How important is money for men?? (inspired by BHB)
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Probably would've been flamed by all the naysayers
I thought yours was good before you deleted....
And I've heard that you also believe in Santa Claus.I've put all my personal naysayers on ignore and happily go about believing everyone likes me now.
Money, money, money
It's always nice to have more—especially in this hobby.
But I ask myself what I'd have to give up for more money. Leisure pursuits? Moral integrity? A secure, enjoyable job with limited pay?
I think money, like looks, is a threshold phenomenon. If you fall below a minimum threshold, your opportunities in life are likely to be severely diminished.
But once you're comfortably above a certain threshold in terms of looks or money, other factors—like a warm personality, personal courage, social skills or a passion for learning—help someone far more to achieve happiness and success than extra money or better looks.
The most painful experience I've had with money? What you've already spent on one thing you can no longer spend on another.
It's always nice to have more—especially in this hobby.
But I ask myself what I'd have to give up for more money. Leisure pursuits? Moral integrity? A secure, enjoyable job with limited pay?
I think money, like looks, is a threshold phenomenon. If you fall below a minimum threshold, your opportunities in life are likely to be severely diminished.
But once you're comfortably above a certain threshold in terms of looks or money, other factors—like a warm personality, personal courage, social skills or a passion for learning—help someone far more to achieve happiness and success than extra money or better looks.
The most painful experience I've had with money? What you've already spent on one thing you can no longer spend on another.
Money does make the worl go round.. but now a days it is all about who you know.. not what you know... know the right people and making money becomes much easier!
All right guys.
If money makes the world go 'round and is the answer to getting laid.... how important is money TO YOU?!?!
Were you raised to think "I have to be a good provider", "I need to make lots of money", "I have to prove I am better than the guy next to me".
Please, give us ladies your thoughts as to how you feel about money.
Isn't it all about money, power and influence, or do I watch too many soap operas!?!?
I think the difference is men care about their money. Women care about a mans money.
I know very few guys that even consider wages when they date a new girl.
Whereas most women I have dated have literally asked me how much I make, in the first few dates (what a turnoff).
My friend found out the hard way, poor girls have benefits. If a lady is making $20,000 a year, she probably has little savings, but also little debt.
My friend that started dating a teacher making a decent wage. Only to find she had over $75,000 in Mastercard debt all at 12.9%.
They dated 9 months before she told him, and then wanted him to pay it, even though he makes about $10,000 a year less than her.
The lady making $20,000 doesn't have this opportunity
I know very few guys that even consider wages when they date a new girl.
Whereas most women I have dated have literally asked me how much I make, in the first few dates (what a turnoff).
My friend found out the hard way, poor girls have benefits. If a lady is making $20,000 a year, she probably has little savings, but also little debt.
My friend that started dating a teacher making a decent wage. Only to find she had over $75,000 in Mastercard debt all at 12.9%.
They dated 9 months before she told him, and then wanted him to pay it, even though he makes about $10,000 a year less than her.
The lady making $20,000 doesn't have this opportunity
Someone working for minimum wage, its harder for them to owe mastercard $75,000.
Because credit card companies won't let them borrow that much.
If you make $20,000 a year, maybe you get a $5000 credit limit......
If someone makes $70,000 a year, credit card companies have no problem letting you borrow as much as you want.
I'm with you now...dating a poor girl has its benefits because she likely won't be bringing a bunch of debt into the relationship. Not to be trite or make broad generalizations, I don't think it's about the money. It's all about the person's values around money.
I've met many a lady who is on Income Assistance and has charged up every credit card she could get her hands on! I've also known civvies who embezzled thousands of dollars from their companies, even though they were well paid. I've known gamblers for whom there is never enough money; give them a $100 a week budget for playing and they will borrow from next week and the week after that!
"I will gladly pay you Tuesday for a hamburger today!"
So how about we judge each individual by their own merit, male and female.
Money doesn't necessarily buy happiness, but a lack of money certainly causes problems. I have always worked enough to make sure I don't have to worry too much about money. But I don't feel the need to kill myself working long hours to make more and more and more. Especially when CRA takes 40% off the top.
The irony of some of these posts is that, not surprisingly, most on here are not in the 1%. Yet when you hear about what guys claim to spend on average each year on escorts, you would think they were.
I think the middle class tries too hard to be the upper class. Bombarded on a daily basis by what others have, and what we don't have, we naively struggle to improve our surroundings and our life experience with things that don't actually matter, although we're told that they do.
I have seen more relationships crumble because one party is striving so hard, for no other reason than to 'catch-up' to the other guys, or to the life that they never actually seemed to achieve, particularly if they're getting older.
It's as if there is no place in our society for the individual who is happy to live within their means. I could go on but I'll get off my soap box for now (I'm never off it for very long, though)...
I have seen more relationships crumble because one party is striving so hard, for no other reason than to 'catch-up' to the other guys, or to the life that they never actually seemed to achieve, particularly if they're getting older.
It's as if there is no place in our society for the individual who is happy to live within their means. I could go on but I'll get off my soap box for now (I'm never off it for very long, though)...
This ^
I've never met a woman and cared about how much money she made or what she did for a living.
While with most women, it's constantly; where do you live? do you own?
And if you should meet a woman who does own her own place; 9 times out of ten it's her exes - and she got it when they got a divorce.
Every time I meet a woman I should ask her how big her tits are and whether their real or not. (I hate when their a size A cup and they wear a bra that makes it look like they have C's) Talk about bait and switch... lol
All one really needs is less. Money is money, choice of lifestyle dictates how much one perceives they need. Many years ago I decided not to be defined or owned by my job or chasing things I don't need and that has allowed me options. Me and my partner only work at things we like, we live in and own a little, by today's standards, 865 sp foot 100 year old house and drive a 10 year old vehicle and only have one. No kids so that makes a huge difference. We live well, not extravagantly but well with no debt and enough dough to see us through.
So money matters......each man or woman decides how much it does.
Peace
MG
So money matters......each man or woman decides how much it does.
Peace
MG
So long as I have enough to live decently it doesn't matter. I'm at that point now so I'm not all that concerned with the rat race and desperately trying to earn the most I can. Quite honestly as my pay increases from here, so too will my donations to charities and my generosity with family and friends who have been less fortunate in life than me. I've been the beneficiary of a lot of luck and am keenly aware of it. I intend to make sure that I am not the only one that profits from it.
