How do you start your first convo with a sp?
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I would think that you should have the answers to those 2 questions before you hit her door. Otherwise, what would you do after she opens the door and she says it's $800.00, but no bbbj and no touchng or kissing her boobs ?????
No it's not too impersonal.
You are her client- not her long lost friend.
Just be polite and respectful. Confirming rates and services is always a good idea so as to avoid misunderstandings.
You don't need to provide her with a chapter and verse personal bio of yourself or references unless SHE asks YOU. It's a conversation after all.
"Hi, this is ****. I'm calling to check your availability......Does your rate include (insert specific services here)......"
The conversation will evolve.
Just be yourself.
sex,
I think every women is different, so there is no hard and fast thing that applies.
but yes at some point talk about services, what is a no go, just so I know, what is crossing the line for her,
like some one said, you should have an idea going in,
yeah you should,
but things like multiply hours like four or five, she might not have posted on her site, a supper date, whats it going to cost me for example
or over night,
sexual services you should know what kind of girl your seeing, before you knock on her door,
but still you get a feel for her sexuality, how liberated she is, or on inhibited she is.
a women may offer bbbj,
but still, I have had some kinky sessions with a girl.
it is a no no,
rude to ask how many guys she fucked that day, or other clients, or money she makes, those are off limits.
I know were all curious but don't ,
and nothing personal is she married kids bf anything like that none of your fuckig business
but the girl will tend to ask that of you in my experience any way,
keep in mind she is building a data base on you,
and anything you say can and will be used against you,
a lot of this for the women comes down to survival self preservation
so she is cataloguing you,
in case you turn into a stalker one day or a creepy client,
so don't give her anything to worry about, just be a nice guy, joe blow
if your rich keep it to yourself,
I think it is rare, but it has happened, clients have been blackmailed extorted etc,
so go in as a guy that has nothing,
just joe blow that wants a blow job,
I think every women is different, so there is no hard and fast thing that applies.
but yes at some point talk about services, what is a no go, just so I know, what is crossing the line for her,
like some one said, you should have an idea going in,
yeah you should,
but things like multiply hours like four or five, she might not have posted on her site, a supper date, whats it going to cost me for example
or over night,
sexual services you should know what kind of girl your seeing, before you knock on her door,
but still you get a feel for her sexuality, how liberated she is, or on inhibited she is.
a women may offer bbbj,
but still, I have had some kinky sessions with a girl.
it is a no no,
rude to ask how many guys she fucked that day, or other clients, or money she makes, those are off limits.
I know were all curious but don't ,
and nothing personal is she married kids bf anything like that none of your fuckig business
but the girl will tend to ask that of you in my experience any way,
keep in mind she is building a data base on you,
and anything you say can and will be used against you,
a lot of this for the women comes down to survival self preservation
so she is cataloguing you,
in case you turn into a stalker one day or a creepy client,
so don't give her anything to worry about, just be a nice guy, joe blow
if your rich keep it to yourself,
I think it is rare, but it has happened, clients have been blackmailed extorted etc,
so go in as a guy that has nothing,
just joe blow that wants a blow job,
I think OP means how the first contact should be made.
Usually my first ever contact with the SP (via text) is as follows....
Hi _(SP's name) _ _ _
I am _(my name)____, a _(my age)__ yr old, clean family guy.
I am known on PERB as take8easy. I have heard so much about you and I was just wondering if you are free for an hour this Friday around 10-00 am.
Thanks. _(My name)____
If I contact by email, it's still pretty much the same. If the ad doesn't have the donation, then I would ask how much it is.
Only word of advice is that try not to ask too many questions the first time and do not ask explicit questions.
Usually my first ever contact with the SP (via text) is as follows....
Hi _(SP's name) _ _ _
I am _(my name)____, a _(my age)__ yr old, clean family guy.
I am known on PERB as take8easy. I have heard so much about you and I was just wondering if you are free for an hour this Friday around 10-00 am.
Thanks. _(My name)____
If I contact by email, it's still pretty much the same. If the ad doesn't have the donation, then I would ask how much it is.
Only word of advice is that try not to ask too many questions the first time and do not ask explicit questions.
I usually try to assess if we might be a good match with my first email.
I will let her know things I like and what her thoughts are in response.
If we are on the same page, I'll propose a certain day/time/duration.
The only times I proceeded without checking to see if we were somewhat compatible didn't turn out well. I'm big into oral and finding SP's who spends max 5 minutes receiving and giving was a disappointment.
They can not read our minds so if you like something, you gotta let them know. Some guys are into multiple hot lingerie changes, watching them with a vibrator and personally one of my favs is a mutual shower. Again, this is where they can advise if these things are possible or not.
