if I close my eyes I can see the whole thing unfold. Get distracted with good friends and passions. Start a savings plan towards something you really want. Stick with it you can do it.
Addiction can be gambling, booze, woman, you name it. My addiction was work and business and then extreme sports like skydiving etc. Now it’s pussy.
The advice here is really good and I’d say based on what you’ve shared, no offence buddy, you need to rein yourself in so you can have a productive and healthy life.
First, you have to really want to stop. Otherwise you won’t. You’ll always find a way to keep at it so decide for yourself if you really want to stop first. Be honest with yourself. No judgement brother!
You need friends, and you also need to find things you really enjoy and focus on that. Then just focus man. That’s one thing men are good at if we have enough support to get on the right path. Just keep at it and try and really think why the need?
Why is there this need? Often it’s a habit that forms and it becomes a routine. For me it’s like this. 6pm every day I get this itch to call or text because it’s a habit. It’s like if I close my eyes I can see the whole thing unfold. Get distracted with good friends and passions. Start a savings plan towards something you really want. Stick with it you can do it.
Quote:I love sex and I also love the whole process. Call or text a random girl, don’t know if it will be a bait and switch, will she be a repeat? I can get girls normally for free and I still spend a pile of money on this hobby. For me, I can afford it financially but I know that I need to tone it down. I find myself day dreaming about an SP while hosting a dinner party for Christ Sake.
For me the old days used to be really exciting, before the Internet. You would drive by a lady, total stranger, you found attractive and within 10 minutes you would be banging away somewhere. No time to second guess or ponder your choices too long. Circle the block and there was a good chance she would be gone. Just like the impulse buys at the cash registers in the stores. Hmmm... chocolate bar.
For me the old days used to be really exciting, before the Internet. You would drive by a lady, total stranger, you found attractive and within 10 minutes you would be banging away somewhere. No time to second guess or ponder your choices too long. Circle the block and there was a good chance she would be gone. Just like the impulse buys at the cash registers in the stores. Hmmm... chocolate bar.
Wow, this reading this thread has enlightened me. Thanks guys.
I wouldn't say I hobby a lot compared to others. I am only a half service kind of guy but it does add up and I could definitely use my money elsewhere. Being single and young, I do go on a lot of dates but sometimes it's just easier to pay for fun. It does get addicting.
I wouldn't say I hobby a lot compared to others. I am only a half service kind of guy but it does add up and I could definitely use my money elsewhere. Being single and young, I do go on a lot of dates but sometimes it's just easier to pay for fun. It does get addicting.
Usually I don't post much. Not as much as I did in the past anyway, but I felt I could contribute since I totally relate to OP.
Those of you who have been around for a while know me well. I am a family man and I have been in this hobby for about five years now. I was already past my youth when I started this hobby. Prior to that I had NEVER been with an SP. Believe it or not I had not even been to a strip club!!
So once I started, I went crazy. I was like a kid in a candy store. I just could not have enough. I would start researching for my next one as soon as I got back from seeing one SP. Seeing five to six sp's in first few months was common for me. I saw 37 girls in first (less than) six months!! By the end of first twelve months, I cut it down to about three a month. By end of the year three, I was down to about two a month. Despite the self-restrain, 2017 was one of the most expensive one. Not only I had 32 sessions, I also spend close to 8 grands. The numbers are just staggering!!
But things changed after that. By July 2018, I was successfully down to about two every three months. By that time, I had spent money equal to brand new mid sized Honda.
I noticed that after four years, gradually I started to lose interest. No, let me rephrase that. I had NOT lost interest, I started to feel that I lost the motivation to make the effort of seeing sps'. In 2019, in last four months, so far I have seen only two SP's. Mind you, money was and still isn't an issue.
There were not many reliable ones left in my part of the world and travelling to DT Van for me is a pain. I also went back to a hobby that I was and still am good at. It's not like I have lost interest in hobby. I still enjoy the thought of being with beautiful girls but for some reason, I feel I have lost that drive to make the effort.
I have concluded that the reason(s) why I have slowed down after whirlwind four years:
a. I have aged obviously so may be, just may be that's got something to do with it.
b. Naturally it has so to end at some point, may be I am heading towards it.
c. I have taken up another hobby that keeps me busy. I also did some changes to my work routine so I am more tied up and I have intentionally reduced accepting field assignments. That gives me less time to poon.
d. I guess Alfred Marshall's 'Diminishing Marginal Utility" came into effect.
e. Also, and this is an interesting one, I stopped or rather cut down on my time here at PERB. Also some minor disagreements with the some people here helped my cause.
But it's all good. I have no regrets. If anything, I cut down on visiting PERB. Prior to that, I was signed in for all nine hours of my work day.
f. I keep a diary. I have written down date, name, city and money I spent on each SP as well as a progressive total. It helps me keep track of how much money I am spending. Trust me, it worked for me.
But it has been one heck of a ride. Close to 95 sp's and 139 sessions with a cost which is over the price tag of a basic model of brand new Honda Accord.
If the date you joined PERB is any indication, you are fairly new to this hobby. My advise to you, get a girl friend. Spend less time researching SPs'. Take up a hobby. Try to move away to a sub urb where the choice of SP's is limited. Also, keep a diary, like I do.
