For me, it requires self discipline, three days "away" from everyone and every obligation, and some motivation. The first two, are on me to make happen. The third is an external event and one that I am delighted to say that I have found. By way of disclaimer, no flip charts were used or harmed during the process.
Oh, and thank you Spermie for your kind words. Much appreciated. I remember the Nigerian thread but not exactly, I am pretty sure I had the tongue firmly planted into my cheek on that one...it was my way of posting about racial intolerance and I don't recall the details but it's not relevant. The MERL pub serves non alcoholic beverages Spermie.....
I phoned up my buddy HB yesterday on the chance he might be in town. Success. He wondered if we were convening a MERL meeting. I replied "no, just you and me baby"....which I kind of felt guilty about but, not so much. There are times when one on one is best....besides, Jim's walker is still in the shop for repair. He doesn't like to talk about it that much but....combined with his pension check not arriving until later this week...
I get to the pub, HB is there already, we have a beer. And a smoke. And a chat. Then, his name comes up on the challenge board for the pool table. So, I watch (and sign the board) him kick some patron's ass and retain the table for three rounds. And we have a beer, and a smoke, and we chat some more.
At some point in the evening, in flounces this chicky totally gunned and making a show. She's cute and nuts. We have a drink and a smoke, chat some more. She invites us to her home, off we go. I'm wingmanning for HB, tell her there's no need for a cab as HB has that big ass truck out there, he's rich, and I can pedal down behind (it's only 4 blocks). They pick up a dozen and I wait at the pub for some other guy that was supposed to come with us. He pikes, I wave, and wobble off down the avenue. On arrival, HB and Electra are outside waiting....and up we go. We have a drink, a smoke, and chat some more. Oh yeah, we got high on some high grade hash oil so that was fun too. I left rather smashed...but, it was fun overall. Although, when the barmaid says "you ought not to be going there"....that's likely good advice. But, while Electra is crazy, turns out she's just messed up and lonely. A good soul for someone I'm sure...
In any event, to the point of this post. HB agrees it's time to quit smoking. Wonderful. We had attempted a bet a month ago but his replies at the time were "well, I don't mind helping you eddie, cuz I know I'm going to lose this bet". So, no bet. I don't want to be taking candy from a baby. This time, however, I double check...get the right answers...he's ready to win.
So, the bet commences at 00:01 on Sunday, August 15, 2010. The stakes are simple, loser purchases a one hour session for the other. This is the sort of bet you can only make with someone you trust completely to be upfront when they fail....HB's that sort in spades. I've watched him call his own ass on whispering a pool ball when that wasn't intended, watched him count his shots accurately on the golf course, and generally have enjoyed his thoughts and comments on life. He has the good moral code.
There are two things I need to cross of my list before I settle in with someone. I need to break my 5 year cherry. And I need to experience a duo session. I have arranged for the latter with the delightful Miss K here in town, she's cool. I sent her a video of something that intrigued me in terms of trying, her reply was..."no problem"...in amongst other inciteful comments. So, that's just a matter of timing and funds. I told her at the time, probably 6 weeks. Well, 6 weeks is up and I'm still not ready....but it's planned and I will only hope she is still amenable when the time comes.
As for the cherry thing, that will come when I win this bet. We both nodded that X would be an excellent choice. HB has seen her, she's not from here, and she's nothing short of intriguing. Regardless of who wins, it will be an interesting review I'm sure.
Once all that is done, I will be a non smoker, and financially healthy (relatively). So, it will be time to focus on my own self improvement. I have already taken steps to eat better, I love my job, and my head doesn't whirl with unaddressed issues....so there is a nice peace for the most part. All kind of really important things to have.
But, I will wish to embark on a bit of a physical regimen. I will take the polar body age assessment through Grant McEwan and get a good report card on where I am currently. As well, a one hour meeting with a trainer is included to develop a plan on where I wish to be. It's good to have a starting point....and to have a goal. So, one of the cool things about any D/s relationship is the mutual respect of it. While power is awarded away, it is awarded to someone who has your best interests at heart. And, if you can't work toward improving yourself to please your "other", then you won't be of much use....either to yourself, or the other.
The good ones are out there, they exist. I have met some and likely haven't put as much effort into it as I should have....but I was a bit aimless too. It will be nice to have someone "insist" upon my pulse rate being X, my ability to do pushups moving on a path toward 100, and all of the other good things contained within a well constructed physical fitness plan.