They will let you know the rates with durations usually in the first email. If it's too high, they don't have to deal with tire kickers.
Totally agree with this.
I've taken this approach every time when contacting a new SP and to date have always gotten back a response relatively quickly.
From that point on you can ask any questions that you may have or proceed with booking.
As long as the SP's ad has been fairly clear about donation and what type of services they provide I usually don't ask too many questions.
Always introduce yourself and have at least a couple courtesy lines. It doesn't have to be extravagant, but don't start the conversation with "What are your rates" unless you want to see a lady who is going to treat you like an ATM......because if you start a conversation that way, you are basically dehumanizing her, so why should she reciprocate upon meetig with anything more?
Something basic is fine. Hi, my name is Joe. I seen your ad on xyz, and I am interested in meeting up today/next week/this weekend etc. Do you have time to answer a couple of questions?
If you want be more social, ask her how she is doing, and provide her a compliment on why you are calling. This is especially true if you are lookin to see a courtesan or more exclusive lady, as a large part of liaisons involves a social component.
Starting a conversation with "What's your rate" comes across sounding like you are either bargain hunting for just anyone, and the lowest rate is all you care about, or that you didn't take any time to read her ad or website.....which again comes across as sounding like you don't care who you see - that any hole with the right price will do.
There are certainly ladies who are fine with it, especially those who really just provide a "Get him in, get him off, get him out" type of service. And if that is what you are looking for, your approach above was perfect, because those ladies don't want to waste time with pleasantries.
However, if you are wanting a experience, or at least some kind of connection and liaison that extends past being strictly physical, then putting a couple sentences together (as you would with just about anybody else) is probably a good idea.
Something basic is fine. Hi, my name is Joe. I seen your ad on xyz, and I am interested in meeting up today/next week/this weekend etc. Do you have time to answer a couple of questions?
If you want be more social, ask her how she is doing, and provide her a compliment on why you are calling. This is especially true if you are lookin to see a courtesan or more exclusive lady, as a large part of liaisons involves a social component.
Starting a conversation with "What's your rate" comes across sounding like you are either bargain hunting for just anyone, and the lowest rate is all you care about, or that you didn't take any time to read her ad or website.....which again comes across as sounding like you don't care who you see - that any hole with the right price will do.
There are certainly ladies who are fine with it, especially those who really just provide a "Get him in, get him off, get him out" type of service. And if that is what you are looking for, your approach above was perfect, because those ladies don't want to waste time with pleasantries.
However, if you are wanting a experience, or at least some kind of connection and liaison that extends past being strictly physical, then putting a couple sentences together (as you would with just about anybody else) is probably a good idea.
As is so often the case, Angel hit this one out of the park! This response ought to be a sticky!
I've tried this method when I first started. Didn't get any or any serious replies. I tried showering them with compliments and being "nice". This method got me NOWHERE
Only when I cut to the chase and asked what was offered and rates did I finally get replies.
Been poonin ever since
No one is mentioning the reality here- there are much different scenarios.
When starting communication with, say, a more well reviewed, independent, "mid-higher end SP" (insert other descriptors as necessary) then a more formal and detailed intro should be considered. Also- read her ad thoroughly for any specific contact instructions. Get a feel for her character. Understand her outlook.
Alternatively, when reaching out to AMPs, MPs, Micros and "lesser SPs" (insert other descriptors as necessary) a less formal approach should be taken. These rendezvous are typically less personal and more "production line" for lack of a better term. Simply asking for rates and services is much more acceptable. Most AMPs don't care what your name is.
Don't complicate the matter with overly verbose introductions either way. Short, sweet, polite and respectful always works. Just as in a face to face personal exchange.
When starting communication with, say, a more well reviewed, independent, "mid-higher end SP" (insert other descriptors as necessary) then a more formal and detailed intro should be considered. Also- read her ad thoroughly for any specific contact instructions. Get a feel for her character. Understand her outlook.
Alternatively, when reaching out to AMPs, MPs, Micros and "lesser SPs" (insert other descriptors as necessary) a less formal approach should be taken. These rendezvous are typically less personal and more "production line" for lack of a better term. Simply asking for rates and services is much more acceptable. Most AMPs don't care what your name is.
Don't complicate the matter with overly verbose introductions either way. Short, sweet, polite and respectful always works. Just as in a face to face personal exchange.
For well-reviewed/mid-higher end sp, their website has all the info you need to start your first introduction with respect. It's just when I'm trying to see sp on leolist, at least i thought they might like a respectful client, but I guess they prefer volume over quality.