What wrote above is strictly my experience and it might not work for others so take it for whatever it is worth. Also, I am not discouraging you guys from indulging, but like BCLC says, 'know your limit, poon within it."
Good Luck
T8E
Those of you who have been around for a while know me well. I am a family man and I have been in this hobby for about five years now. I was already past my youth when I started this hobby. Prior to that I had NEVER been with an SP. Believe it or not I had not even been to a strip club!!
So once I started, I went crazy. I was like a kid in a candy store. I just could not have enough. I would start researching for my next one as soon as I got back from seeing one SP. Seeing five to six sp's in first few months was common for me. I saw 37 girls in first (less than) six months!! By the end of first twelve months, I cut it down to about three a month. By end of the year three, I was down to about two a month. Despite the self-restrain, 2017 was one of the most expensive one. Not only I had 32 sessions, I also spend close to 8 grands. The numbers are just staggering!!
But things changed after that. By July 2018, I was successfully down to about two every three months. By that time, I had spent money equal to brand new mid sized Honda.
I noticed that after four years, gradually I started to lose interest. No, let me rephrase that. I had NOT lost interest, I started to feel that I lost the motivation to make the effort of seeing sps'. In 2019, in last four months, so far I have seen only two SP's. Mind you, money was and still isn't an issue.
There were not many reliable ones left in my part of the world and travelling to DT Van for me is a pain. I also went back to a hobby that I was and still am good at. It's not like I have lost interest in hobby. I still enjoy the thought of being with beautiful girls but for some reason, I feel I have lost that drive to make the effort.
I have concluded that the reason(s) why I have slowed down after whirlwind four years:
a. I have aged obviously so may be, just may be that's got something to do with it.
b. Naturally it has so to end at some point, may be I am heading towards it.
c. I have taken up another hobby that keeps me busy. I also did some changes to my work routine so I am more tied up and I have intentionally reduced accepting field assignments. That gives me less time to poon.
d. I guess Alfred Marshall's 'Diminishing Marginal Utility" came into effect.
e. Also, and this is an interesting one, I stopped or rather cut down on my time here at PERB. Also some minor disagreements with the some people here helped my cause.
But it's all good. I have no regrets. If anything, I cut down on visiting PERB. Prior to that, I was signed in for all nine hours of my work day. f. I keep a diary. I have written down date, name, city and money I spent on each SP as well as a progressive total. It helps me keep track of how much money I am spending. Trust me, it worked for me.
But it has been one heck of a ride. Close to 95 sp's and 139 sessions with a cost which is over the price tag of a basic model of brand new Honda Accord.
If the date you joined PERB is any indication, you are fairly new to this hobby. My advise to you, get a girl friend. Spend less time researching SPs'. Take up a hobby. Try to move away to a sub urb where the choice of SP's is limited. Also, keep a diary, like I do.
What wrote above is strictly my experience and it might not work for others so take it for whatever it is worth. Also, I am not discouraging you guys from indulging, but like BCLC says, 'know your limit, poon within it."
Good Luck
T8E
That's a very well thought out post and I agree with a lot of it.Usually I don't post much. Not as much as I did in the past anyway, but I felt I could contribute since I totally relate to OP.
Those of you who have been around for a while know me well. I am a family man and I have been in this hobby for about five years now. I was already past my youth when I started this hobby. Prior to that I had NEVER been with an SP. Believe it or not I had not even been to a strip club!!
So once I started, I went crazy. I was like a kid in a candy store. I just could not have enough. I would start researching for my next one as soon as I got back from seeing one SP. Seeing five to six sp's in first few months was common for me. I saw 37 girls in first (less than) six months!! By the end of first twelve months, I cut it down to about three a month. By end of the year three, I was down to about two a month. Despite the self-restrain, 2017 was one of the most expensive one. Not only I had 32 sessions, I also spend close to 8 grands. The numbers are just staggering!!
But things changed after that. By July 2018, I was successfully down to about two every three months. By that time, I had spent money equal to brand new mid sized Honda.
I noticed that after four years, gradually I started to lose interest. No, let me rephrase that. I had NOT lost interest, I started to feel that I lost the motivation to make the effort of seeing sps'. In 2019, in last four months, so far I have seen only two SP's. Mind you, money was and still isn't an issue.
There were not many reliable ones left in my part of the world and travelling to DT Van for me is a pain. I also went back to a hobby that I was and still am good at. It's not like I have lost interest in hobby. I still enjoy the thought of being with beautiful girls but for some reason, I feel I have lost that drive to make the effort.
I have concluded that the reason(s) why I have slowed down after whirlwind four years:
a. I have aged obviously so may be, just may be that's got something to do with it.
b. Naturally it has so to end at some point, may be I am heading towards it.
c. I have taken up another hobby that keeps me busy. I also did some changes to my work routine so I am more tied up and I have intentionally reduced accepting field assignments. That gives me less time to poon.
d. I guess Alfred Marshall's 'Diminishing Marginal Utility" came into effect.
e. Also, and this is an interesting one, I stopped or rather cut down on my time here at PERB. Also some minor disagreements with the some people here helped my cause.
f. I keep a diary. I have written down date, name, city and money I spent on each SP as well as a progressive total. It helps me keep track of how much money I am spending. Trust me, it worked for me.