Please have the most pleasant of days,
kindest,
eddie.
Oh, and thank you Spermie for your kind words. Much appreciated. I remember the Nigerian thread but not exactly, I am pretty sure I had the tongue firmly planted into my cheek on that one...it was my way of posting about racial intolerance and I don't recall the details but it's not relevant. The MERL pub serves non alcoholic beverages Spermie.....
I phoned up my buddy HB yesterday on the chance he might be in town. Success. He wondered if we were convening a MERL meeting. I replied "no, just you and me baby"....which I kind of felt guilty about but, not so much. There are times when one on one is best....besides, Jim's walker is still in the shop for repair. He doesn't like to talk about it that much but....combined with his pension check not arriving until later this week...
I get to the pub, HB is there already, we have a beer. And a smoke. And a chat. Then, his name comes up on the challenge board for the pool table. So, I watch (and sign the board) him kick some patron's ass and retain the table for three rounds. And we have a beer, and a smoke, and we chat some more.
At some point in the evening, in flounces this chicky totally gunned and making a show. She's cute and nuts. We have a drink and a smoke, chat some more. She invites us to her home, off we go. I'm wingmanning for HB, tell her there's no need for a cab as HB has that big ass truck out there, he's rich, and I can pedal down behind (it's only 4 blocks). They pick up a dozen and I wait at the pub for some other guy that was supposed to come with us. He pikes, I wave, and wobble off down the avenue. On arrival, HB and Electra are outside waiting....and up we go. We have a drink, a smoke, and chat some more. Oh yeah, we got high on some high grade hash oil so that was fun too. I left rather smashed...but, it was fun overall. Although, when the barmaid says "you ought not to be going there"....that's likely good advice. But, while Electra is crazy, turns out she's just messed up and lonely. A good soul for someone I'm sure...
In any event, to the point of this post. HB agrees it's time to quit smoking. Wonderful. We had attempted a bet a month ago but his replies at the time were "well, I don't mind helping you eddie, cuz I know I'm going to lose this bet". So, no bet. I don't want to be taking candy from a baby. This time, however, I double check...get the right answers...he's ready to win.
So, the bet commences at 00:01 on Sunday, August 15, 2010. The stakes are simple, loser purchases a one hour session for the other. This is the sort of bet you can only make with someone you trust completely to be upfront when they fail....HB's that sort in spades. I've watched him call his own ass on whispering a pool ball when that wasn't intended, watched him count his shots accurately on the golf course, and generally have enjoyed his thoughts and comments on life. He has the good moral code.
There are two things I need to cross of my list before I settle in with someone. I need to break my 5 year cherry. And I need to experience a duo session. I have arranged for the latter with the delightful Miss K here in town, she's cool. I sent her a video of something that intrigued me in terms of trying, her reply was..."no problem"...in amongst other inciteful comments. So, that's just a matter of timing and funds. I told her at the time, probably 6 weeks. Well, 6 weeks is up and I'm still not ready....but it's planned and I will only hope she is still amenable when the time comes.
As for the cherry thing, that will come when I win this bet. We both nodded that X would be an excellent choice. HB has seen her, she's not from here, and she's nothing short of intriguing. Regardless of who wins, it will be an interesting review I'm sure.
Once all that is done, I will be a non smoker, and financially healthy (relatively). So, it will be time to focus on my own self improvement. I have already taken steps to eat better, I love my job, and my head doesn't whirl with unaddressed issues....so there is a nice peace for the most part. All kind of really important things to have.
But, I will wish to embark on a bit of a physical regimen. I will take the polar body age assessment through Grant McEwan and get a good report card on where I am currently. As well, a one hour meeting with a trainer is included to develop a plan on where I wish to be. It's good to have a starting point....and to have a goal. So, one of the cool things about any D/s relationship is the mutual respect of it. While power is awarded away, it is awarded to someone who has your best interests at heart. And, if you can't work toward improving yourself to please your "other", then you won't be of much use....either to yourself, or the other.
The good ones are out there, they exist. I have met some and likely haven't put as much effort into it as I should have....but I was a bit aimless too. It will be nice to have someone "insist" upon my pulse rate being X, my ability to do pushups moving on a path toward 100, and all of the other good things contained within a well constructed physical fitness plan.
Please have the most pleasant of days,
kindest,
eddie.