But it has been one heck of a ride. Close to 95 sp's and 139 sessions with a cost which is over the price tag of a basic model of brand new Honda Accord.
If the date you joined PERB is any indication, you are fairly new to this hobby. My advise to you, get a girl friend. Spend less time researching SPs'. Take up a hobby. Try to move away to a sub urb where the choice of SP's is limited. Also, keep a diary, like I do.
What wrote above is strictly my experience and it might not work for others so take it for whatever it is worth. Also, I am not discouraging you guys from indulging, but like BCLC says, 'know your limit, poon within it."
Good Luck
T8E
I've slowed down quite a bit too from weekly to bi-weekly to monthly. I still treat myself with a few local and visiting SP's.
I'd say personally my age vs the age of the SP's are not much of a concern as long as we are compatible in bed. From experience, I've found the compatibility isn't age specific. The effect is I'm more attracted to mid 20's to mid 30's women. Chances of having someone in this age group as a GF are pretty limited.
So like you, I've found some other hobbies that are fun. Not as fun as the rush I experience after a hot session though :nod:
No, age of the SP has nothing to do with it. I have had great time with some younger girls. Take Egyptian Betty for example. SHe is much younger and totally .. alternate.. but it was amazing... Also, most of these SP's know that we, the 50+ guys have the money, the time and the lust. Also, we have the respect that a woman, esp an SP deserves. I can go on and on ...
Great to hear from you BBB, you and I go long way back.
You are looking at the physical side of things ... I think what me, and BBB have mentioned are the mental and psychological side of things.
But at the end, whatever works for you mate.
/\ This exactly!
I too am about 5 years into this 'discovery' and it's a bit concerning to me that I don't get that same 'rush' as before...so much so, that I was thinking very seriously of joining Kinky Katey and her sexy friends for this evenings shenanigans. Whenever I get the urge, my self-talk leans much further toward 'stay on this side of The border' (I'm from The US), or 'it's too much of a hassle', etc. Don't get me wrong, I've had many satisfying experiences, it's just no longer steeped in the whole 'mystique' any more.
Hey Ocho...you sure like Honda's
Hey now! You say that like it’s a bad thing/\ This exactly!
I too am about 5 years into this 'discovery' and it's a bit concerning to me that I don't get that same 'rush' as before...so much so, that I was thinking very seriously of joining Kinky Katey and her sexy friends for this evenings shenanigans. Whenever I get the urge, my self-talk leans much further toward 'stay on this side of The border' (I'm from The US), or 'it's too much of a hassle', etc. Don't get me wrong, I've had many satisfying experiences, it's just no longer steeped in the whole 'mystique' any more.
Hey Ocho...you sure like Honda's
Xo
Katey
fortunately, (for me) 'bad' can mean 'good'Hey now! You say that like it’s a bad thing
Xo
Katey
Hope all went well yesterday evening
I am grateful for this thread. Especially since it came between two SP visits this week. It made me think about what I was doing. Fortunately, both sessions went exceedingly well, and I hope I can give it a rest for a few weeks. What makes me obsessive is less than satisfying sessions, which makes me want to keep coming back to "get it right" or lay do a good one. I think I'm getting there and can take my foot off the gas for while. I was 40 when I saw my first SP and I was over 60 when I got onto this site. You young guys should learn how to make it with women around you. Don't let Political Correctness and Feminism hold you back, You must have figured it out by now that women enjoy this as much as we men do. Don't be afraid of rejection. No woman will ever disrespect you for showing courage and persistence. Be enterprising. When I started pooning, I stopped watching porn, Now if I can just slow down the pooning, and limit it to the occasional glorious encounter, life will be grand.
PS, I think all the pooning has been about making up for all the barren years back in the day (teenage on up) when I didn't know how to get laid, or it just wasn't available. Filling the gaps in life. It's been a blast.
PS, I think all the pooning has been about making up for all the barren years back in the day (teenage on up) when I didn't know how to get laid, or it just wasn't available. Filling the gaps in life. It's been a blast.
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Traveling overseas will make you cut down on local pooning. Obviously this might not be available for all guys especially if you have a wife. But for guys that can get away it really opens your eyes to the variety and sheer amount of young talent out there. It also takes immense will power to save up your money and not cheat on your poon vacation.
Once you do get yourself overseas, wow, the juice is definitely worth the squeeze!
Once you do get yourself overseas, wow, the juice is definitely worth the squeeze!
What is your favorite destination?Traveling overseas will make you cut down on local pooning. Obviously this might not be available for all guys especially if you have a wife. But for guys that can get away it really opens your eyes to the variety and sheer amount of young talent out there. It also takes immense will power to save up your money and not cheat on your poon vacation.
Once you do get yourself overseas, wow, the juice is definitely worth the squeeze!
Haha well that’s good
Yes it went wonderful, very excited for the next one. Xo
Katey
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